Babies due in JUNE!
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Ellie Bellie
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Sunshine - What a great pic! Glad to hear everything went well! Hooray!
on your baby doing a Sunshine12
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Awww thanks so much everyone. I have to say my worrying has dispersed somewhat now (I was a bit of a wreck at times before I saw baba.) It was the cutest thing when he/she tried to suck her thumb. I cried. Ive also lost 7 pounds in weight since I got weighed a couple of weeks ago. Think its been due to the morning sickness but I dont mind as I was a bit heavier than I wanted to be anyway!
Who is next up for a scan?? I love seeing everyones piccies. x
Who is next up for a scan?? I love seeing everyones piccies. x
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I understand about the worrying. They say it never stops! I had my u/s on wednesday and I started to worry again later that day!
Ayway, I have to complain and I can only do it here because my friends and sisters dont really need to know this about my OH, but with u guys it's pretty safe.
So OH comes here and I havent seen him since the week of My IUI which was for a week, during the week of Sept 18. Can you imagine I am only 11 weeks prego and he just cant seem to have sex....? I can understand if my belly was huge, but really.... i tried to explain how nothing would get up there near the baby (mucus plug and all) but that didnt help. My OH thinks way too much about things when it comes to sex.
Even when we were trying, if he found out it was fertile time, he wouldnt be able to perform. (He also hates porn....!)
So maybe I shared too much, but I needed to get some thoughts on this. he is leaving tomorrow and I will see him next at the end of december.
Oh, almost forgot.... After the ultrasound, he admitted that he didnt like the ultrasound, but couldnt give me a good explanation. i asked if it freaked him out and he said no. Something along the lines that the only thing it does is provide reassurance. (so whats wrong with that?and how could he not be excited to see the little baby growing, that he helped create?). I'm not feeling too positive about his behavior.
Insight is all that is wanted, not criticism. If you have any insight to anything i've mentioned, I'd appreciate it! xox.
Damn its already sunday.....
Ayway, I have to complain and I can only do it here because my friends and sisters dont really need to know this about my OH, but with u guys it's pretty safe.
So OH comes here and I havent seen him since the week of My IUI which was for a week, during the week of Sept 18. Can you imagine I am only 11 weeks prego and he just cant seem to have sex....? I can understand if my belly was huge, but really.... i tried to explain how nothing would get up there near the baby (mucus plug and all) but that didnt help. My OH thinks way too much about things when it comes to sex.
Even when we were trying, if he found out it was fertile time, he wouldnt be able to perform. (He also hates porn....!)
So maybe I shared too much, but I needed to get some thoughts on this. he is leaving tomorrow and I will see him next at the end of december.
Oh, almost forgot.... After the ultrasound, he admitted that he didnt like the ultrasound, but couldnt give me a good explanation. i asked if it freaked him out and he said no. Something along the lines that the only thing it does is provide reassurance. (so whats wrong with that?and how could he not be excited to see the little baby growing, that he helped create?). I'm not feeling too positive about his behavior.
Insight is all that is wanted, not criticism. If you have any insight to anything i've mentioned, I'd appreciate it! xox.
Damn its already sunday.....
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Hi Sadie
Sorry you are feeling a bit shit just now hun. We havent had sex since we conceived either We have spoken about it and he has said that he doesnt know if he wants to (or even can) because he would feel weird about doing it knowing that the baby is inside me, even moreso since he saw the scan. I think the majority of men probably dont have any issues with it but Im sure there are alot who do. He also said that when I have my bump he wont want to either so you should perhaps prepare yourself for that just incase your partner feels the same. When we decided to start trying he told me not to make too much of a big deal about when I was ovulating because if he felt like he was being pressured he wouldnt be able to perform. I think some men are more sensitive about stuff like that than others. I think you should explain to him again how you feel about it and that you still have needs and wants, particularly as he is away so much.
I can understand why you are upset about his reaction to the ultrasound. I cant really comment on that as not in same situation.
Sorry you are feeling a bit shit just now hun. We havent had sex since we conceived either We have spoken about it and he has said that he doesnt know if he wants to (or even can) because he would feel weird about doing it knowing that the baby is inside me, even moreso since he saw the scan. I think the majority of men probably dont have any issues with it but Im sure there are alot who do. He also said that when I have my bump he wont want to either so you should perhaps prepare yourself for that just incase your partner feels the same. When we decided to start trying he told me not to make too much of a big deal about when I was ovulating because if he felt like he was being pressured he wouldnt be able to perform. I think some men are more sensitive about stuff like that than others. I think you should explain to him again how you feel about it and that you still have needs and wants, particularly as he is away so much.
I can understand why you are upset about his reaction to the ultrasound. I cant really comment on that as not in same situation.
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Wow. Thanks sunshine. 
Yours sounds just like mine in the sex department. Glad I am not alone... Well, not really. It would be better if everyone was having sex except me.
Yours sounds just like mine in the sex department. Glad I am not alone... Well, not really. It would be better if everyone was having sex except me.
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Sadie - There's NOTHING to judge in anything you've written. Just know that you're definitely not alone in any of this!
DH and I haven't had sex since the BFP either. Some of it is because I haven't been feeling great, but DH also seems wary of my stomach. When we were TTC, DH seemed less interested in sex because of it being specifically tied to having a baby. He was worried about being little more than a sperm donor, which certainly helped to quash any romantic feelings. (Sounds similar to your OH tending to over think things!) There's a lot of stress around the baby-process and I think guys don't always know how to talk about it, especially with the stereotype that they're "supposed" to be up for sex at any time, under any condition.
I could sort of understand OH not being excited about the ultrasound and viewing it as a reassurance more than anything. It *might* show if there's a problem but it doesn't guarantee that there aren't any problems. (Another version of over-thinking and worrying.) While it can be exciting to see the baby, it can also be a reminder of all the possible risk involved with pregnancy - both to the baby and to you. My DH is a world-class worrier and sees every doctor's appointment as an opportunity for more bad news.
Perhaps with OH being apart from you during the pregnancy to date he's feeling more nervous/worried/anxious/scared and doesn't know how to share that with you? My DH is worrying about every twinge and upset that he can't do anything to keep me safe or make me feel better. I've had a stitch in my right side for about a day and he's ready to take me to the emergency room every time I wince. (I convinced him to wait until tomorrow's appointment with the OB.)
HUGS!
DH and I haven't had sex since the BFP either. Some of it is because I haven't been feeling great, but DH also seems wary of my stomach. When we were TTC, DH seemed less interested in sex because of it being specifically tied to having a baby. He was worried about being little more than a sperm donor, which certainly helped to quash any romantic feelings. (Sounds similar to your OH tending to over think things!) There's a lot of stress around the baby-process and I think guys don't always know how to talk about it, especially with the stereotype that they're "supposed" to be up for sex at any time, under any condition.
I could sort of understand OH not being excited about the ultrasound and viewing it as a reassurance more than anything. It *might* show if there's a problem but it doesn't guarantee that there aren't any problems. (Another version of over-thinking and worrying.) While it can be exciting to see the baby, it can also be a reminder of all the possible risk involved with pregnancy - both to the baby and to you. My DH is a world-class worrier and sees every doctor's appointment as an opportunity for more bad news.
Perhaps with OH being apart from you during the pregnancy to date he's feeling more nervous/worried/anxious/scared and doesn't know how to share that with you? My DH is worrying about every twinge and upset that he can't do anything to keep me safe or make me feel better. I've had a stitch in my right side for about a day and he's ready to take me to the emergency room every time I wince. (I convinced him to wait until tomorrow's appointment with the OB.)
HUGS!
Mly hubby and I just had sex this week for the first time since BFP. He had performance issues when I was o'ing too. He said I was putting too much pressure on him! Lol! This time it is more me who is scared/too tired. Also, I already gained 6 pounds and am 30 pounds overweight, so I feel like a bloated cow-not too sexy for sure!
Last pregnancy I was a bit ofa horn dog (that was before my weight gain and my loss at 23 weeks). I guess every one and every pregnancy is different.
I had my ultrasound last week, and everything looks good. My dr wants me to stay on baby aspirin and drop my metformin from 2000mg to 1000 mg a day. My next appt/scan is on Dec 20. Hopefully we will find out if we Are having a boy or girl! I am on team blue!!
Good luck ladies! I am praying for all of you!!
Last pregnancy I was a bit ofa horn dog (that was before my weight gain and my loss at 23 weeks). I guess every one and every pregnancy is different.
I had my ultrasound last week, and everything looks good. My dr wants me to stay on baby aspirin and drop my metformin from 2000mg to 1000 mg a day. My next appt/scan is on Dec 20. Hopefully we will find out if we Are having a boy or girl! I am on team blue!!
Good luck ladies! I am praying for all of you!!
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Awww, thanks girls. Good to know my OH isnt completely out of his mind.....
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Wow. Thanks sunshine.
TBH Im not bothered about it as I have no sex drive whatsoever (thankfully) but you are definately not alone!! Im sure its quite common but not alot of people admit it or talk about it. xx
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:wave: to first-time Mommies not having much 
. My first time around, DH and I went through much the same issues about worrying about hurting baby, but some reviews of the female anatomy showed me that we'd have to do a lot to poke the LO. Then, when my bump showed up- it was like errrrmmm, don't want baby hearing all that- but I went hmmm, well the baby hears everything else (including me going to the bathroom), and is natural. However, we still kept down the volume 
Take small steps atta time.
. My first time around, DH and I went through much the same issues about worrying about hurting baby, but some reviews of the female anatomy showed me that we'd have to do a lot to poke the LO. Then, when my bump showed up- it was like errrrmmm, don't want baby hearing all that- but I went hmmm, well the baby hears everything else (including me going to the bathroom), and is natural. However, we still kept down the volume Take small steps atta time.
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Wait! Here is an even better one!! OH swears that IUI's are a complete joke and do nothing. 'please we didnt get pregnant because the doctor squirted some sperm up there". Ok. Whatever. He definitely is old fashioned.
Side note, i had pregnancy rage on the subway this afternoon. A guy refused to take his bookbag of the seat to make room for me so i had to squeeze in and be up against the pole, net to him of course. I continued to tell him off and was as rude as I have ever been in my life. It made me more relaxed tho otherwise i would have been fuming forever. Ppl on the train even asked him to make space and he just wouldnt. Ass.
Side note, i had pregnancy rage on the subway this afternoon. A guy refused to take his bookbag of the seat to make room for me so i had to squeeze in and be up against the pole, net to him of course. I continued to tell him off and was as rude as I have ever been in my life. It made me more relaxed tho otherwise i would have been fuming forever. Ppl on the train even asked him to make space and he just wouldnt. Ass.
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Are any of you showing yet? I was really bloated previously then it went away but as of today I look really big and its a hard bump rather than just swelling. I went to see my parents today and my mum almost choked on her cup of tea when I took my coat off because I look like Im about 5 months pregnant. Im a size 10 (UK) on the bottom so maybe its more enhanced because everything else is quite little. Just wondering if anyone else is massive? Piccies would be good!!! I might post one if I get the courage later this week! x
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I look like i am 5 months preggers too! I cant post a pic yet. I dont like how it looks.....maybe in another week or so! but I blame it on my relaxed stomach muscles that caused my always there since I was 10 yrs old belly to pop out!
ps. i was really quite calm when i told him off. It was comedic.
ps. i was really quite calm when i told him off. It was comedic.
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I'm definitely showing a belly and have for the last week or so. I've been taking belly shots each week since the BFP to track the growth. Once I get some of them off the camera, I'll post a couple to share. I was a size 4/6 (US) before pregnancy and quite muscular - not sure if this has anything to do with showing earlier. I do know I'm not following the strict weight-training diet I used to, so I attribute a lot of my belly to burgers and fries instead of baby. 
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belly shots?? Like with tequila salt and lime?? Hee hee. Couldnt resist! The imagery was great!
Ellie, are you back at the gym??
Ellie, are you back at the gym??
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Speaking of lime/salt..I went to the movies yesterday and I had a pickle with a box of Reese's pieces and water. Like when did theaters start doing pickles??? Well, thank God they did...it hit the spot for me. LOL. 
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What a combo! I love pickles and reeses pieces. The m&m peanut ones are good too! What did u see?
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