Bad relationship with all my partners

[Mommaofboys]

So..hi I am 18 and have 3 sons.

When I was 14 I had Harrison Oscar,me and the dad were best friends. He brightened up my world and helped me when I was sad then when I had Harry he left.

I then met another man called James and we had Blake Alexander,he didnt care about the fact Blake was ill and his heart wasnt working properly. He is now married and has adorable twins! Two girls Alexis and Alexandria .
Me and him are NOT on good terms.

Than about a year ago my old best friend (not Harry's dad) we were fine until one stupid night where we conceived George. Well he's only 5 months now he was with me until a few weeks ago when he hit me .

Well I wondered if anyone had like problems like this or anything. Don't think I'm a slut or what not cos I have 3 boys from separate dads,I thought they were all the one. Now I'm not having s3x until marriage.

 

[Lissa3120]

I am 19 and I have 2 kids with different dads.

My daughters dad FOB1 wasn't a bad relationship, just a bad situation at a bad time and we both went into it blinded by naivety. However 3 years later we are on great terms and are building back a friendship and although he's still quite new on the scene he does seem willing to pull his weight where necessary regarding our daughter.

As for my sons father, everything about us and our relationship was bad news, so he was a massive mistake and the only thing i'm grateful for with that, is our son. Whom he does nothing for, just threatens me with court and such like, and expects me to do everything for our son and he just wants in on the good bits. he's changed 2 nappies in 18 months (more than some, i know) and bought one pack of nappies, which were the wrong size (although greatly appreciated at the time) so things aren't on great terms with him, but amicable and civil enough to make life easier than it was, but not as easy as it could be.

I am with a new partner now (been together 1 year now) and i'm really happy and settled and hopefully in him i've found my happily ever after (not without its struggles though) and the kids fathers can both play a proactive and positive role in their lives and in the future be a source of support for me and the kids as well as real father figures.

I'm sorry you've had bad luck with guys so far, but there are good guys out there, who will love you and your kids for who you all are, and they'll come to accept that the kids have their fathers, but that doesnt always have to be a negative thing

Nobody will think your a slut you're very brave and strong for being able to be a single mum to 3 at the age of 18

hopefully all works out for you and best wishes for the future

 

[Mummy1995]

Wow is all I can say! No advice but way to go mumma! You're 18 (my age) and have 3 boys?! I can barely cope with my little girl! You must be some sort of super mum!! Hugs! Someone will come when you least expect them to x

 

[letdoit]

Firstly, I WOULD LIKE TO SEND MY HUGS TO YOU.....

I am sorry about how you feeling but do not feel like you are a slut. These kind of things happen to anyone. I am 32 and was in a relationship with a guy , engaged and believed that he was the love of my life. One day , I got home and realised that he has packed all his belongings. These things happen and its not about the age ,........

I am sure the right guy will come around one day , just keep your heard high up.


xxxx

 

[Dream.dream]

I hope this doesn't come off offensively as Ive had very relationship I've had end badly as well .

You may be part of the problem in ye sense that something in you is attractive to bad men, might be bit of low self esteem or maybe something about how you act in relationships but it might be worth taking to a counsellor to figure out why this keeps happening . Or even just to see if maybe there is a different approach to relationships you could take so it doesn't happen again ?