inpghttc
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Hello ladies...this is going to be a weird post so I apologize ahead of time...However, I just wanted to ask and see if I am the only one hat feels this way. My DH and I have been married for 7 years, known each other for 10 years, and are both 34 years old. We have a very healthy relationship and although of course we sometimes have the occasional spat, we are happy and get along really well. We were unsure that we ever wanted kids up until a year ago when we both, ironically at the same time, decided that we did want to have a family. I went off the pill in June and have been TTC ever since. I just finished my second round of Clomid that was upped to 100 mg because the 50 mg did not help my progesterone levels. I am on the low end of progesterone post ovulation, and nothing else has been found wrong yet. DH still needs to get tested and I have been getting on him about that. Anyway, enough about my background...My question actually has to do with BD'ing. My DH and I don't have very high sex drives. I guess it is due to multiple reasons such as both being busy with work, he is in school for his PhD, we have been together so long, our age, etc...Anyway, DH never has trouble "getting up" to perform, but at times he isn't able to finish. Because of this fact, I try to plan BD'ing painstakingly to the best possible second to get preggo! DH sometimes has trouble with two days in a row and so I try to space it out to every other day. I have been pretty consistantly O'ing around CD13-15, even with the clomid last month and so I plan on BD'ing CD10, 12, and again 13 because DH will be on a work trip on CD14 (ugh!). However, I don't know if this has to do with a lot of ladies on here being young and newly married or in a relationship, but I constantly read posts about people doing the SMEP or something similar where they BD every day or every other day from the day they stop bleeding until af!! That just sounds exhausting to me and impossible to be honest! I guess my question is two fold...First, how does BD'ing during your unfertile period even matter or help (I know sperm can live for 5 days, but I mean the people who BD almost the whole cycle when they are obviously not fertile)? Secondly, is anyone else in my shoes where they just try to time things for the BEST time to get preggo and that may only be 2-3 times during the fertile time and maybe one other time for fun when they are not fertile? Thanks for listening to my rant and I'm curious to hear what you ladies have to say...