BFers, do you?

[Serene123]

Feel uncomfortable breast feeding at someones house if you're not comfortable around them. I have to go all the way to Rich's mums on Tuesday and I am losing so much sleep worrying about it. The whole of his family hate me. I just don't feel comfortable in their house and I'm really scared of breast feeding there!

 

[sam's mum]

I haven't ever had to take Sam to visit anyone I'm not comfortable with, but I think I probably would feel really uncomfortable having to feed him there. Not that you should have to, but is there somewhere quiet in the house you can go to feed her? Hope it goes ok x

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I'm not so much uncomfortable breastfeeding around anyone, just more concerned with whether or not they are uncomfortable with me breastfeeding in front of them. When we visit Michael's parents, I usually duck into his parents bedroom to feed her.
is there a room you could go into to feed her? you definitely should not be made to feel uncomfortable feeding your child.

 

[Novbaby08]

I think it helps if you have a good relationship with the people your doing it in front of. Then again I feel like if someone can't be nice to me they don't need to be around my daughter.

 

[Mervs Mum]

Bless you honey I'm sure they dont hate you - if they do why are you going there!!?? You should be comfy when you're feeding her so I'd tell Rich you're gonna need somewhere to go with no questions asked from them - he needs to organise it for you. x

 

[Serene123]

I have to go there, he wants to I really don't but I know I should

 

[ryder]

Why should you? I thought you guys weren't together? Caitlin should go, whether you chose to go also should be your choice... not his. I thought you bottle fed her too? Why not just expres a fed and tell Rich to go alone?

 

[Serene123]

She won't take more than 4oz from a bottle and he's shit with her. He has never had her more than 5 minutes.

 

[Mervs Mum]

You sound stressed by it. I think its really good of you to feel like you should go but dont go if you really dont want to. If you do tell him to sort you somewhere in the house to sit when you want to feed - its the least he can do. x

 

[ryder]

She won't take more than 4oz from a bottle and he's shit with her. He has never had her more than 5 minutes.

That sucks, maybe he better get used to looking after her? I dont think you should have to go, I certainly wouldn't.

 

[Serene123]

As much as I dislike them for not liking me without just reason, I would be upset if I was Rich and my mum didn't get to see her first grand child over christmas. As stressed as it's making me, she's half his and it's just one day.

 

[Novbaby08]

I wouldn't go if I were you. I don't go where I'm not wanted.

 

[Mervs Mum]

Thats fair enough. He should appreciate that and make sure you're as comfortable as poss.

 

[Serene123]

Unfortunately she can't go without me

 

[ryder]

As much as I dislike them for not liking me without just reason, I would be upset if I was Rich and my mum didn't get to see her first grand child over christmas. As stressed as it's making me, she's half his and it's just one day.

And thats very big of you. I dont disagree... But are you going to spend the next 5 years babysitting rich and caitlin? I dont mean that in a bad way, but really... why cant he look after her? You should be getting on him about being able to care for her... Whether she is half his and half yours, he needs to make the effort and in the end, if you can leave her with him for a couple hours then it will also give you some time.

You are upset alot because you dont have anyoen to help... MAKE him help you if he wants to be a part of your life.

 

[Novbaby08]

I had to go to a gathering with Harley's dad's family and was feeling really stressed an uncomfortable, I'm friends with his sister though, and his dad had always been such a dick to me. I told his sister to tell her dad that if he couldn't be nice to me then not to plan on talking to me or holding his granddaughter, and when I got there he was incredibly nice to me.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if they can't be nice and respectful of you, they don't need to be all chummy with Caitlyn. But then again its your choice still. but I know his parents don't like me, and its hard to be around people that are like that, in fact I brought my mom with me to the event just so I would have someone on my side. I also think Rich needs to consider your feelings more.

 

[Serene123]

He just doesn't try with her. He makes sad faces at her when she cries and waits for it to get so bad I can't listen to it anymore and take her

 

[Novbaby08]

He just doesn't try with her. He makes sad faces at her when she cries and waits for it to get so bad I can't listen to it anymore and take her

It sounds like he has no experience with babies and is completely helpless on what to do with her.

 

[ryder]

He just doesn't try with her. He makes sad faces at her when she cries and waits for it to get so bad I can't listen to it anymore and take her

Tell him to grow the hell up and make an effort, or dont bother coming over. Guys are lazy and if you dont kick their butt into action then sometimes they never try.

 

[Serene123]

I've told him, showed him, everything. He was here the first 3 weeks of her life and slept all day everyday!