Between a rock and a deathly hard place!

[Yearning]

God what should I do...........?

My close friend Laura, whom I have known for over 20 years has just been given some devastating news. She is nearly 6 months pregnant and a scan has just revealed that her beautiful daughter has a serious heart defect. Her heart has only developed three chambers when it should have 4.

Laura has been told that she has 2 options...to either terminate the pregnancy....or carry her to full term and if she survives 2 days after birth (of which the chances are very slim), pray that a heart is available for transplant.

I love my friend very much and will support her every step of the way....sometimes life does not make any sense and is overly cruel. I believe in God and can understand why some find it hard to believe in his existence, especially under circumstances such as this.

What a decision to have to make!
How on earth would you decide such a fate!
I can only listen....what am I to do?

I couldn't even begin to understand how she may be feeling right now!

Yearning.x

 

[passengerrach]

oooooo no how terrible for ur friend and for u all u can do is be there for her it is an impossible dissision 2 make x

 

[CeliaM]

Such a difficult decision, my heart goes out to you and your friend. All you can do is listen (and of course, pray) and be a sounding board and shoulder for her. You're being a great friend to her.

People find it easier to believe in God when there are no trials, and I know that circumstances such as these can really test one's faith. Hang in there, and feel free to pm me if you want to unload. I recently had a scare that my LO had a heart defect, which thankfully proved to be wrong but i still had to face those questions. And my SIL just had a baby with a genetic disorder that will likely not survive long (and they found out about this when she was about 6mo along), so i can somewhat sympathize with how your friend is feeling.

Take care, and hugs to you and the others that are affected by this terrible news.

 

[Barneyboo]

I am so sorry to hear this tragic news...all that you can do is what you already are ding which is being a wonderful friend and a great listener and shoulder to cry on

 

[misstrouble]

The final decision will be with your friend and she will do what she feels and thinks is right. You just need to be there for her and help her along in this terrible time. She will know that she can turn to you an that in its self will help. big to you all. x

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh my goodness, what awful news for your friend.

All you can do is do what you are doing at the moment, be there and listen to her.

My thoughts are with you all x

 

[Drazic<3]

Oh that is so terrible. Im so sorry for your friend.
I have no idea what action to take, but i hope she finds the right answer for her and her little one with as little hurting as possible.

 

[masi]

my thoughts, and prayers are with your friend xx

 

[WelshGirl]

Just be there for her hun.......let her talk about it, let her cry, let her scream....there is nothing more you can do.

My heart goes out to your friend - different circumstances, but I lost my first child at 28 weeks, and I know just how hard things will be for her.

Please let her know about the SANDS website www.uk-sands.org if you think it might help her. It is a support site, with a forum similar to this, for parents who have lost babies. There is a section on there for people who are facing similar decisions to your friend - she may find it useful to talk it through with people in the same situation. It has been my lifeline since I lost my son.

xxx

 

[haaza123]

Very deverstating news, just support your friend and her decisions. She must be going through a very difficult time. Take care of yourself and your friend.
xxx