wildwoodrose
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Hello, I am new here and grateful to have a place to talk about this, even though I know there are no 100% answers until I have further bloodwork done.
Both of us are 40. When we met we each had three children. His are now 15, 12 and 6; mine are now 19, 18 and 12. In June 2010 we had a son together when I was 37. He was a complete surprise and totally uneventful pregnancy.
All my children have been born c section. All have been healthy, uneventful pregnancies. My first trimesters I always had minimal nausea (usually just a kind of "blech" feeling off and on all day) but no particularly extreme tiredness, reactions to smells, early showing, etc.
Last fall we decided to try to have one more (we were going to give it six months) and have my tubes tied during the c section. We started in November. LMP was November 13. By the first week of December I was having MAJOR symptoms - much stronger than all my other pregnancies combined - so it was not a huge surprise when we got our BFP on December 10.
From December 10-25, everything was totally uneventful except that my symptoms were so exaggerated. I could easily sleep 18 out of 24 hours, the slightest unpleasant or strong smell sent me running for a restroom or trashcan, My breasts were extremely swollen and sore. I outgrew my clothes overnight and had to haul out the knit pants and leftover maternity I had from 2010.
We started joking about twins because they do run on the maternal side of my family; plus I'm 40, tall, have multiple previous pregnancies, and all the exaggerated early symptoms, all possible signs of twins.
On Sunday the 30th, I started to have some spotting. In thinking about it, I realized that my symptoms had dissipated some over the past few days, so I went to the ER just to be safe, not really expecting anything serious. Going by my LMP of 11/13 (and my BFP on 12/10), I would have been 6 weeks 6 days. They did a quantitative hcg that they said was 448, and a transvaginal ultrasound which showed a gestational sac 3 mm.
*I want to note - although I realize all women who are afraid they are having a mc would prefer to believe they simply had careless or crappy medical care - I really honestly felt like the PA I was dealing with (I never saw a real Dr) was extremely clueless. She couldn't even tell me what range my hcg SHOULD be. And the mid-20-something kid who did my US was chatting the entire time about New Years plans with the nursing assistant.*
They gave me a Rhogam shot (I'm rh negative), told me I might be having a mc or might not, and to go home and have everything rechecked in a few days (with the usual compassion of ER staff). Unfortunately we are between insurance so it's not as easy as just scheduling with my OB. I found a clinic that can get me in on Monday 1/7 at 2 pm. In the meantime I've just been in the unbearable hell of limbo.
I slept literally all of Monday, Monday night, all day Tuesday. I got up and around for a while Tuesday evening expecting to start pouring blood or having huge cramps any time, and was surprised to find nothing but minor spotting ...and that is all I've had the rest of the week. Spotting that is minor enough to be a waste of a panty liner, and no pain or cramping whatsoever. Since Thursday my symptoms have returned some; aversion to smells, extremely sleepy, sore breasts.
I am going nuts.
I don't know whether I was having twins and lost one, or simply had a silent-ish or missed-ish miscarriage (although 7 weeks seems a little far for that), or whether DH and I managed to mess the dates up beyond comprehension, or if I'm GOING to miscarry and the real fun just hasn't started yet... I'm driving myself insane.
I know that all I can DO is wait to get the results of the second round of tests on Monday, and there simply are no real answers until then. I was just hoping some members might have some similar stories or experiences to share. I know how insanely lucky I've been to have four healthy children before ever having an issue like this, so I am not feeling sorry for myself. I'm just one of those people who really, really hate waiting and have to find something to occupy my mind.
Both of us are 40. When we met we each had three children. His are now 15, 12 and 6; mine are now 19, 18 and 12. In June 2010 we had a son together when I was 37. He was a complete surprise and totally uneventful pregnancy.
All my children have been born c section. All have been healthy, uneventful pregnancies. My first trimesters I always had minimal nausea (usually just a kind of "blech" feeling off and on all day) but no particularly extreme tiredness, reactions to smells, early showing, etc.
Last fall we decided to try to have one more (we were going to give it six months) and have my tubes tied during the c section. We started in November. LMP was November 13. By the first week of December I was having MAJOR symptoms - much stronger than all my other pregnancies combined - so it was not a huge surprise when we got our BFP on December 10.
From December 10-25, everything was totally uneventful except that my symptoms were so exaggerated. I could easily sleep 18 out of 24 hours, the slightest unpleasant or strong smell sent me running for a restroom or trashcan, My breasts were extremely swollen and sore. I outgrew my clothes overnight and had to haul out the knit pants and leftover maternity I had from 2010.
We started joking about twins because they do run on the maternal side of my family; plus I'm 40, tall, have multiple previous pregnancies, and all the exaggerated early symptoms, all possible signs of twins.
On Sunday the 30th, I started to have some spotting. In thinking about it, I realized that my symptoms had dissipated some over the past few days, so I went to the ER just to be safe, not really expecting anything serious. Going by my LMP of 11/13 (and my BFP on 12/10), I would have been 6 weeks 6 days. They did a quantitative hcg that they said was 448, and a transvaginal ultrasound which showed a gestational sac 3 mm.
*I want to note - although I realize all women who are afraid they are having a mc would prefer to believe they simply had careless or crappy medical care - I really honestly felt like the PA I was dealing with (I never saw a real Dr) was extremely clueless. She couldn't even tell me what range my hcg SHOULD be. And the mid-20-something kid who did my US was chatting the entire time about New Years plans with the nursing assistant.*
They gave me a Rhogam shot (I'm rh negative), told me I might be having a mc or might not, and to go home and have everything rechecked in a few days (with the usual compassion of ER staff). Unfortunately we are between insurance so it's not as easy as just scheduling with my OB. I found a clinic that can get me in on Monday 1/7 at 2 pm. In the meantime I've just been in the unbearable hell of limbo.
I slept literally all of Monday, Monday night, all day Tuesday. I got up and around for a while Tuesday evening expecting to start pouring blood or having huge cramps any time, and was surprised to find nothing but minor spotting ...and that is all I've had the rest of the week. Spotting that is minor enough to be a waste of a panty liner, and no pain or cramping whatsoever. Since Thursday my symptoms have returned some; aversion to smells, extremely sleepy, sore breasts.
I am going nuts.
I don't know whether I was having twins and lost one, or simply had a silent-ish or missed-ish miscarriage (although 7 weeks seems a little far for that), or whether DH and I managed to mess the dates up beyond comprehension, or if I'm GOING to miscarry and the real fun just hasn't started yet... I'm driving myself insane.
I know that all I can DO is wait to get the results of the second round of tests on Monday, and there simply are no real answers until then. I was just hoping some members might have some similar stories or experiences to share. I know how insanely lucky I've been to have four healthy children before ever having an issue like this, so I am not feeling sorry for myself. I'm just one of those people who really, really hate waiting and have to find something to occupy my mind.