Baby Last Name Help!

[Chandra426]

We are not married, and as of right now, I don't know if we ever will be. But we are together....it's weird I guess. So, my question is this~

What is truly easier ? My last name or his?

My whole family is very admitt about my last name if we are not married, and I mentioned it to him, and he got pretty huffy. We are talking about it tonight, and I just don't know what to do!!

 

[BeckaJayne]

I told my now husband if we weren't married before the baby came then she would have my name as i didn't want to have a different name to my baby so we brought our wedding forward.
You could always give the baby your name then obviously it'll change when you get married but if you give the baby your partners name then you wouldn't be able to change it and im sure it will be up to your partner if you ever what to give your child your name.
Its really your personal choice

 

[lola84]

I think I would give my baby DFs name even if we weren't married - but I guess it's just personal choice.

 

[Amygdala]

Can baby have both your surnames? I don't think this is possible in the UK but maybe it is where you are? If not, personally I would give LO my name, I would NEVER want to have a different name from my own child. If OH wants the child to have his name, then he'd have to marry me (but obviously I don't know if you want to marry him). Do you see yourself staying with him in the long term?

 

[AHB238]

My Lo has both our names, mine first then DP's, we thought about it being hyphenated but decided not to because when we do eventually get married I will have the same name as Grace but we will just use DP's surname. Thought it would be easier to drop a name and just use it on paperwork if it's not hyphenated.

Plus wanted to keep my surname as my brother has 3 girls, so if we ever have a boy... my surname will continue, otherwise it will die out...

x x x x

 

[suzanne108]

I was all set to give my baby the fathers surname - until he left me!!

Believe me I thought we were together forever and all was good. We had been happily making plans.

So you just never know whats gonna happen....I'm just glad that I hadn't already had the baby and used his surname.

Like someone else says, maybe give the baby your surname then change it when/if you ever get married?

And I'm not saying that all relationships are doomed like mine lol, and you will probably live happy ever after....but just think about it carefully because you just never know.

x x

 

[Chandra426]

Can baby have both your surnames? I don't think this is possible in the UK but maybe it is where you are? If not, personally I would give LO my name, I would NEVER want to have a different name from my own child. If OH wants the child to have his name, then he'd have to marry me (but obviously I don't know if you want to marry him). Do you see yourself staying with him in the long term?

I do see us staying together long-term. I am sure he's the one, I think he just needs to see it. Men take a little bit longer sometimes, but I will say he is being very supportive and is happy.

 

[xJG30]

Thomas took mine and i'm so glad

 

[DizzyMoo]

Personally unless married i'd never give my child another persons name as last, As you can't change it without his permission. I want my children to have my name

My son has my name & bump will also have my name, Who said they had to have their fathers name anyway!! God it so annoys me when men assume baby will take their name GRR. Don't let family or friends influence you hun but you need to decide for yourselves, Defo talk it through with him though hun x

 

[Amygdala]

I am sure he's the one, I think he just needs to see it.

Please don't take this the wrong way, I really don't mean to offend, but this sounds to me like you're not entirely sure you two will stay together. If there's even a shred of doubt, I would never ever give my child a different name from myself.

 

[XxXBubsXxX]

Is double barrel an option? You can choose whatever surname you like for the baby it doesnt even have to be one of yours or your partners. Me and my now hubby had our daughter after being together for 8 years, she took his name even thou i knew we would be together forever i didnt care if we were married or not. But after 10 years together we decided to wed and our daughter was bridemaid when she was 2. You could always just change your name by deed poll to his surname if you dont want all the hastle of different names (£50 at a soliciter) but dont want the expense of a wedding.

xxx

 

[suzanne108]

I am sure he's the one, I think he just needs to see it.

Please don't take this the wrong way, I really don't mean to offend, but this sounds to me like you're not entirely sure you two will stay together. If there's even a shred of doubt, I would never ever give my child a different name from myself.

I have to agree with this person xx