Becoming super depressed with TTC

[Kesh89]

So, this cycle is now cycle 6 of ttc, I know people have been trying much longer than myself, but its starting to get really depressing. I've tried everything anyone has ever suggested, Cassava, Soy Isoflavones, Baby Aspirin, etc. Anyone else have any other suggestions? I may give the Soy another chance, but I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. With my first I got pregnant the first try,but of course then I wasn't charting or doing any of that kind of stuff.
Maybe taking a break will help my body get back to normal .. so frustrating

 

[momwithbabies]

I hear ya! This all totally sucks! I was just thinking how much TTC eats away from my life. I think about it ALL THE TIME (even when I know I'm not fertile)! I don't have any answers, but just wanted to let you know I understand. Some women can try non stop for a baby, but I personally have to take breaks or I go crazy!

 

[Kesh89]

Yeah its something I would never wish upon any woman! It's physically and mentally draining! I'm on a wait list to see a fertility specialist, although that could take a year before I see anyone, which I think makes it so much worse. Sorry to hear about your infertility Are you never able to become pregnant again? Or do you have unexplained infertility?

 

[uwfan27]

Hi Kesha, how long have you been trying for this baby? I'm sorry you are really struggling, I am only in cycle #1 and it's already driving me mad! I'm glad you have an appointment with a fertility specialist, it will help ease your mind. I guess I don't have much to add, other than sympathy! Hang in there

 

[FarmersWife5]

Dh and I are on our 4th cycle TTC #1. I actually broke down in tears today. I am very impatient, but im sick of seeing/ hearing all these people accidently become pregnant. This cycle we are using OPKS and trying Pre-Seed. Good luck to you

 

[knitter]

hey I know how you feel this is my fifth cycle of trying and it feels like for ever. I'm beginning to think it will never happen for me. I was in such a state last month that my husband and I decided that this month we wouldn't chart or pay attention to which days are fertile ones. I'm taking royal jelly right now to see if that will help, Holland and Barret recommended it when I asked if they had anything that helped with fertility. I don't know if you are catholic but I am praying to st anne, st gerard, st anthony, st martha and the angels rapheal and gabriel every night, praying makes me feel like i'm doing something. It's a comfort blanket for me x

 

[Jenn2722]

I'm on my 5th cycle and the next cycle I'm gonna try Clomid! I didn't get it through my doc, I went online! 60 pills for around 36 dollars! It helps with ovulation! Can't wait to try it! But good luck to you & stay strong!

 

[ilovegoob]

I have been trying for #1 for 3 years = 36 cycles. I feel your pain and then some.

 

[nolansmom]

Like PP I am going to try clomid that I ordered online next cycle (assuming it gets here on time).. This is my 2nd cycle TTC and I feel like I am doing everything right and timing BD as best I possibly can. Last month AF came early after me having every possible pg/af sign in the book. So I'm not even counting myself "in" this month I'm waiting for the good stuff.

 

[momwithbabies]

Yeah its something I would never wish upon any woman! It's physically and mentally draining! I'm on a wait list to see a fertility specialist, although that could take a year before I see anyone, which I think makes it so much worse. Sorry to hear about your infertility Are you never able to become pregnant again? Or do you have unexplained infertility?

Everything with me is okay (as far as blood tests). I have a pretty regular cycle except for recently (been under stress and trying to lose some weight). My husband takes an antidepressant (he wasn't taking these when we conceived our first two). He has trouble finishing sometimes (although this could be because he know how bad I want #3). I'm really not completely sure what the deal is, but I've been off of BC for over 3 years now and NOTHING! I think my kids are the only reason I'm not completely crazy! I just wish I knew if I should just stop trying and be happy with two or keep it up.

 

[momwithbabies]

hey I know how you feel this is my fifth cycle of trying and it feels like for ever. I'm beginning to think it will never happen for me. I was in such a state last month that my husband and I decided that this month we wouldn't chart or pay attention to which days are fertile ones. I'm taking royal jelly right now to see if that will help, Holland and Barret recommended it when I asked if they had anything that helped with fertility. I don't know if you are catholic but I am praying to st anne, st gerard, st anthony, st martha and the angels rapheal and gabriel every night, praying makes me feel like i'm doing something. It's a comfort blanket for me x

Good idea! I'm Catholic, and other than praying to God, I've said the rosary many times, but I need to add saints to my list. Are any of these saints related to fertility or motherhood?

 

[nolansmom]

hey I know how you feel this is my fifth cycle of trying and it feels like for ever. I'm beginning to think it will never happen for me. I was in such a state last month that my husband and I decided that this month we wouldn't chart or pay attention to which days are fertile ones. I'm taking royal jelly right now to see if that will help, Holland and Barret recommended it when I asked if they had anything that helped with fertility. I don't know if you are catholic but I am praying to st anne, st gerard, st anthony, st martha and the angels rapheal and gabriel every night, praying makes me feel like i'm doing something. It's a comfort blanket for me x

Prayer to St Jude is for a "desperate situation"

https://www.ourcatholicprayers.com/prayer-to-st-jude.html

 

[Kesh89]

I attend Ukrainian Catholic Church with my inlaws as they're catholic! I will soon be baptized into their church so we can get married! Thanks for the advice ladies! I think I'm going to give it a go for one more month and then take a break for a whole and ntnp.

 

[lilly88]

I'm with you all on this. This is our fourth month TTC#1 and it's so heartbreaking. We're using conceive plus this month as I have barely any EWCM ever and I'm also taking EPO to lengthen my fertile period (as DH goes away tomorrow for two weeks and it'll be my CD13). Been BD'ing every day since Saturday as in the past we've only started DTD when the OPKs start to get dark but this might just be too late for us!

Fingers crossed for us all! x

 

[knitter]

yeah st anne and st gerard, there is a novena to st anne that you say for 9 days x

 

[_jellybean_]

Have u tried Preseed?

 

[lilly88]

No I can't seem to get it so I use conceive plus lube which is essentially the same (I hope) and is designed for women who don't get EWCM

 

[Kesh89]

Zestica also works really well, less goopy and sticky