MindUtopia
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So my husband and I have been trying to plan a visit to his mum and her partner to break the news that we're expecting for quite some time. We would have liked to tell them a long time ago, but I wanted to tell my family first (they live in the U.S. and I wasn't seeing them until 8 weeks). Since I got back we've been trying to find a weekend to go down and visit my MIL and my husband's family (they live about an hour and a half from us, so it's usually a weekend long visit).
Well, we were supposed to go down last weekend for Sunday lunch, but my MIL called us on Saturday because she had come down with a stomach bug and was sick. So we re-scheduled for this coming weekend to give her some time to recover (and frankly, because I wanted to avoid getting sick). She just called today (5 days later) and is still sick but starting to feel better. Her GP said it's some form of gastroenteritis, which basically just means a viral or bacterial stomach infection. I work in the public health research field and have a background in epidemiology, so I know enough about infectious diseases (that's what I specialize in) to know it could be several things, the most common being a norovirus. Well, if it's a norovirus, she'll still be infectious even a few days after she gets better, maybe as long as 2 weeks later. It's making me really nervous. My husband really wants to go. He doesn't think it's a big deal, especially as we'll be staying at his grandpa's house and not even with my MIL and her partner (though they'll be there as well, so lots of close contact and she is preparing dinner for us). But I know how easy it is to get that sort of infection and that it would be really bad for baby if I got sick.
I feel like I'm being such a 'debby downer' and an asshole for re-scheduling again. But it's making me really nervous. I know probably in the end when she actually understands why she won't take it too personally, but still, it doesn't make me feel any better right now. I just feel like a big overly cautious, overreacting jerk who is being mean to her MIL.
Well, we were supposed to go down last weekend for Sunday lunch, but my MIL called us on Saturday because she had come down with a stomach bug and was sick. So we re-scheduled for this coming weekend to give her some time to recover (and frankly, because I wanted to avoid getting sick). She just called today (5 days later) and is still sick but starting to feel better. Her GP said it's some form of gastroenteritis, which basically just means a viral or bacterial stomach infection. I work in the public health research field and have a background in epidemiology, so I know enough about infectious diseases (that's what I specialize in) to know it could be several things, the most common being a norovirus. Well, if it's a norovirus, she'll still be infectious even a few days after she gets better, maybe as long as 2 weeks later. It's making me really nervous. My husband really wants to go. He doesn't think it's a big deal, especially as we'll be staying at his grandpa's house and not even with my MIL and her partner (though they'll be there as well, so lots of close contact and she is preparing dinner for us). But I know how easy it is to get that sort of infection and that it would be really bad for baby if I got sick.
I feel like I'm being such a 'debby downer' and an asshole for re-scheduling again. But it's making me really nervous. I know probably in the end when she actually understands why she won't take it too personally, but still, it doesn't make me feel any better right now. I just feel like a big overly cautious, overreacting jerk who is being mean to her MIL.