babies father?

[Lunabelle33]

Kay, well I dont know if you all know my story but if you do wanna know...Just ask So I found out on the fourth I found out I am having a boy. Now when we broke ties he said he wanted to know what was going on with the baby. He has not even tried to contact me at all. My friend was even talking to him and he never even asked how the baby was doing. Now here lies my problem...Should I even tell him the sex? Its like he dont wanna put in any effort.

 

[sue_88]

I told my LGs 'dad' that she was a girl, he couldn't be bothered to reply so I didn't bother after that, including not telling him when she was born. The only time he decided to contact me was when the maintenance paperwork went through his door!

 

[Lunabelle33]

I just don't want to be bothered I feel like if he had wanted to know he would have contacted me at least once.

Luckily the guy I am with now is so supportive its sweet

 

[NKL120309]

I wouldn't! FOB didnt even know gender until I was talking about it on the only time he actually took a minute to call and see how we were doing. If he cannot go out of his way why should you.

 

[teal]

I wouldn't go out my way to contact him. He knows where you are

 

[Jennaxo]

I updated FOB throughout my pregnancy even though he wasn't really interested, just so I knew I'd done everything I could then the ball was in his court and it couldn't be held against me.

 

[Dezireey]

It's up to you hunny. The only reason I informed my ex ( he never responded) about sex of baby, labour etc etc was because I thought it would make good evidence in the future if he ever tried to get access. I have kept all e-mails and texts, just in case. It shows that you did your best to involve him and it's him that has been the arsehole about it all.

 

[Lunabelle33]

I just know if I make first contact a fight will come out of it. Or he will pine for me to get back with him for the sake of the baby...Which is not happening at all

 

[Mummy1995]

I would tell him. It'll look better on you. The moment he starts arguing, stop talking. Make sure he knows you are only prepared to speak to him when it concerns your baby. Congrats on having a boy xx

 

[daneuse27]

Congrats on your little boy

I was going to say right away not to bother telling him, but now I think that Dezireey and Mummy1995 have made some excellent points and they're absolutely right.