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[somedayisnow]

Galvan, how long would you two be separated for? And how often during that time do you think you could see with each other?

Terri, thank goodness you're getting a "new" cake. I was starting to worry about you for a minute. That would've been one tough piece of cake. Oh and pear cake with caramel filling sounds to die for.

 

[CaribbeanBaby]

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/s...-success-stories-male-factor-infertility.html

Here it is Caribbean

Thanks BBbliss I will have a read!

I actually sent my husband on a mission last night to Walgreen's to pick up some FertilAid, but of course St Thomas isn't the most abundantly resourceful island... so he couldn't find it. We were on Skype while he was looking and so he decided to swallow his pride and ask one of the employees. (He's a very private kinda guy) He approached a young girl and showed her a photo on his phone of the bottle he was looking for, and asked "Do you have this?" And her first response was "What's it for?" Ohhh my poor husband just about melted into the ground. I heard him do his nervous giggle.. He was stuttering out "Uhhhh it's for... heh... male fertility". I have an awful sense of humour and on Skype in his ear I was like "Tell her it's for your balls!!!" Poor husband. He ended up scurrying back out of there in a hurry. I told him I would order them online for him.

Updated to add - just ordered FertilAid and MotilityBoost, and threw in some PreSeed just for the heck of it

 

[GalvanBaby]

It will take us about a year to 18 months for him to get his visa. I could come and visit every few months for a few days, so it wouldn't be that bad. Caribbean, how do you do it???

 

[CaribbeanBaby]

It will take us about a year to 18 months for him to get his visa. I could come and visit every few months for a few days, so it wouldn't be that bad. Caribbean, how do you do it???

I'm not going to say it doesn't suck... but I think sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. I say never let anything or anyone hold you back from what YOU want to do, otherwise do you get to the end of your life and say What if... ? Of course, that sounds easy in theory. A few days every few months sounds like a very limited amount of time. I see my husband every 3rd month for the entire month. So 6 - 8 weeks apart, 4 weeks together. I go there again mid November but this time he comes back with me to Australia for Christmas/NY/my birthday

If it's only for 12 - 18 months, then that's not too long in the grand scheme of things! It will feel sucky but I think absence really does make the heart grow fonder. You appreciate the time you spend together a lot more. Good luck, it's a tough decision.

 

[Bookwrmgal]

Galvan - there isn't any way for him to get a temporary visa? It's such a shame that you are in this position but imho I feel like you need to do what is best long term for your family and your own situation. If that means taking the job, then do it. Congrats on the job offer though!

Caribbean- I don't think any stores sell FertilAid and your story was hilarious! your poor DH (I would have been laughing hysterically in your shoes).

Someday - I am glad you are feeling better and better. And you can bet your bippy I will be all over that crepe station! I am even planning on trotting out the "I'm pregnant" card to get people out of my way!

 

[GalvanBaby]

Too freaking funny, Caribbean!! OH would not even go to buy it! LOL I sent him for an HPT once, and he begged not to send him! He went anyway, but didn't want to.

Book, he was in the US illegally for 4 years, so he can't live in the States without the waiver first. He could get a tourist visa, but to get that, he has to prove he has more connection to Mexico than the US, and that is hard to do being married to a US citizen who lives in the States. Immigration is a VERY tricky thing to deal with. I hate it, but love it at the same time! I love it because it is my legal choice, and love beating ICE and USCIS, but only when deserved. I am in no way one of those "let everyone in to the US" kind of people. I believe there are people we do not need in the US like criminals especially! God knows we have enough of those as it is who are citizens by birth. LOL

 

[CaribbeanBaby]

Caribbean- I don't think any stores sell FertilAid and your story was hilarious! your poor DH (I would have been laughing hysterically in your shoes).

I am absolutely not telling him that I sent him on a very embarrassing wild goose chase I will just have him believe it's because that Walgreen's is too small to stock it.

 

[Fezzle]

It sounds like there are some good weekends planned! Mine will mostly be filled with the unglamorous task of pulling up our carpet. But, I am going to see Gone Girl with my book club friends on Sunday. I am craving a good brunch now!

Book and terri- happy anniversary!

Caribbean- good luck with OH's swimmers! My OH's SA came back great, but we wonder if it's because early last year he had mono, but when he didn't know what it was, he freaked out and cut out everything unhealthy and started taking massive amounts of vitamins!

kfs- glad everything is going well! Looking forward to when your ivf starts!

Thanks all about being happy about my diagnosis! I'd rather have no fertility issues, but I guess if I have to have something, PCOS isn't a bad one to have, especially being older since it means I still have a lot of follicles. Taurus- my FS isn't sure that I'm ovulating; with PCOS, you have a lot of eggs, but they don't mature, so the Clomid helps that. Though since I've been having periods since I started the Metformin, I might be ovulating, just late since my periods are still irregular. She thinks the Clomid will help with my hormones (which are the issue with PCOS) so that my eggs will mature and I'll ovulate earlier, and also that I won't have the spotting I get in the TWW. We'll see! I'm still getting the asshole flashing smiley (9th day of it now).

 

[Bookwrmgal]

Galvan - I'm completely agree with you about immigration. It's just a shame in your situation because he has a family and wants to be a contributing member of society. I have an acquaintance who had such an issue getting her husband a green card from Australia, even with them being married and he was originally here as a student. Ugh. I hope he gets his waiver quickly.

Fezzle- I'm going to see Gone Girl this weekend too. I'm making DH take me. probably not anniversary appropriate but I really want to see it. I wasn't especially fond of the book - I thought her Sharp Objects was better, but I think the movie will be really well done. And so many women have PCOS and go on to have babies so I'm really glad your diagnosis is manageable and has a silver lining

 

[Jenny Bean]

Hello,

I am new here,
I am also newly married for less than a month now, age 38
Had a MC 3 years ago, that was unplanned.
This is technically my second month of trying however, the first month there was the batchelorette party and this month was the honeymoon each had lots of .
So considering my age and the recient events I feel abit foolish reaching out so early.
I would like for nothing more to have a but ready the stats etc is making me very nervous.
It is very hard not to let this process take on a life of its own, lol

 

[terripeachy]

Hi Jenny. Good luck to you and congrats on your wedding! Hopefully you'll get your BFP very soon.

Girls...I am feeling some kind of way this afternoon. Not sure, really. The nurse called and left a message saying that my transfer was great, and that I had two frosties. ONLY TWO?! So, I'm glad that I have them, of course, but out of 13-3 transferred-1 (slower growing embryo)=9. This means that 7 of them just stopped growing? What happened to them, and what are the chances that the three inside me are still growing??? I'm guess I'm just feeling bad, and now I want to eat cookies instead of these beautiful apples that I bought for a snack. I have homework to do and Orioles to watch in a few hours, so don't worry, I'm not walking off the ledge, but I am getting pretty close to it. *sigh*

 

[Rainshiny]

Hey all!
Argh on the frosties, Terri! Don't worry about the ones inside- the womb is a much more hospitable place for embie a than a Petri dish.

Welcome jenny!

 

[Bookwrmgal]

Welcome Jenny and congrats on your wedding!

{{Terri}} nevermind about those frosties because you won't need them!

 

[somedayisnow]

Welcome, Jenny.

Terri, I agree with Book. You're not going to need the frosties.

Galvan, I have no idea what I'd decide in your situation. 18 months seems like an awfully long time but then again each New Year's, I'm dumbfounded by how the quickly the previous year passed by.

 

[CaribbeanBaby]

Welcome Jenny I just got married in July and we've only tried for 2 cycles - never too early to get support! I am mainly here because my some of my friends are not really the best to talk to about getting pregnant (jealousy issues..) so I would rather talk to other ladies who are in the same boat and these girls are very supportive!

Peachy - So you have the chance at FIVE babies?! That's the way you should be looking at it.. Eat the Orioles and watch the cookies (did I get that right?) and make yourself feel good. Apples can wait another day and just concentrate on having sticky insides.

 

[GalvanBaby]

I have no idea where my post went, but Terri, I said in a longer post that I am sure you will get a BFP this time! Keep your head up!

AFM, the position they wanted to give me was in Denver or Raleigh, and I am only willing to take South Texas or GA because of family. I wanted GA though. SO I am staying here, maybe I will get pregnant since I am staying. LOL

 

[Rainshiny]

Hey galv, I thought you accepted the teaching job and were moving to GA? But either offer was long distance so you're turnig both down? Whatever you choose, I'm sure it will be awesome.

Terri, it's weird that they grow them to 6 days- I think that is rare. I think even many 3dayers that would have stopped growing in a dish implant when they are put back in. It's hard on those beans to grow outside, but waiting until 5 d makes sense since they freeze better, but six seems like a tough goal for the beans!
Oh yes eat pineapple too- it's good for implantation.

Someday glad you are feeling better! When can you start TTC?
Bliss/Kfs, can't wait to hear the next wave of updates!

Sheesh, my wife is foreign too- immigration was harder for us before doma fell last spring. Thank goodness she won the green card lottery or she would have been tied to her job she hated for a long time.
With the marriage bans falling like dominos, I wonder if that means we can adopt in those states too? Not sure.

Sw came on thurs. Not too bad. She basically wanted to make sure we are not raging alcoholics. Every visit I kept offering her baked goods, lol, can't hurt, right? This time it was a selection of pumpkin pastries. Thank gawd no more interviews! Now we need to gather pics.

Trader joes exploded with pumpkin everything. I'm going to make pumpkin oatmeal and pumpkin choc chip cookies!

 

[Jenny Bean]

Carribeanbaby, thank you and congrats on your wedding also!
We can support each other!

Terri, I have been following your other posts.
I just wanted to tell you my friend just had a
beautiful baby boy on her last transfer! So it's
very possible

 

[Rainshiny]

By the way, ladies, I was thinking that all our stories compiled together would make an amazing book, right?

 

[GalvanBaby]

The teaching job is online. OH thought he was going to get a work visa, but it fell through because he is married to a US citizen. LOL So no move back to GA yet.