BDing in TWW

[peekaboo]

Hi, does anyone know if sex during TWW has any affect on chances of getting a ?? The reason for asking is DH and myself have been TTC since April 08 and never had a sniff of a . We've always had a very active sex life so don't need to 'time it' or anything - we have sex very regularly right the way through my cycle, so in theory should have a good chance (as good a chance as anyone) of getting pregnant.

However, I have read that things like EPO can cause some kind of contractions in the uterus so you shouldn't take it during TWW. So I wondered if the same goes for orgasm?? Could that have a bad effect in the TWW?

It might sound like a really stupid question, but we seem to have tried everything, and I am now plucking at straws IYKWIM.

to all. x

 

[ald]

I havent heard that you shouldnt have within the 2ww, and think you will be fine hun. Have you been to the GP for any tests yet?

 

[peekaboo]

Thanks for the reply. Yes we've been to GP. I've had the initial blood tests which confirmed OV, and hubby has had his SA but we haven't had the results yet. We should be getting them later this week. We've tried all the usual 'tips' such as preseed, legs in air, BDing every other day, EPO, etc etc, but nothing as yet. I don't ever notice EWCM so a bit concerned that that might have something to do with it. Our GP said that once we get the SA results they'll refer us to a fertility specialist.


Hope you don't mind me asking as I can see from your info that you've been trying for a long time. Have you got reasons on why you haven't gotten pregnant so far?

 

[ald]

I have PCOS and need help ovulating, while not on clomid my follicals just dont grow very big either, plus my dh has poor sperm motility, so it is a bit of both of us why we cant get that .

I hope your husbands results come back good, but what I will say if they dont come back as good as expected then please dont worry about it and let it get you down, as the FS likes to see 2 SA to get a true picture of the results, 3 months apart. Generally the 2nd test comes back better then the first as the male can relax a bit more - but like I say I really hope they come back good.

Do you have a regular cycle length? BBT?

 

[peekaboo]

Thanks so much, I will bear that in mind. Its so difficult not to worry isn't it and the longer we are TTC the more I think I worry. There's a part of my mind that doesn't think about TTC as much as I did in the early days as I have less hope of it happening (I think if it hasn't so far then why would it now) but then the other part of me thinks about it a lot and worries that it hasn't happened. When I phoned to get the results of my bloods I was thinking that if it was good I'd be relieved but I came off the phone and cried as I felt as though 'well if everything's ok with me why isn't it happening'?? I know it was stupid to have that reaction but couldn't help it.

I'm sorry to hear that you both have issues, but I can see from your sig that you're getting assistance with conceiving so I will really keep my fingers crossed for you.

As for my cycle its very regular. Bang on 28 days - to within an hour or so of the previous month. The only time it's changed is when I've taken pregnacare and other similar vitamins which has made my cycle two days longer (I think this must be something to do with the B vitamins). As soon as I stop taking them it goes back to 28 days. I'm not sure which is best, but I kind of feel more comfortable at 28 days as I know when to expect AF and don't feel as though I'm wondering why AF is late. Maybe this should be outweighed by the benefits of the vitamins though - I'm not sure. I actually saw a nutritionist a few months ago who said that vitamins should not lengthen a cycle, but should regulate it and the fact that mine had got longer meant it SHOULD be longer, but I'm not sure whether I agree. Because we've started having tests I decided it best to keep off the vitamins unless instructed otherwise as it means I can plan ahead better for any tests and also any 'levels' I have are natural and not affected by vitamins (I just take folic acid).

I haven't ever tried doing temping, just as I didn't want the whole process to become regimented. I couldnt see any point in pinpointing ovulation due to the fact that we have regular BDing anyway, but I do realise there is more to it than that. I mentioned it to my GP and she advised against it as she said it wouldn't increase our chances. I know some people would disagree though and say that it confirms OV etc, but I just didn't want to get too obsessed either IYKWIM.

Sorry for the long answer by the way - I've realised I can waffle when I want to!!!

 

[FBbaby]

Hiya, I just wanted to say that I don't get ewcm (used to, but haven't for years, probably due to on going anti-histamine treatment), that despite the fact I have been taking epo regularly for years now. I do get quite a lot of watery mucus though, which I heard was fertile too. Just in case, I used preseed the first month off the bcp and fell pg (unfortunately miscarried), so ewcm is not a pre-requisite for a bfp.

 

[peekaboo]

Thanks for the reassurance. I get watery stuff too, but usually quite late on in my cycle (after OV I think). I'm usually much 'wetter' (sorry TMI!) in the second half of my cycle than the first. I had blood tests last month though on CD3 and CD21 which confirmed OV so I must ovulate before day 21. I've always assumed its on day 14 as I get shooting pains for a few minutes. I have used preseed before but it didnt work for us, also used Zestica for the last couple of months too. Tried using an instead cup for the first time this cycle, but unfortunately due to being apart for a few days the nearest we got to BDIng round OV time was day 12 and day 13, so missed the crucial day! I wore the instead cup all day of day 13 but got ov pains on day 14 so am guessing we'll have missed it this month. How do people manage it who BD days before OV and still catch the egg???!!!