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[TTC74]

What DPO would you be with that beta, wish?

 

[Wish2BMom]

I was 25dpo yesterday, or 20dp5dt

 

[mikihope]

Wow, amazingly beta number there, Wish!! Congratulations! I'm laughing at what Rain said about quintuplets I can't imagine that you only have a singleton in there... it's got to be twins!

Rain, your twins sound so adorable! Hmm.... now I'm wishing that I'm having twins Ok, maybe not.

AFM- I think I'm finally feeling a bit better. I've had all sorts of weird and wonderful pregnancy symptoms since the 4 week mark (except the cramps, which started soon after transfer): all day nausea, shooting boob/uterus pains, dizziness, exhaustion, bloating, heartburn, cramps, etc. I've never thrown up, and I still eat a lot, but I just hate feeling so queasy and lacking in appetite. I normally have a humongous appetite and iron stomach, I eat everything that is on any menu of any culture, and I live to eat. So I feel like I'm missing a big piece of myself when I feel so queasy.

At work, I walk around with sour gummy bears and a peanut butter granola bar in one jacket pocket, and pieces of spicy beef jerky in the other. I have Tums and Tylenol in one pants pocket, and mints/lemon drops in the other. Well, it seems to me that I need all of those less and less each day now. Nausea is better and I don't really feel cramps these days. I'm feeling hopeful!

And I think that the terrible commute also makes things worse. So hopefully I'll feel much better after we move. Just realized we have to move in just over 2 week's time! Eek!

 

[TTC74]

Wow wish! Have you checked beta base with that number?! Looking forward to seeing that first ultrasound result. Thursday, right?

 

[Rainshiny]

Ttc, wish's scan is the 15th. A week from Thursday! Can you believe we have to wait that long??? 😬😝😫😛

Wow wish! Have you checked beta base with that number?! Looking forward to seeing that first ultrasound result. Thursday, right?

 

[TTC74]

OMG! That feels like forever! She must be SO eager to see those little babies!

 

[Wish2BMom]

Hahahaha I am very eager!! I can't believe they scheduled it so far away, I'll be 7+3. At least we are sure to see something then.
What's the betabase? I've looked up a few things and plenty of women have had high betas and still only a singleton. We'll see!!
I had my first bad belly day yesterday. Not nauseous really, just gassy/bubbly and like a brick was stuck high in my stomach/diaphragm. Blegh. But I'll take it! Haven't been overly tired and my boobs are killing me.

Miki - glad things are slowly getting better for you!! That's a load of stuff to be carrying around in your pants pockets.

 

[mikihope]

Hehe, Rain, how true that WE have to wait so long for Wish's scan results. I kept logging on just to check her betas! Let's hope for the best news ever for Wish's scan!

Oh, I see you have posted at the same time, Wish! 7+3 does seem like a long time to wait. But it's almost here! Oh yes, I forgot about the ridiculous sore boobs. So uncomfortable! I wonder if your brick feeling is actually some sort of acid reflux. I had that after my cycling crash last year. Hehe, I look ridiculous with the full pockets. Go away, annoying nausea!

 

[Spudtastic]

Yes we have ages to wait until wish's scan. I was thinking the same thing. It's ages away. I keep checking in for it.

We are now in Devon, England. The kiddos flew really well but now they have terrible jet lag. Seren is grumpy and just wants to sleep but Isla is loving being with her grandparents. It was so cute. She was so excited to see them.
It's 3am and I'm wide awake.

I'm just loving the berry season yum yum.

 

[mikihope]

Spud, how lovely that your kids are spending time with their grandparents, and that Isla was so excited to see them!

I have a long gripe about my mom, I hope you all don’t mind me unloading here. DH is the only person I get to talk to about her, as my sister is completely oblivious to my mom’s issues. My mom is all about appearances, and she makes sure she looks good to everyone. My sister is taken in by my mom’s façade, so I can’t confide in her.

So I finally told my mom I’m pregnant. I’ve been dreading this day for a while. She was completely unable to sound happy after I told her I was pregnant with donor egg IVF. She was silent and did not congratulate me. When she spoke, she sounded upset and asked me if I thought it through. She kept asking me why I couldn’t use my own eggs (I’m 45). All she could think about was that this child would not be related to her. When I told her that DH was happy, she said, “Of course, it’s easy for him.” Now, DH is open minded and he was all for adoption, so it had nothing to do with biological ties for him. I told her that my happiness was imperative to him, and that he was happy because I was too. She is ashamed of him, because he is from a “humble background” (in her eyes). She doesn’t care that after a string of horrible abusive men in my life, I finally have married a wonderful man who is beyond caring towards me. We click so well, we’re both crazy about each other, every day is full of laughter and happiness. It gets better each day, and we’ve been together for over 10 years.

Before we ended the conversation, my mom told me there was no need to spread the word I was pregnant. It is so obvious that she doesn’t want her friends to know, as DH isn’t a famous/rich guy that she can parade around. She is ashamed of him and me. I’ve never seen any happiness from her about things that make me happy. She’s only happy when I do stuff that she can boast to her friends and family about. She just wanted me to have a trophy husband with trophy kids. I’m so sad that my own mother isn’t able to be close to me, and that she has never supported me but instead made me feel like there was something wrong with me.

Well, I don’t really need my mom to be involved in my life. At least DH is very involved in the pregnancy.He’s insisted on coming with me to almost all of my testing and scans, and he was sad when we were released from the clinic. He said that we’d gotten to know the staff and become close to them, and it was sad to leave. DH is the best!

I have been depressed today, though. Even though I expected my mom's reaction, a little part deep inside me was hoping that she'd surprise me and at least sound happy for me.

Sorry for the long and depressing post, I don’t want to bring the tone of this thread down. I am generally a happy person, but I feel down whenever I talk to my mom. I hope everyone has been having a great weekend!

 

[TTC74]

Wish - the beta base is a website that tracks betas singleton vs twin vs triplet pregnancies. https://www.betabase.info/

Miki - how horrible for you! I'm so sorry your mom reacted that way. It sounds like you knew to expect it, but still I'm sure it was crushing that she was so unsupportive about you and dh's baby - her grandchild. It's insane that people have such antiquated idea about biological ties. You are carrying this baby. Many people don't even have that connection to their child. It doesn't make it any less their child.

 

[Alleke]

Miki, I'm sorry that your mom reacted that way. I hope you can let her be her and you be you. It's not your job to fix whatever is going on with her, and kudos to you for making your life what it is in spite of that influence in your upbringing.

I love hearing about all of the symptoms! I hope to be having some of my own soon. I had a check-up last week, and the gyno was impressed by my right ovary, which makes me optimistic. The TWW is now beginning...my first one ever! I'll actually O tomorrow, but we are swaying girl with timing, so we BDed last night and this morning, as soon as my CM was looking good. We shall see.

 

[Wish2BMom]

spud! so happy when you come on to say hi! I'm glad you all made it over to England safely and soundly. Now stay put and don't go to London, please. It's sickening what is happening right now.
Ugh, I'm with Serene, I HATE jetlag!! makes me grumpy too!!
How long are you there for?

good luck, alleke!! I hope you nail it this month!

miki - holy cow, I'm so sorry. This is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life and all it takes is something/someone like that to bring you down. It does sound like you know how to handle her, but I'm sure it was still shocking to hear all of those things. Please do not let her spoil this beautiful time for you and DH. She's the one with the problems, clearly. I like how Alleke said it - you be you and let her be her, and you don't have to interact very often. In fact, i'd be nervous about having her around the baby, honestly. Is she going to give it a complex about not being biologically related to her? or you? That's some dangerous waters there...

TTC - um. I went on there. Holy cow. I def beat the highest betas on the singletons and just about beat the betas on the twins. Dear god...

I'd think I'd be whacked with some serious symptoms, though, and I'm not yet. I had my first icky belly this Saturday but Sunday was much better. Took a little catnap yesterday and while DH was making dinner, I NEEDED a snack or I was going to get icky belly back. So I had a few cheese & crackers and that tided me over. I'm definitely eating more and I haven't gained a pound - that's fun!! hahaha

Speaking of - haven't had breakfast yet and my stomach is growling!!

terri - what's going on with the tenants? you kicking them out?

 

[Rainshiny]

Miki- that's so devastating that your mom was so unsupportive... I agree that u probably can't do much to convince her. Just need to manage your expectations of her...sigh. It may be the case that she surprises you and comes around even a little over time. It takes a while for something that big and probably out of her realm of experience to sink in. It took my mom about ten years to fully accept I'm gay (she is more socially conservative and cares about moral appearances in a way I guess). Now she acts totally normal even if she doesn't agree on the inside. Draw your boundaries where you feel comfortable. You and your family are the priority right now, more than ever! Still sucks tho. I'm so glad you are feeling less nausea anyway!!

Wish- my nausea was on and off at the beginning of week six but settled in around the end of the week...hope u r one of the lucky ones who sails through.

And of course my lamenting the wait until your scan is parlty tongue in cheek because I imagine you and DH are anticipating it the most.

That's awesome alleke!! Do u have any tww distraction plans?

Hi Spud!!!!

We got a potty this weekend! Don't know if it will get much action for a while, but for now it's a good conversation piece.

 

[Wish2BMom]

hahaha conversation piece - that's awesome!

yeah, I say I'm not feeling {insert symptom here} and it usually sneaks up on me. But the newest one might be queasy - I just had lunch and I'm not feeling really well. Soup and a protein shake too, so nothing crazy. Here's where the fun starts!

 

[TTC74]

Wish - Agreed. We are only teasing about the ultrasound wait as a conversation piece. Feel free to chime in.

You may get lucky. I had some queasiness early on but it was never full blown morning sickness. In fact, I can now say that in three pregnancies, I've vomited twice in each pregnancy- and in each case it was later in pregnancy (second to third trimester). Weird but true.

 

[mikihope]

Thank you all for your wonderful, kind words! I love you all, you made my day Sorry I dragged the mood down, this thread is so lively and funny, I love reading it! Conversation piece… hehe.

TTC- Thank you for understanding. I guess it was crushing after the fact, but it was like I didn’t mind while she was talking to me. I know how she is, but it still hurts somehow. I tell myself that I don’t care what she thinks, but I guess I must care.

Alleke- Thank you for your wise words. That is exactly what I do these days, let her be her. I used to argue with her when I was younger, but one day I just let go. I had to work really hard to fix the damage that was done in my childhood, but I’m happy to say that I have moved past it all and I know my life will be good.

Wish- Yes, thank you, that is exactly it. She has this way of taking away the joy in the happiest times of my life. She doesn’t think much of DH either, because of his humble family background and his ethnicity. She’s not really racist, she’s just very shallow and worries about what others think of her. Well, she’s a narcissist. It took me most of my adult life to finally figure this out. You’re right, we are nervous about having her around the baby. I’m sure she’ll act like the “best grandmother” ever when people are around, but when alone… Ugh. Anyway, I like hearing about your symptoms. Sounds like things are going well!

Rain- Thanks, Rain. It’s sweet of you to hope that my mom will come around, but I’m sure she won’t. She really doesn’t care about my happiness. When I was a kid, she used to tell me that I was cold hearted and selfish, and I was “lucky” that my family didn’t disown me. I thought I was a bad child, but now I look back and realize my only “crime” was that I had my own ideas and opinions. As I mentioned, she’s a narcissist, and she tramples on all my boundaries. Luckily she cares so much about what people think of her that she is actually rather charming. But it makes me ill to see how fake she is. Anyway, she is who she is. I disappointed myself by secretly hoping for more. I’m sorry that your mom took so long to accept that you’re gay. I hope that your happiness is important to her, and that she’s happy for you now even though she is worried about moral appearances.

Today was my last PIO shot! I’ve been super lucky, no bruises or lumps or aches. I still have those twice a day suppositories to deal with, though. Boo!

 

[Alleke]

That's awesome alleke!! Do u have any tww distraction plans?

Hmm... I hope to be tough, or at least pretend that I am. On that note, I already have symptoms.

I will be misbehaving this week, and that only leaves one week for me to overthink. Any pregnancy books, videos, etc. you would recommend?

 

[TTC74]

Alleke - gl! There are several great pregnancy apps! When you're ready, I'll give you a list!

Miki - you must be incredibly strong. I have mom issues too. Mom lives with me but has significant mental health issues and she often says things that really upset me. I try to let it go, but it can be really difficult. For example, she has been living with me for almost 2 years and is still not contributing to the household. I'm going to discuss that with her but with my brother dying, it's just not a good time. She is going to flip out, though. So, I'm not looking forward to it.

 

[Wish2BMom]

I'm so sad for you ladies that have the Mom stuff. The one person in life you're supposed to be able to depend on and she's letting you down.
Miki - sounds like you had a really rough and unfair childhood. I'm so glad you've found happiness now. I hope you continue to rise above and enjoy your life with your new family.

TTC - that is rough - a tough conversation to begin with, but let alone the timing of it all right now. Good luck to you when the time comes.

alleke - how are you misbehaving? you mean by googling symptoms and such? I actually recommend NOT reading pregnancy materials right now, I feel like that drags on the time even more!!

re: my scan - I cannot wait either. I have to find ways to pass the time as well! DH left for a business trip this morning and returns Thurs night so that takes me to 1 week from scan day. I'm going to trivia night with friends that night too. And we have a kids bday party this Sunday but that's really all I have to distract me for now! GAH!