Baby update, results are in

[AlwaysPraying]

I figured this could have a thread of it's own. They phoned today with the genetics results today. I wasn't sure what to expect. It's Trisomy 13. I was shocked, and saddened. It's a rare genetic mix up where baby gets three #13 chromosomes. It results in many greatly terrible defects, both physical and mental. The head may be deformed, limbs deformed, heart, brain and urinary problems. Many of these babies miscarry in the 2nd term I've learned. Many go on to birth, 80% won't live through the first day.

It's an answer. The only other choice was a detrimental renal problem, as all they saw physically was an enlarged bladder. The woman told me today that the other issues are going to come for certain, they just aren't able to see them yet.

I suppose on one hand it's good. We have an answer and don't need to wait any longer. We are going to terminate as soon as possible. Not for lack of love of baby but for the health of baby and mom. I'm sickened by it all. They say it's just a genetic mix up, baby just picked up three chromosomes instead of two. There is an extremely rare chance that either of us are carriers of it and it "shouldn't" happen again. It's a 1 in 4,000 occurance, so I have no faith in things that should and shouldn't happen. I'm just snarky about that right now though.

We also went to meet with our priest tonight and he gave the baby last rights and anointed both me and my partner. He was very compassionate and helpful. We named the baby and are confident that Mother Mary will soon take over the care taking of our baby. He said that we need to do three things as parents. Take care of the body, mind and spirit. We can't do anything about the body or mind right now, but we can take care of babies spirit, and we have done that. I feel good about going and would recommend anyone else to do just that as well if they feel intended.

Funny enough, I learned that it was a little boy. I was so sure it was a girl.

I'm fearful for the procedure I need to go through but have faith now that we are making the right decision for the right reasons. Thank you all for your support during this, and I'm sure I'll need much more in the coming weeks.

 

[Sarah88]

Oh honey, I wish there was some way I could help you

 

[nickysdestiny]

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Continue to have faith that God is going to carry you through this and your little boy is safe in His hands. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. You and your family are in my prayers

 

[malpal]

Oh hunny i'm truly sorry that you have to go through this. I cannot begin to imagine how you feel. Hopefully you will get so much support and love to carry you through. Take care xxx

 

[tinadecember]

so terribly sorry to hear the pain you are going through..
xx

 

[dan-o]

So sorry to hear this news

 

[carrieanne]

i am so sorry honey may god give you the strenth to get through this your little boy will always be with you, love to you xxxx

 

[borntobeamum]

Oh Steetheart, I am so sorry, I wish I could help you.

You are brave and you will be stronger than you think, this is the hardest decision you will ever have to make, but it is the right decision for you and anyone who has been through this will respect this. Your angel will grow in in heaven under Gods eye.

He will always be part of you.

If you need to talk over anything about what may happen, please PM me, eveyone has different experiences, but please ask anything you need to.

Sending you so much love and strength at this time.

XXXXXXX

 

[Aidedhoney]

So sorry to hear this honey, have a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes, sending you so much hugs for whats to come over these next few weeks. xxxxxx

 

[Shelby2007]

Thinking of you..

 

[buffycat]

my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.......

 

[babytots]

oh hunni i am so sorry it wasnt better news but pleased you now have a proper diagnosis and have been able to make up your mind on what to do.

i really hope all goes well for you hunni thank you for updating us i'm just so sorry that you are having to go through this sweetheart. we are all here for you whenever you need us. x

 

[orange-sox]

I'm so sorry hun, I'll be thinking of you, OH and baby xxx

 

[roadrunner]

I am terribly sorry for all of your heartache...
((((((hugs))))))

 

[Mishmo76]

Thinking of you. Life is so unfair xx

 

[AlwaysPraying]

Big sigh........

Life is so unfair it's incomprehensible at this moment.

 

[UKMummy]

I am totally gutted for you and your OH. My thoughts are with you both and with your baby.

 

[RobenR]

Our little girl had 45 of the 46 chromosomes, an abnormality called Turner's Syndrome and she would never make it to birth. I understand your pain all too well and can only offer words of strength and encouragement to you to make it through this difficult time.

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Parkep]

Oh hunny im so sorry for all of this. I had a miscarrage at 11 weeks and the baby had trisomy 15, its so hard. I also found out it was a boy. Hun im so sorry if you need anything PM me.

 

[Jem]

I'm so so sorry xxx A friend of mine, her close friend, has just had this happen to her. I'd never even heard of it until it happened to this lady as it is so rare. She lost her baby a couple of weeks back naturally so her decision was taken out of her hands. She was in such turmoil as to what to do. They were going to do a final test to confim but then a scan show her baby had already died. They are very distraught naturally but are battling through. All my love to you xxx