Better Luck Next Time....

Discussion in 'Miscarriage Support' started by hayley x, Apr 25, 2009.

  1. hayley x

    hayley x 1AngelSon,1EarthDaughter

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    Am I wrong to take this as complete ignorance!!! I felt so hurt when someone said this to me today, its not like I lost on the lottery or a raffel, my baby boy has died!!!! I was so hurt!! :cry: xxx
     
  2. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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  3. Pink_Witch

    Pink_Witch proud mummy of 6

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    how downright bloody insensitive!!! :cry: big :hug: to you and :gun: to them and :ignore: them!
     
  4. Maidenet

    Maidenet Well-Known Member

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    :( Thats awful xxx
     
  5. AppleBlossom

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    That's a terribly insensitive thing to say :hugs:
     
  6. polo_princess

    polo_princess ♥ Brookes Mummy ♥

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    That wassuch an insensitive thing to say hun, im really sorry that some people can be so ignorant :hugs:
     
  7. Jem

    Jem Mummy of 2

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    That is awful, I'm so sorry x
     
  8. babytots

    babytots Well-Known Member

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    oh hunni how horrid and insensitive for someone to say such a thing! ffs! makes me so angry! we dont want a next time all we want is our babies back and we cant. its like your son meant nothing.

    huge :hug: coming your way sweetheart! x
     
  9. v2007

    v2007 Well-Known Member

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    Ignorant bar stewards!!!! some of the comments i heard are just downright shocking.

    :hug::hug:

    V xxxx
     
  10. DiddyDons

    DiddyDons Guest

    You will find you will get alot more comments like this over time babe and each and every one of them will hurt. People just dont know what to say and end up saying the wrong thing...but they think its "ok" iykwim?!

    The most common one I get is "it wont happen again" How the fook do they know?! It wasnt meant to happen the 1st fuking time :hissy:

    Im so sorry babe! I am always here if you want to talk :hugs:

    Donna xxx



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  11. Staceyxxx

    Staceyxxx Mummy To 2 Little Angels

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    That is awful... Ive had that said to me too... 1 i get told was "you'll be fine, it was for the best" literally 30 mins after i found out i had m/c... to me it was still my baby and he still died even though i never got to meet him properly :(
     
  12. todteach

    todteach Dreams can come true

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    Sending you love, hugs, and support. xox :hugs:
     
  13. LeaArr

    LeaArr Just him and me.

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    I'm sorry. That's not fair.
     
  14. CarCam

    CarCam WTT after 2nd MC :(

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    Uh, that's awful! It's unfortunate that some people have to live their lives miserable, rude and grumpy. :trouble:

    :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  15. Jkelmum

    Jkelmum Well-Known Member

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    What a awful thing to say ....I found people was sayying least u know u can carry a healthy baby as you,ve had Jake some people arnt that lucky ...which maybe true but still doesnt make the pain or the emptiness go away :hugs:
     
  16. tricky nicky

    tricky nicky mummy to Alfie

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    that is a disgusting thing to say to someone
    how can people be so cruel????
     
  17. Tracey2008

    Tracey2008 Well-Known Member

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    Oh bless you hun I know how your feeling as I have just had my fourth m/c and my mum came down the same day that I had been to the EPU and was told I was losing the baby and she said something similar her words were "well its for the best, you can always try again in a few months time. Have a rest now as its probably natures way of telling you to be happy with what you have got". I was gutted it was like a rubbing salt into the wound. Nothing can ever replace the feeling of loss that you feel and I think unless you have suffered a loss its so hard for anyone to really understand how empty the feeling is. Sending you big hugs xx
     
  18. Abblebubba

    Abblebubba WTT Sept '15 - #2

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    Sending lots of support hunnie, sorry people are so insensitibe x
     
  19. lollylou1

    lollylou1 Mummy to Belle and preg

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    im so sorry someone could say something as ignorant as that i would have told them to mind their own business and F off lol big hugs to you

    Lou
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  20. eclipse

    eclipse Mom of 2 wonderful kids!

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    WTF?! I think I would've punched them in the face. sending big hugs your way.
     

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