Baby worries! Anyone share same thoughts?

[berry26]

Hi there, I am only new on here, having only recently seriously started thinking about starting a family.

OH and I have been together for 13 years, since we were 17, we have lived together for 5 years and got engaged at christmas.

We are both 30, and reading some of the posts on here, feels quite old, but now that I am seriously thinking about it, I am freaking out that it wont happen, one of us will have something wrong, I also keep thinking that surely, of all the unexpected pregnancies that occur, it would have happened to me at some point over those 13 years!

We havent started actually trying just yet, but it terrifies me when I see the disappointment in some of the posts where it is month after month of waiting.

I think that! we have been together for so long and i cant even say i have had a hint of being pregnant! but everywhere i look at the moment especially on tv, women have 1 night stands and bam they are pregnant! i think we have been brought up with this image, so when you actually start ttc you have no idea that it could take a healthy couple anywhere from a few months to a few years tc!

Comming on here has scared me a little, but i am trying my best not to freak out or stress as i know that can be bad for ttc. xxx

 

[berry26]

another thing ive found on here is, it can worry me sometimes more than help! lol

I read one thread and think hmm ok, then i read another that says something bad about the same thing, then im like arghhhhh!!!!!!

take pregnacare vit's for example, one thread raves about them, and then another says it causes late ovulation! i then feel very confused and worried!!!!

then angus cactus one thread says it can regulate your cycles but then i googled it and it said some contradicting things about which people it will be good for and which it wont. and said something about black cosh, again this = a very confused me!

xxx

oh and also pregnancy symptoms! i am trying so hard not to try and spot them! as if i dont have one, i am then thinking, does this mean i am not pregnant then? i have to keep telling myself. everyone is different, everyone is different, everyone is different, some women get no symptoms at all!

 

[glowworm00]

Yes I agree! The more I read the more confused and worried I become! My mum keeps telling me to stop worrying but it's hard when you want something so much!
Lets hope we all become mums soon x

 

[TurboTurtle80]

I worry a lot too. Almost to the point that I don't want to try. MC is hard and I tell my mom all the time idk if I can handle that again.

 

[glowworm00]

A few of my friends have had miscarriages and I can't imagine what there going through but I am not going to let that put me off! I really want a baby and can't wait to try in august! X x

 

[glowworm00]

Does anyone know whether you have to ovulate to have a period? X

 

[glowworm00]

Does anyone else think there going crazy? All I can think and talk about is having a baby! My OH thinks I'm obsessed but I'm just so excited and emotional about it all! X

 

[joeybrooks]

Whilst I was at school, not that I was sexually active, but it was drummed into us so much that I thought getting pregnant was possible by getting dried with a towel that had been used by a man!!!!!

Seriously, but I suppose it isnt a bad thing to get young girls to be aware of taking precautions, but had I known this, I would have a lot less stessful times before I wanted kids!

I guess if it is going to be it is going to be. I intend to come off the pill very soon, I do hope that I dont get pregnant right away, as I would like a bit longer to come to terms with the idea of it all as OH and I have only really seriously decided recently that we want to try, it was always just one of those things that went on in my head but I never really thought it would happen.

But, reading how long it can take to get back to normal cycles etc, it is quite scary and I am glad that I am coming off the pill now, rather than leaving it another 6 months and then may it take even longer again to get pregnant!

Phew, there is so much to think about lol.

 

[joeybrooks]

Does anyone else think there going crazy? All I can think and talk about is having a baby! My OH thinks I'm obsessed but I'm just so excited and emotional about it all! X

Tell me about it, my OH thinks I am crazy. I keep talking about it and when he isnt as excited as I am, I pull him up on it and he says "what, we are going to try for a baby, what's to talk about" lol.

Ah to be so chilled out about it.

 

[glowworm00]

Yh it's such an exciting time! Very easy to become obsessed with it! X

 

[berry26]

I wish I could be laid back about it!

 

[glowworm00]

Me too! I'm inpatient as it is! I want one now!! X