Begining to think..

[courtney89]

I know absolutly nothing about babies. This is my first one. I have worked in the nursery at the hospital once but I dont remember it to well. The things going thru my mind are:

1.how often do you feed them
2.how much do you feed them
3.what size diapers do they wear when they are born
4.when does the umbilical cord (after its been cut) fall off
5.how much is to little for them to eat at each feeding

SEE all of these things. Anyone experienced in this area. I know I seem so stupid right now, but these things have been going thru my mind alot.

 

[Gemie]

Not stupid hun!
Baby will no doubt let you know how much and when to feed also you'll get lots of help at the hospital from the mw/nurses. Also mothers intuition plays a bit part.
Try not to stress over this too much now hun.. you're not the first first time mommy and you own't be the last

 

[courtney89]

Not stupid hun!
Baby will no doubt let you know how much and when to feed also you'll get lots of help at the hospital from the mw/nurses. Also mothers intuition plays a bit part.
Try not to stress over this too much now hun.. you're not the first first time mommy and you own't be the last

Thanks so much

 

[aragornlover8]

I've been having a lot of similar concerns and I think it's totally normal. It's a huge life change, and it's honestly probably better that you're thinking of these things now than having a totally romantic view of motherhood. Now, I'm not saying you *should* worry. I hope this makes sense. When I had my OB consult, the nurse said that a lot of emotional problems that women have after giving birth are often due to an overly "rosy" idea of motherhood in the first place. She said something along the lines of - "It's going to be a wonderful experience but it will also be a lot of work. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can adjust to it and really enjoy motherhood."

I hope that helps!!

 

[ermm23a]

ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me and DH have NEVER EVEN HELD A BABY!!!!!!!

When we got my BFP, we were both so excited, then when the shock wore off, I asked him, so, have you ever held a baby before? and he was all, "no, haven't you?"

We are completely unprepared. I plan on reading a lot of books and relying on friends and family the next year or so.....

 

[courtney89]

I've been having a lot of similar concerns and I think it's totally normal. It's a huge life change, and it's honestly probably better that you're thinking of these things now than having a totally romantic view of motherhood. Now, I'm not saying you *should* worry. I hope this makes sense. When I had my OB consult, the nurse said that a lot of emotional problems that women have after giving birth are often due to an overly "rosy" idea of motherhood in the first place. She said something along the lines of - "It's going to be a wonderful experience but it will also be a lot of work. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can adjust to it and really enjoy motherhood."

I hope that helps!!

No I know its not going to be all rosey and stuff. I know its going to be tough thats why I am thinking about these things now.

 

[Ajisai]

I think it is great that you are thinking ahead. I read books about it while I was pregnant to familialize myself.

 

[aragornlover8]

I've been having a lot of similar concerns and I think it's totally normal. It's a huge life change, and it's honestly probably better that you're thinking of these things now than having a totally romantic view of motherhood. Now, I'm not saying you *should* worry. I hope this makes sense. When I had my OB consult, the nurse said that a lot of emotional problems that women have after giving birth are often due to an overly "rosy" idea of motherhood in the first place. She said something along the lines of - "It's going to be a wonderful experience but it will also be a lot of work. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can adjust to it and really enjoy motherhood."

I hope that helps!!

No I know its not going to be all rosey and stuff. I know its going to be tough thats why I am thinking about these things now.

Yeah, that's what I gathered. I meant that post just as an affirmation really.

 

[courtney89]

I think it is great that you are thinking ahead. I read books about it while I was pregnant to familialize myself.

Any book ideas???

 

[tigs]

I know absolutly nothing about babies. This is my first one. I have worked in the nursery at the hospital once but I dont remember it to well. The things going thru my mind are:

1.how often do you feed them
as a new born - Its about every 3 to 4 hours

2.how much do you feed them
I breastfed - so I have no idea - but it was 5 mins one side - burp 5 mins other side - till my LO stopped asking for food - and she thrived... you dont need to know how much breastmilk you give - so dont stress it - as for formula - it tells you on the side of the pack

3.what size diapers do they wear when they are born
Hum depends on the size of your baby - but I think it will be called 'newborn' - this tiem I intend to use cloth - but thats a whole different story... I seam to remeber being given my first nappy by the hospital.. so Iwouldnt worry too much...

4.when does the umbilical cord (after its been cut) fall off
It took about 10 days if i remember rightly - the mw - checked it - and it was fine

5.how much is to little for them to eat at each feeding
Again - I have no idea because I breastfed - but my LO was content and that is what you go by..


SEE all of these things. Anyone experienced in this area. I know I seem so stupid right now, but these things have been going thru my mind alot.

Try not to worry - I remember going home and thinking what the heck do i do now - but over the first month or so - everything kind of fell into place -and suddenly you seem to be coping well Make sure you stay in touch with friends or family to help you

And remember there are places on teh internet that are your friends

HTH

 

[ermm23a]

What to expect, the first year is supposed to be a good one. I plan on getting it soon.

 

[courtney89]

Awsome thinks so much.

 

[Ajisai]

What to expect, the first year is supposed to be a good one. I plan on getting it soon.

Yes, I have the "what to expect" series for pregnancy and first year. It is fun to read them.

 

[MilosMommy7]

when milo was born i was told to feed him 1oz every 2-3hrs. most newborns wear a newborn size diaper unless they're over 8lbs then they'll probably go quickly into a size 1. milo got bumped up to 2oz when he was like 2 weeks. but you'll know what to do when the baby gets here. it'll be instinct

 

[lisaf]

I plan on reading just as many books about what to do afterwards as what to do while pregnant! I dont' want to get home and wonder 'what now'. Lots of women have their moms stay with them for a week or so but I couldn't stand that, lol so i'm preparing myself to be fine without her.

One big thing is to sleep when the baby sleeps... well.. thats once they're a little older as the newborns sleep all the time, but don't try to use baby naptimes as catch-up time because you'll wear yourself out!
Most hospitals (at least here) have lactation specialists now so they can help you figure out a feeding schedule that will work for your baby's needs.

I worry and think about this all the time too and am hoping the books will prepare me well. Some of my worries are when/how to bathe them, what the latest research shows about back vs. side sleeping etc, and mostly when to do everything, lol... I mean I expect feeding and changing and sleeping will take care of itself, but there is just so much advice out there and a lot of it contradicts itself I'm not sure what to do.

I did buy both my friend's this great book that I wish I had time to read before wrapping for them. They both loved it (only baby book the dad's read all the way through too!).
Its called The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance
https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1283482460&sr=8-1
DH actually has been looking forward to buying it and reading it himself.

Its very practical and is written pretty funny.. the baby is your 'model' and the pediatrician is your 'service provider' etc.
It has useful diagrams for things like swaddling and even different holds for breast feeding etc.

 

[emilyjade]

first of all chick don't worry about anything! babies let you know when they need feeding it will fall into place for you. with my son when he was firstborn he drank 70mls and about 25 for the rest of the evening. its important to burp them imo because my son had so much wind we ended up buying dr brown bottles what help. if you go into any shop what sells Nappies on the packet there's a weight guide and a basic newborn packet goes upto 11 pound so id get a few of them the first few week's are challenging to say the least but soon after everything falls into place x

 

[emilyjade]

Forgot his cord feel off at day 4. some can take a little longer. its important to keep it clean and dry. we cleaned his with cotton wool and pat dryed with a really soft flannel x