being pregnant and lazy

[mislaww]

I have a funny feeling this is to do with my thread!!

I am not lazy, I simply have no energy and some days are harder than others due to having carpel tunnel syndrome, which I'm sure you know about but due to it, I sometimes can't even move my whole arm and shoulder!!

Some woman have to rest for certain reasons..Not because their lazy!

You're not lazy.

And even if you were, what of it? Who the hell cares. As far as I'm concerned, laze the days away, and go ahead and whine about it all you like.

Agreed.

.....As long as you don't come round my house expecting a cup of tea.....

Don't worry - I'll get your OH to do it for me.

 

[Bmonki]

I have a funny feeling this is to do with my thread!!

I am not lazy, I simply have no energy and some days are harder than others due to having carpel tunnel syndrome, which I'm sure you know about but due to it, I sometimes can't even move my whole arm and shoulder!!

Some woman have to rest for certain reasons..Not because their lazy!

You're not lazy.

And even if you were, what of it? Who the hell cares. As far as I'm concerned, laze the days away, and go ahead and whine about it all you like.

Agreed.

.....As long as you don't come round my house expecting a cup of tea.....

hehe i agree wholeheartedly to this...

BUT with one exception... a cup of tea is always on offer here

 

[mislaww]

heck, why not go the whole hog I'll do a take one girl get a sandwhich free. Let's live dangerously.

I'm hungry, so...

 

[Gemma_xX]

I have a funny feeling this is to do with my thread!!

I am not lazy, I simply have no energy and some days are harder than others due to having carpel tunnel syndrome, which I'm sure you know about but due to it, I sometimes can't even move my whole arm and shoulder!!

Some woman have to rest for certain reasons..Not because their lazy!

You're not lazy.

And even if you were, what of it? Who the hell cares. As far as I'm concerned, laze the days away, and go ahead and whine about it all you like.

Agreed.

.....As long as you don't come round my house expecting a cup of tea.....

hehe i agree wholeheartedly to this...

BUT with one exception... a cup of tea is always on offer here

Thanks ladies
I'll just get my mom to make the tea

 

[Flipsy]

I am actually over this

I guess according to the OP I'm Lazy because I have just dropped from 5 shifts to 3 shifts a week in agreement with my boss (well when he starts talking to me again that is) that I will put one days holiday through each week as well as and when I want/need to as I have six days sitting in the bank. I did it because I am struggling and i'm having a fairly normal pregnancy I'm on my feet all evening with no break, it's not logistically possible to give me a break, I've been told to look after myself and got a great tip go stand in the freezer for two minutes if I feel to hot

There are other issues going on at work right now that make this a prudent move.

 

[Pixxie]

Dont mean to sound harsh but reading some comments on here makes me a lil annoyed. Nto trying to say im hard done by but i work 14 hours a day, barely sleep and i do all the cleaning cooking etc in my house as partner hasnt officially moved in yet.

anyway, how many of you know you pregnancy as an excuse to not do anything. a mate of mine is 3 weeks ahead of me (she doesnt know im pg yet) and all she does is whine about being tired, she doesnt work! In fact she does nothing. lol.all day but whinge! ahh

Is this a common thing?

Pregnancy affects different women in different ways, one may be full of energy and another may not be able to get out of bed she feels that awful. If your having an easy time then that's great, enjoy it, but please don't judge other women who are finding it harder xxx

 

[lisaf]

You girls are so funny!

I do understand the frustration with other pregnant women milking it for all its worth... but honestly when I feel that way, its 100% jealousy. Even if I CAN do things for myself, sometimes its just so gosh darned nice to be taken care of.
DH and I both fetch each other glasses of water.. whoever gets up gets the other one what they want.
If he doesn't want to do something for me, he says so. I may pout or have a little bit of a hormonal reaction, but I don't browbeat him into doing it.

OP - it may seem to you like your friend is just taking advantage, and you even said she treats her OH like crap.... that may be a sign that she's more hormonal right now, and not everyone likes to discuss their lady bits and cramping or cervical issues etc with everyone they know so she MAY have a legitimate excuse. BUT... honestly what does it matter? Its up to her and her OH to work out what kind of relationship they have.

I for one, am all for getting pampered now... because you're going to be 10x more tired when the baby is here, but he's going to be sleep deprived too and not as willing to give you extra special treatment
And you better believe if the situation were reversed and he was pregnant he would be demanding I wipe his ass for him let alone get him a cup of tea

I do understand about the workplace fear though... that they will think you might slack off because other pregnant women aren't able to do the same level of work as they did before. But you don't know what you'll be like at 27 weeks and you may need the same consideration. So just do your job while you can and don't worry about what other people do.

 

[new_to_ttc]

**feeling slightly parnoid about making a tiredness thread* Thinks I maybe should have read this first and not posted lol

Im not being lazy I honestly cant keep my eyes physically open Im still working, still my sons only parent 24/7 365... and the extra day each leap year too lol still maintaining the house and cooking etc but I have never experienced tiredness like this ever... *prays I dont get stick on my thread lolol*

I do agree that each pregnancy is different and some people who chose to relax more are very lucky to be able to and should enjoy it while it lasts!

 

[minkymoo]

**feeling slightly parnoid about making a tiredness thread* Thinks I maybe should have read this first and not posted lol

Im not being lazy I honestly cant keep my eyes physically open Im still working, still my sons only parent 24/7 365... and the extra day each leap year too lol still maintaining the house and cooking etc but I have never experienced tiredness like this ever... *prays I dont get stick on my thread lolol*

I do agree that each pregnancy is different and some people who chose to relax more are very lucky to be able to and should enjoy it while it lasts!

I shouldn't imagine you'll get stick on your thread, the vast majority of us are shattered a lot more than we were pre-pregnancy and that 1st tri/2nd tri crossover exhaustion was overwhelming for me, truly so, I fell asleep at my desk 3 times and was in bed for 8/9pm most evenings.

Hopefully you'll find that you perk up a little over the next few weeks as you get stuck into the 2nd tri.

x

 

[lisaf]

Oh... also my friend kept saying 'I'm pregnant, not an invalid' and insisted on doing everything like normal despite her husband and friends wanting her to take it a little easier.
She ended up having contractions and getting a big lecture about taking it easier now etc.

So just because you CAN force yourself to do everything, and heck, even if you physically feel up to it, doesn't mean its 100% ok all the time to do it.
(And I don't mean this as a criticism of anyone's choice to be active or lazy - my friend's experience is just her experience and I wouldnt' judge anyone else or accuse them of taking a risk... just a story about someone who proudly kept going like they weren't pregnant, and who did actually put themselves a bit at risk because of it ---- one reason why taking it easy even if you CAN do something isn't always a bad thing).

 

[Sarah&Ady]

.... and this thread is still going strong.... love it

 

[Hunnybear]

Although I'm happy for you that you seem to be doing well....I think making generalisations isn't right.

I went from working a full time 50hr a week job and a part time job as well as full time university, to having to give up the full time job and going to school just part time. Was it my plan all along or was I just being "lazy"? No....I started feeling like crap every day and I didn't understand why other women didn't have the same problem as me. I would come home from work, not even be able to eat and be in bed by 5pm......then sleep until the morning and cry when the alarm went off because I could barely stomach going through another day. I tried some modified duties at work (regular duties involved constantly lifting about 50lbs and going up and down 20ft ladders) and still I couldn't bear it. After testing I found out that I had severe anemia and b12 deficiency, I was always borderline but the pregnancy had made it go way overboard. Then I got low blood sugar, then carpal tunnel.

Everyone says that pregnancy is magical and stuff, but for me it has been tough. And I have been lucky enough to be able to determine the causes for my problems and get answers and treatments....but not everyone is so lucky. So to go on about laziness....when a lot of women are having lots of physical problems with pregnancy and not being able to get the treatment and answers they deserve......well it isn't right.

I guess I just don't even understand the point of this thread....congrats at accomplishing a lot but bringing down other women due to their "laziness"....warranted or not doesn't doesn't increase the value of what you are doing. And their "laziness" doesn't hurt you directly.....so why criticize?

 

[Mummy to be x]

are we all still here ladies

 

[blue_kat]

love this site - you can almost see the hormones raging! lol

just for the record - I dont see the problem in taking advantage of the situation and my OH loves being my slave! I poke him in the morning when I need my cup of tea, he makes me drinks on demand (even sometimes if I dont want one!) and offers to give me the day off if I want one (I usually say no cos I feel guilty)

I dont feel bad because its his way of contributing and he says he feels protective of the baby....but then I would do the same for him if the situation was reversed!

Saying that....I have said I fancy (whatever food) in the evening when we are settled down and he hasnt actually got up to get it for me unless it is in the house - I dont blame him though!

 

[Sarah&Ady]

Uh huh.. I have the popcorn out and am just sitting.... waiting....

 

[Mummy to be x]

Uh huh.. I have the popcorn out and am just sitting.... waiting....

I think i would be lost with out this forum! I am so very glad i found it lol

 

[Bmonki]

Uh huh.. I have the popcorn out and am just sitting.... waiting....

ditto

got my cuppa too

 

[Mummy to be x]

I'm sitting waiting for my tea! I'm starving

 

[Bmonki]

I'm sitting waiting for my tea! I'm starving

now, now, Mummy to be, don't be lazy lol! you have two legs

 

[Shrimpy]

I still have one girl and one sandwhich left if anyones ran out of popcorn although may I request that you eat the sandwhich and NOT the girl please.