BD every other day theory...fail

[hello_kitty]

I know its rather common for couple to bd every other day to ttc. That was what hubby and I discussed also but we have found it hard to keep up with. Instead of bd every other day, hubby and I found it more manageable when we bd every 3 days, its kind of mutual because I get too tired also to stick with the every other day rule. Here is my question: scientifically, the sperm will stay in the women's body for 5 days, why cant we just bd every 5 days then instead of every other day? Since it only takes one sperm to get pregnant. Thats what I always tell myself when we fail to bd every other day. Is there actually a benefit from bd every other day? I know this sounds stupid, I'm just a little confused about sperm living up to 5 days and yet sources say its good to bd every other day. Yesterday I had an increased in cm, something that I have never seen before not even with my last pregnancy which ended up in a m/c, yet I still failed to bd because I was feeling to sick...I have been feeling very, very nauseous, and sore boobs. I know Im supposed to be jumping up and down but I dont want to get my hopes up too high. Hubby and I planned to bd tonight after taking a break for 2 days. If I had sex on the 13th and ovulated yesterday do you think that is enough to get me pregnant? I still have cm today but its not as much as yesterday morning. Thanks!

 

[LuluSS]

Last cycle, I DTD every other day the whole cycle and it didn't work for me. Not saying that it won't work for others. But maybe just BD every few days, and then around O, BD 3 nights in a row, if you can.

This cycle, me and DH will BD every other day the whole cycle and then every day the week of O.

Good luck!

 

[munchkinlove]

bding everyother day is i agree hard to keep up with ....the hubby and i just started last week....and im not even due to ovulate until a week from tuesday.........i guess that means we only have 4 more days of bding to go then hopefully its ovulation day and then im sure that will be hard to keep up with as well as we plan on doing it on ovulation day and the next 3 after that. So i completely understand how hard it is to keep up. As far as bding well ejaculating everyother day ive heard and read this is the best thing as it keeps the sperm supply healthy, the longer a man goes(3 days or more..so ive read) with out ejaculating the less fresh his boys are, so with this said, masturbation or a BJ can also relive some of the stress off of bding everyother day but also keep the sperm nice and healthy at the same time.......of course you want to make sure that the days he might be masturbating etc arent your fertile days. My husband and i bd'd on day 4 of my cycle and TMI he got a bj on day 6 and today is day 8 and we bd'd today.......even though sperm can live up to five days fresher sperm is the best, as it may not be as fresh and as fast after hanging around for five days thus taking the chance it will be to slow and miss its chance once your egg releases......i hope this helps!!!!! good luck

 

[munchkinlove]

Last cycle, I DTD every other day the whole cycle and it didn't work for me. Not saying that it won't work for others. But maybe just BD every few days, and then around O, BD 3 nights in a row, if you can.

This cycle, me and DH will BD every other day the whole cycle and then every day the week of O.

Good luck!

we are doing the same bding everyother then on ovulation and 3 days after...how long have you been trying?

 

[WGP0909]

that is kind of a myth.. there is no set time sperm can live in a women. and they only live that long when they get to the Fallopian tubes. most sperm die when going through the cervix, and the rest die in the uterus approaching the Fallopian tubes. there are only few sperm that reach the tubes, so if an egg is not shortly present, sperm will also die. every other day can be too little as well. a women should be bding once every 24 hrs. unless hubby has low count or motility to ensure that sperm will be in the tubes once an egg arrives. the less you bd, your chances of conceiving decreases. if your man has low count or motility, bding every other day or more will strongly decrease your chances. GL!!

 

[LuluSS]

Last cycle, I DTD every other day the whole cycle and it didn't work for me. Not saying that it won't work for others. But maybe just BD every few days, and then around O, BD 3 nights in a row, if you can.

This cycle, me and DH will BD every other day the whole cycle and then every day the week of O.

Good luck!

we are doing the same bding everyother then on ovulation and 3 days after...how long have you been trying?

We have been trying since July of 2011. I am on CD5 of my 7th cycle. How about you?

 

[munchkinlove]

Last cycle, I DTD every other day the whole cycle and it didn't work for me. Not saying that it won't work for others. But maybe just BD every few days, and then around O, BD 3 nights in a row, if you can.

This cycle, me and DH will BD every other day the whole cycle and then every day the week of O.

Good luck!

we are doing the same bding everyother then on ovulation and 3 days after...how long have you been trying?

We have been trying since July of 2011. I am on CD5 of my 7th cycle. How about you?

I'm on CD #8 and this is our first month of really ttc the last few months we have just been NTNP......so hopefully with our BDing and OPKS we will get a BFP soon!!!!! What have you tried, not tried in the past?

 

[hello_kitty]

bd every other day would be ideal, but I dont know why its so hard especially today I think I am having ovulation pain in my right ovary...dont know if its too late to bd now since I think I am ovulating right this second (with the pain) or should I just sit back and relax and wait for the next 2 weeks?

 

[munchkinlove]

bd every other day would be ideal, but I dont know why its so hard especially today I think I am having ovulation pain in my right ovary...dont know if its too late to bd now since I think I am ovulating right this second (with the pain) or should I just sit back and relax and wait for the next 2 weeks?

It is tough to do it every other day the hubby and I have been working all weekend since Thursday and we both work 12 hour shifts and I work overnight so today was extremely hard to do it as we are both exhausted.....but I feel like I need to just suck it up...and hopefully it will pay off in the end if you think you are ovulating today and can get the engergy to do it today it dosent have to be great sex as my hubby said today it just needed to be done....once you ovulate the egg can live for up to 12 hours so doing it today and tmw would prob increase your chances ......good luck!

 

[LuluSS]

Last cycle, I DTD every other day the whole cycle and it didn't work for me. Not saying that it won't work for others. But maybe just BD every few days, and then around O, BD 3 nights in a row, if you can.

This cycle, me and DH will BD every other day the whole cycle and then every day the week of O.

Good luck!

we are doing the same bding everyother then on ovulation and 3 days after...how long have you been trying?

We have been trying since July of 2011. I am on CD5 of my 7th cycle. How about you?

I'm on CD #8 and this is our first month of really ttc the last few months we have just been NTNP......so hopefully with our BDing and OPKS we will get a BFP soon!!!!! What have you tried, not tried in the past?

I haven't tried much. First cycle we just DTD, second cycle through fourth cycle we just used OPK's and timed BD, fifth cycle we tried a NTNP approach, sixth cycle OPK's and BD every other day the whole cycle until ovulation. That is why I am stepping it up a notch this cycle. I am temping now, using OPK's, quit smoking, will take prenatals, and use preseed. Hopefully this combination works!

I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow due to horrible menstrual pains. I think I might have an ovarian cyst again (had one rupture when I was a teenager). Hopefully it isn't anything interfering with TTC!