confuzion
Mommy to Zinny at last!
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Glad you two worked things out
Even though it didn't take THAT long for us to conceive in comparison with a lot of other people (6-7 months in between which we had a loss). It still hurt me finding out others were pregnant, so I like to remind myself of that when speaking to other friends.
I guess it's more difficult for you because you haven't really been in that situation and don't really know how to approach it (though I think you did pretty well). My sister-in-law got pregnant and was due around the same time as me with my loss, and now every time I see her with her big belly I think that's where I would have been. It makes me sad even though I'm already pregnant again.
I don't think her first reaction was a bad one. I think you should be happy that she tried to sound happy for you. She obviously cares about your feelings but can't help her own. Just keep that in mind. Agree with a few others that maybe keep the pregnancy talk to a minimum around her. It's not "pussy-footing", it's just courtesy and consideration. Though I think you've been a good friend thus far. You shouldn't feel bad because she feels bad, but just try not to make her feel worse. I wish you luck.
Congrats on your BFP by the way!
Even though it didn't take THAT long for us to conceive in comparison with a lot of other people (6-7 months in between which we had a loss). It still hurt me finding out others were pregnant, so I like to remind myself of that when speaking to other friends.
I guess it's more difficult for you because you haven't really been in that situation and don't really know how to approach it (though I think you did pretty well). My sister-in-law got pregnant and was due around the same time as me with my loss, and now every time I see her with her big belly I think that's where I would have been. It makes me sad even though I'm already pregnant again.
I don't think her first reaction was a bad one. I think you should be happy that she tried to sound happy for you. She obviously cares about your feelings but can't help her own. Just keep that in mind. Agree with a few others that maybe keep the pregnancy talk to a minimum around her. It's not "pussy-footing", it's just courtesy and consideration. Though I think you've been a good friend thus far. You shouldn't feel bad because she feels bad, but just try not to make her feel worse. I wish you luck.
Congrats on your BFP by the way!