Begining to think..

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  1. courtney89

    courtney89 Well-Known Member

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    I know absolutly nothing about babies. This is my first one. I have worked in the nursery at the hospital once but I dont remember it to well. The things going thru my mind are:

    1.how often do you feed them
    2.how much do you feed them
    3.what size diapers do they wear when they are born
    4.when does the umbilical cord (after its been cut) fall off
    5.how much is to little for them to eat at each feeding

    SEE all of these things:cry:. Anyone experienced in this area:shrug:. I know I seem so stupid right now, but these things have been going thru my mind alot:nope:.
     
  2. Gemie

    Gemie Mum to 3

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    Not stupid hun!
    Baby will no doubt let you know how much and when to feed also you'll get lots of help at the hospital from the mw/nurses. Also mothers intuition plays a bit part.
    Try not to stress over this too much now hun.. you're not the first first time mommy and you own't be the last :hugs:
     
  3. courtney89

    courtney89 Well-Known Member

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    Thanks so much:hugs:
     
  4. aragornlover8

    aragornlover8 Well-Known Member

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    I've been having a lot of similar concerns and I think it's totally normal. It's a huge life change, and it's honestly probably better that you're thinking of these things now than having a totally romantic view of motherhood. Now, I'm not saying you *should* worry. I hope this makes sense. :p When I had my OB consult, the nurse said that a lot of emotional problems that women have after giving birth are often due to an overly "rosy" idea of motherhood in the first place. She said something along the lines of - "It's going to be a wonderful experience but it will also be a lot of work. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can adjust to it and really enjoy motherhood."

    I hope that helps!!
     
  5. ermm23a

    ermm23a Well-Known Member

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    ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Me and DH have NEVER EVEN HELD A BABY!!!!!!!

    When we got my BFP, we were both so excited, then when the shock wore off, I asked him, so, have you ever held a baby before? and he was all, "no, haven't you?"

    We are completely unprepared. I plan on reading a lot of books and relying on friends and family the next year or so.....
     
  6. courtney89

    courtney89 Well-Known Member

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    No I know its not going to be all rosey and stuff. I know its going to be tough thats why I am thinking about these things now:thumbup:.
     
  7. Ajisai

    Ajisai Well-Known Member

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    I think it is great that you are thinking ahead. I read books about it while I was pregnant to familialize myself.
     
  8. aragornlover8

    aragornlover8 Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, that's what I gathered. I meant that post just as an affirmation really.
     
  9. courtney89

    courtney89 Well-Known Member

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    Any book ideas???
     
  10. tigs

    tigs Well-Known Member

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    :hugs:

    Try not to worry - I remember going home and thinking what the heck do i do now - but over the first month or so - everything kind of fell into place -and suddenly you seem to be coping well :) Make sure you stay in touch with friends or family to help you :)

    And remember there are places on teh internet that are your friends

    HTH
     
  11. ermm23a

    ermm23a Well-Known Member

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    What to expect, the first year is supposed to be a good one. I plan on getting it soon.
     
  12. courtney89

    courtney89 Well-Known Member

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    Awsome thinks so much.
     
  13. Ajisai

    Ajisai Well-Known Member

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    Yes, I have the "what to expect" series for pregnancy and first year. It is fun to read them. :happydance:
     
  14. MilosMommy7

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    when milo was born i was told to feed him 1oz every 2-3hrs. most newborns wear a newborn size diaper unless they're over 8lbs then they'll probably go quickly into a size 1. milo got bumped up to 2oz when he was like 2 weeks. but you'll know what to do when the baby gets here. it'll be instinct :hugs:
     
  15. lisaf

    lisaf Super tired new mom

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    I plan on reading just as many books about what to do afterwards as what to do while pregnant! I dont' want to get home and wonder 'what now'. Lots of women have their moms stay with them for a week or so but I couldn't stand that, lol so i'm preparing myself to be fine without her.

    One big thing is to sleep when the baby sleeps... well.. thats once they're a little older as the newborns sleep all the time, but don't try to use baby naptimes as catch-up time because you'll wear yourself out!
    Most hospitals (at least here) have lactation specialists now so they can help you figure out a feeding schedule that will work for your baby's needs.

    I worry and think about this all the time too and am hoping the books will prepare me well. Some of my worries are when/how to bathe them, what the latest research shows about back vs. side sleeping etc, and mostly when to do everything, lol... I mean I expect feeding and changing and sleeping will take care of itself, but there is just so much advice out there and a lot of it contradicts itself I'm not sure what to do.

    I did buy both my friend's this great book that I wish I had time to read before wrapping for them. They both loved it (only baby book the dad's read all the way through too!).
    Its called The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance
    https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1283482460&sr=8-1
    DH actually has been looking forward to buying it and reading it himself.

    Its very practical and is written pretty funny.. the baby is your 'model' and the pediatrician is your 'service provider' etc.
    It has useful diagrams for things like swaddling and even different holds for breast feeding etc.
     
  16. emilyjade

    emilyjade mummy of two!

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    first of all chick don't worry about anything! babies let you know when they need feeding it will fall into place for you. with my son when he was firstborn he drank 70mls and about 25 for the rest of the evening. its important to burp them imo because my son had so much wind we ended up buying dr brown bottles what help. if you go into any shop what sells Nappies on the packet there's a weight guide and a basic newborn packet goes upto 11 pound so id get a few of them :) the first few week's are challenging to say the least but soon after everything falls into place :) x
     
  17. emilyjade

    emilyjade mummy of two!

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    Forgot his cord feel off at day 4. some can take a little longer. its important to keep it clean and dry. we cleaned his with cotton wool and pat dryed with a really soft flannel x
     

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