ambertwogood
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Okay, so I'm 31 weeks, due the beginning of February. My life has had a lot changes in the past year and unfortunately that has also meant cutting a very significant number of girl friends. My sister is not around, my best friend lives in another state, as well as majority of my immediate and extended family. Leaving, only my mother to throw a baby shower. Unfortunately, my mother is the type that kind of sees everything that is not directly helping her as an inconvenience or using her time. She also has custody of my sisters daughter who we found out last year has a terminal cancer she's 9, and this creates a huge burden and lots of trips out of state for her treatment. My mom is also of the school that baby showers are done like two to three weeks previous to the due date!!! Scream! This is my first child and on top of that my life has had a complete overhaul this year and I am quite literally starting over with nothing at 27 years old. I just moved into a home that to say the least needs extensive work done and I have hardly anything to put in it. Like barely have dishes at this point. Not to mention that SO is the only one working and we have a very limited income BC of this so are not able to just go purchase what it is needed all at once or even remotely in a short period of time. Getting the work done on the house and furnishing as well as preparing for the first LO is going to take us the better part of a year to pay for. As well as paying off debts and getting a car and licenses back. To say the least, we are overwhelmed with all these pressing issues that have to be taken care of and I feel like I'm running out time. When I spoke to my mother about the shower back in September she said that she thought she would do it towards the end of Jan or early February. I'm terrified. I thought the shower should of been done late October or early November to avoid the holidays and peoples financial crunches and thought that doing it I. January would be bad BC people still haven't recovered from Xmas and I feel like its too close to my due date. I feel like I can't properly prepare for the baby BC I don't want to purchase things that will be gifted at my shower, but I also feel like I can't possibly be ready for baby to come if I do t just buy the stuff. Not to mention the issue that I could possibly have the lo before I even have a shower and if I don't then I don't feel like I will have enough time to purchase everything that wasn't gifted to me BC of our limited financial situation. I just don't know what to do. To top it off, my mom has to take my niece to Baltimore the third week of January for scans and every time they go its not promised that she will be cleared to return home BC we can't predict whether all will be well and she won't need additional treatment..... I feel like i just have to wait this out. How can I be demanding about something that is supposed to left to someone else to plan. The other issue is that pretty much everyone that would come to my showed if they were here lives out of state so I don't even know how you could put together a shower with almost no one actually being able to Be there. My great grandmother passed away this week so majority of the family that lives out of state will be here next week for the funeral, is it inappropriate to make my mother plan an impromptu shower for a few days After the funeral BC family will be here anyways? Please help, I don't even know where to begin to get this okay, and I'm the kind of person who needs to feel prepared. I hate the idea of waiting until baby is almost here to be able to finish everything I need to do....sigh...