BFP and Scared as Heck!

[fawkesymomma]

Hey ladies. I'm relatively new to the board, joined during my first IVF cycle and just got my BFP yesterday. I am excited, but at the same time scared out of my mind. We lost our first pregnancy exactly 1 week after our BFP, three days before Christmas of '06. So now I am freaked that I only have one week and it will be all over.

Did any of you have huge issues becoming emotionally attached to your pregnancy out of fear of losing another one? I want to be excited about this, but I am too afraid. We aren't telling anyone but our closest friends yet, not even our families, and a big part of this is me not wanting to jinx it. I am so glad that there is a group for this situation, it is not something that is easy to even talk about.

 

[Tashry]

First off, CONGRATS on your BFP!!
Second, I do understand what you are going through. I lost my first in March 2006 at 10+2 and then got pregnant again one month later. I was terrified! But 9 months later I had my son. Best advice I can give is to try to relax and enjoy what you have. Other than the obvious things (like trying to be healthy) things are out of your hands. You cannot change what will happen, so best not to add stress to the situation.
I am sure things will turn out beautifully for you.

 

[lauralora]

congratulations!!

i refused to attach myself to this pregnancy untill about 15 weeks!
i took each day at a time and tried not to focus too much on being pregnant (which was hard!) what you are feeling is normal
just relax and try to think positive xx

 

[bky]

I kind of turned my brain off (even with an 8 week scan) until after the 12 week scan (which is where we found we had lost the previous pregnancy). Even now, while I'm fond of my wiggly belly critter, I still don't like to talk too much about it to family or coworkers (and as you can see I still have problems even calling it her, let alone by the name we have chosen).

 

[fawkesymomma]

Thanks ladies! I just don't want to jinx or even worse, not fully experience this pregnancy by being too scared of what might happen. Definitely taking it one day at a time, but I work in a science lab, so I am constantly having to think about it so I don't mess with chemicals that might be harmful. Well, one can only do what they can do, and the rest is up to nature, right?

 

[bky]

I work in a science lab as well. Just wear your coat and gloves and keep smelly things in the hood. If you feel up to talking to your boss about it do so so you can avoid the more fume-y things.

 

[oceandreams]

Sometimes I let myself get excited, and then I get scared again... I think (hope) we'll all have some point in our pregnancies where we can finally relax. My doctor likes to remind me that 1 or 2 mcs doesn't put you at an increased risk for another.