HopefulMarla
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I'm not trying to pick a fight but I really don't think that lemongrass was being insensitive, but merely observing that dealing with a lost loved one and a terminally ill child is overwhelming in itself, and that a baby shower might not be at the top of her mother's priority list. Of course she deserves shower and for her baby to be celebrated, we all do, but sometimes tragedy overshadows that, understandably. We're all just trying to help.
You are not seeing my point. Sometimes, especially when someone is stressed out. Or overwhelmed. They just need to vent and be heard. I'm sure the OP knew that her mom was overwhelmed, and the situation was difficult. I'm sure she knew that she is financially responsible for her new child. It doesn't become helpful when people restate the obvious, and can come off pretty condescending. If we want to help each other, we should be encouraging and loving. That doesn't come off that way, and I see It a lot in threads. So I said something. It's fine if it doesn't win me popularity points. That's not why I said it. I said it because people don't realize it, and how is it suppose to change if no one knows it's happening? You don't have to agree with me, but I think it would be pretty silly to not even see my side of that. Just a little bit. I've had it happen to me. I'll post something, and people will take it wayyyyyy out of context, and almost be rude because they think I'm saying something im not. It's not helpful. I don't see how someone couldn't see that, that's not helpful. She is the most aware of the situation.