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[TTC74]

CP. AF.

 

[Ask4joy]

Oh I'm so sorry TTC. Big hug. So heartbreaking.

 

[Wish2BMom]

ugh TTC, I'm so sorry...

 

[terripeachy]

Sorry TTC.

 

[Wicky78]

So sorry, TTC. Lots of hugs...

 

[Wicky78]

Hi ladies,

It's been a couple of weeks since I last posted. I've been able to catch up on what's going on with everyone a couple of times, but wasn't able to post. Since so much has happened since I last posted, I thought it was high time I updated you all.

The big news is that my brother passed away on September 22. It wasn't unexpected, as you all know, but still sad. His wife is beside herself with grief and angry at God for taking my brother at such a young age. I totally understand and it's still heartbreaking to watch. My whole family went for the funeral, which was last Friday (9/29). It was healing to get to spend time with family, plus everyone knows I'm pregnant so they were very happy and supportive of that news.

In the middle of all the funeral planning, I came down with a cold. It didn't seem too bad and I was able to fly without being miserable. Well, all that travel made the cold come back with a vengeance on Sunday, so I've been miserable and exhausted this week, so far. On top of that, I started spotting on 9/24 and it didn't stop until yesterday. Even though my RE said it was normal and not to worry, it was definitely unnerving.

Happy news, though, I had my first ultrasound this morning. We couldn't see much, but what we did see was the heartbeat!!! The RE could hear the heartbeat, but DW and I, not having trained ears, couldn't tell the heartbeat from random noise. I felt better knowing the heart is beating away and there's only one baby in there (for the sake of my health). I'm trying not to worry, but they dated our bean at 6+1 or 6+2 depending on what they measured. I should be 6+4 so I'm a little worried, but they also said it was a very grainy image and they weren't 100% certain they measured the embryo's size correctly. But I have to go back in a week for another scan and dating measurement.

All in all, I'm doing okay. Things have been stressful and sad, but there have been good moments in between and lots of quality family time. My sister lives about an hour away from me, but we hardly ever see each other. She is all excited about the baby and wants to throw me a shower in early spring, so I'm glad to have her (local) support.

I have to say, knowing that you all are here and going about your regular (and not so regular) lives really helped me when things got tough. I enjoy the mixture of happy news, complaints/rants, supporting each other, and sad news here. So I'm really glad to be a part of it.

 

[Wish2BMom]

wicky - I'm so glad to have an update on you. I assumed you were going through your brother's passing and all the family stuffs that go with it. I'm so happy you were able to attend and join your family in celebrating his life, while also being able to get little glimpses of happiness about your own new blossoming life in between.

A couple of days off on measurements isn't a big deal at all, especially with something so small. I think usually the 'threshold' is 5+ days off. So you're well within that range and you could even measure ahead next time! Overall, though - for the little heartbeat!!! I'm glad that the spotting wasn't anything your doc was worried about. I'd have been going a little nuts too but phew that things are good and you had that heartbeat in there. I bet you'll be able to hear it next week!

 

[Wish2BMom]

afm - I have my 23/24 week scan tomorrow! YAY! DH can come too so that's awesome. I'm going to have them check again that they are both boys!

other than that, heading to NYC this weekend for NYCC - should be fun but a bit challenging. But the friend that I'm going with both had twins and loves food and sleep, so she fully respects whenever I'll have to rest or eat. I'm hoping to get quite a bit of walking in too, which shouldn't be a problem. And pizza. NY pizza. mmmmmmmm

 

[Wish2BMom]

Great scan this morning! The boys look wonderful, though they are both breach now. Buggers. Twin A's feet and legs were tucked under him and he was face down, 1lb 7oz, HB of 148 and stubborn to give us a profile pic but we finally got one. Twin B's feet were up by his head, he was facing up, 1lb 5oz, HB of 140, more than happy to give a profile pic. He'll be my snuggly, calm Mama's boy
Now I know what the punches/kicks directly on my bladder and cervix have been - their little feet! They were so cute to watch move around.
I asked her to measure my uterine growth, just to see where my body actually is - 31 weeks. I'm only at 23+4!!

next scan is 11/3 and glucose test the week after that.

oh and they are definitely both boys!

 

[mikihope]

Wicky- I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m so glad, though, that you managed to attend your brother’s funeral and spend time with your family. And I’m so thrilled that you (or at least the RE) heard the heartbeat, and that your little embie is measuring well!

Wish- Woohoo for a great scan! It sounds so adorable, to see those twins moving around. Gummy is breech too, and that is why I get so uncomfortable “down there” so often. It’s those downward kicks! Wow, you're measuring 31 weeks! No wonder you’ve been uncomfortable. Your description of your discomfort in sitting down is similar to mine, I’ve been trying to find a way to feel comfortable, but I guess that all we can do is to minimize the discomfort.

TTC- I’m so sorry I hope that you’re doing ok.

AFM- Our babymoon was fantastic, everything about it was great! Then I come home to more rubbish from my mom. She’s still trying to trick my sister into not coming. I received a text from my sister that said our mom had told her that I hadn’t mentioned I wanted my sister to come over. I think my mom asked me at least 3 times if my sister needed to come. She asked it in a negative way (“Oh, you don’t really need her to be there, right?”), which I know always means that she wants to manipulate me into saying “no”. Each time, I emphatically said “YES! I really want her to come over!” Unfortunately, my sister never sees through her lies. First of all, my mom covers them up by pretending that she has good intentions, and secondly she pretends that she doesn’t remember things when it suits her (i.e. that I told her that I wanted my sister to be here). Argh! It’s so annoying! Anyway, there’s nothing I can do, and I believe that my sister is still coming over. I hate drama, so I’ll distance myself from this for as long as I can.

On a much more upbeat note, we went for a breastfeeding class yesterday and every time I held the plastic baby, gummy kicked/punched the baby. It was so cute! DH said that gummy was jealous

 

[Wish2BMom]

So glad your class went well, miki!! AND your babymoon!! how fun!! I'm sorry about your Mom, though. I'd probably just try to keep all communication with your sister separate from your Mom. Like if she asks something like that, just respond with 'I'll talk about that with her directly, thank you.' What a pain to have to keep navigating these waters!!

 

[TTC74]

I'm doing ok. Just baffled by the light bleeding. Normally I bleed for 4-5 days. This time I had one day of moderate bleeding and two days of light bleeding. Bizarro.

 

[Ask4joy]

TTC - I tend to have lighter bleeding after a CP. it usually starts with passing a couple clots then a shorter lighter period. Again I’m so sorry - it sucks.

Egg retrieval tomorrow morning - Wish me luck!

 

[TTC74]

Good luck, ask!

 

[terripeachy]

I hope all goes well today, ask. Exciting times ahead! Keep us posted.

 

[Wicky78]

I'm so excited for you, Ask! FX that all goes well and you get lots of little eggies today!

Wish, thank you for all the support and for being so excited about the heartbeat I also really appreciate the information about the dating at such an early point in the pregnancy. I had heard they are MORE accurate early on, but it makes sense that even a small mistake in measuring something so fuzzy/grainy and tiny could make several days' difference. Also, congrats on the good scan! I bet it's reassuring to see the boys doing well, even is space is at a premium in there

Miki, I'm so glad to hear you had a great babymoon. I'm not sure if DW and I will be able to take one, so I'll just live vicariously through others' Sorry that your happy bubble was burst as soon as you got home, though. Moms are such a pain in the you-know-what sometimes. I'm sure my mom-drama will reach a feverish pitch in a few months, since I have three moms (one bio, an ex step who raised me, current step), but I'm trying to pretend that it will all be fine. I hope your sister does come - it sounds like you need her with you more than your mom.

Welcome, Kerist! Sorry to hear about your loss, but hoping things will begin going in the right direction for you soon. This is a great group!

I hope everyone else is doing well. Happy Friday! Oh, and here's my scan picture. Sorry the quality is so bad - had to take a photo of the printout and the shiny paper caused problems.

 

[Ask4joy]

Thanks all! Egg retrieval went shockingly well...they retrieved 33 eggs! Won’t know until tomorrow how many were mature and fertilized. I was in a lot of pain afterwards but it’s slowly improving (with the help of Vicodin and my heating pad).

Wicky - I see your little bean! How exciting! How are you feeling?

 

[TTC74]

33?! That's great news. Can't wait for the update!

 

[Ask4joy]

Just got the call...we have 22 embryos! 24 of the 33 eggs were mature and 22 fertilized normally with ICSI! I’m in shock! Couldn’t ask for a better birthday present!

 

[Rainshiny]

Ask- that’s incredible! 22 embryos! Are you planning to test all of them?

Ttc- sorry hon- in to the next cycle!

Wicky- so sorry for the loss of your brother. It must have been heartbreaking. A very different situation than my grandmothers recent passing - she was close to 100 and had dementia. I hope to live as long as her that I don’t leave anyone in pieces when I die.
On another note- hooray for the heartbeat!!- that is a major milestone. Glad for you that it’s one I was worried for a hot minute! Lol...

Rawr- any updates?

Wish and Miki- I hope you find the perfect easy chairs!!
Congrats on the great scan wish!!!
Miki- I hope your mom butts out of your relationship with your sister. My theory is that your mom is jealous of how close you are since she doesn’t know how to have a close relationship with anyone.
I wonder if you, Miki and wish, will have your babies around the same time!

I took one twin with me to my grandmothers funeral last weekend- we were surprised that they did just fine without each other! As long as one mamma was there they didn’t seem to miss each other too much. They did give each other a hug when we got home which was super cute. It was nice/different being a single mom for a while, but tiring to travel with a wiggly octopus!

We had a horrible falling out w our past Nanny- she thought we owed her vacation for the rest of the year, but she had only accrued 12 hours and took that, plus we paid her 9 days for our trip to France (and she worked on top of that). It’s really sad bc I felt she was a friend in a way and it seemed like very close to the kids. She was really mean about it. So awful when someone shows their ugly side like that. Boo.

And kiddos are sick again- were up off and on from 7pm-2am.