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[Wish2BMom]

it's saying 'unauthorized access' for me, no pic

 

[Rainshiny]

Mikki- congrats on team blue!! It totally makes it more real. That's wonderful!! You are a bada$$ and will get through it all... but don't feel guilty if u have to take extra time off. You are doing your goshdarn best!!

Wish- I also took a nap at 9am yesterday. I think my pregnancy two years ago is still catching up w me!!! Hahaha.

Ttc- I can't access the images. I really hope it works! That would be incredible.

I don't think I can say anything to convince anyone at work of my competency... it's feels like the more I argue the less effective my points are. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing, and doing the right thing. I finished drafts of the projects that had been on hold, so that's good. I just needed to have my schedule cleared for a few days! I'm thinking of starting a women's leadership circle at my work.

We hired nannys for many hours over the four day weekend, and managed to clear out a lot of stuff and do an incredible amount of errands and paperwork! Also had a massage and went out to lunch. I feel fantastic now. Managing the stuff is constant but I feel like we finally got ahead of it.

 

[Wish2BMom]

I'm so jealous of your uber-productive weekend, rainy! And a massage...I could use one now but I heard not to get one in the first tri. 2-3 more weeks...ugh!
Also, sounds like you have a fantastic work ethic, so you'll get what should come to you and THEY will get what's coming to them.

now I'm sick! I caught a cold, I assume from being rundown from f'ing work, and I'm trying to fight it going into my chest. Taking the approved meds but trying not to take too much.
I think we both need out of our jobs. Let's start our own company!

 

[terripeachy]

I hope everyone had a nice holiday.

Miki-yeah for team blue. It's been a while since we've had a boy in our group so that's super exciting. Do you have any names picked out? Glad the results came back well.

Ttc-i agree with the others; no access and I certainly wasn't going to join the website. Hopefully today you have official good news for us.

Rain-good idea on starting the women's group. There's no way you are alone in this situation at your workplace. That never happens.

Wish-oh I just saw you posted. Sorry youre feeling a bit under the weather. I think that's something you'll have to get used to for a bit too. If you and rain start a new company, you should move down here!!

We had a nice picnic yesterday with three of my nieces and nephews. They spent the night and hubs is supposed to be taking them home today. I haven't heard from anyone so who knows what is happening, but when I woke up this morning everyone was knocked out. The neighbor bought fireworks and was shooting them off well into the night. We watched fireworks downtown and they were really good. I wasn't expecting having to listen to another show outside of my window. Ugh.

Vonn, MrsR-hey!!!

 

[Ask4joy]

I'm really having a hard time and don't know what to do. DH was supposed to have his SA today and surprise, surprise, he couldn't do it. He even "practiced" 4-5 days ago and succeeded. I don't know what to do. If he can't give a sample "under pressure" we will never be able to do IVF. This has happened 4 times now. With his first SA he had to cancel his first 2 appointments. Then last month we had to cancel the IUI. Now today we had to cancel his SA. How bad do you think it would be if we BD and he pulls out at the end? I honestly think that is the only way this will work. He was able to do it once with a collection condom for IUI but then couldn't last month. And even with pulling out I'm not sure because the time-limit seems to make him unable to do it even though we are fine the rest of the time. This whole journey is hard enough and to have to deal with this on top of it is making me depressed. I know this makes him feel horrible but this is the 1 single thing he has to do in this process and he can't.

 

[Wish2BMom]

terri - sounds like you had a great holiday!! you'd clearly have to open the business with us. Our financial planner.

ask - couple of different options - are you close enough to the drop-off office where he could do it from home and drive it in? I think it has to be within the half hour or something. We did that, so DH was in the safety of his own home. Or can you go with him and 'help'? they do allow the spouses to go in with them. I don't know about the pulling out, only b/c of all of the other stuff that could be included (your excretions - sorry!) and I think saliva kills sperm?

 

[terripeachy]

Ask- I can hear your frustration and I totally get it. You have one job!!!! Makes me want to scream when we have to do freaking everything else and something as simple as jacking off into a cup is your 'hurdle.' can you tell I have PTSD? Hee hee.

Now that I have taken a breath, I'm with Wish. See if he can do it at home, keep it warm and bring it in. If not, he's going to have to find a way or donor sperm it is! Maybe that will give him the kick in the pants he needs OR maybe he doesn't really mind. So my vote is to ask the clinic if he can bring it in our have a come to Jesus meeting about this. We don't have time for cancelling appointments and not producing in a timely fashion. Hugs. I'm here all week. Ha.

 

[Ask4joy]

Thanks Wish and Terri...we have tried all of these things! Even in the privacy of our home with "visual aids" he hasn't been able to do it the last 2 times we had appointments. Once he was able to with a collection condom but last month that method failed. After we called to tell them we wouldn't make it we BDed with no problem and I conceived but as you know it ended in a CP. Me "helping" almost seems to make the pressure worse. It's a total mental thing and I don't know how to help. I guess we just have to keep trying and making appointments until it works.

 

[TTC74]

I have no good news. I'm not counting myself out quite yet, though. I'm 10 DPO and with my LO, I went for a blood test at 10 DPO and only had a beta of 5. I'll give more credence to tomorrow's test.

Ask - I don't think saliva kills sperm. My RE actually recommended it as a lubricant when we were TTC.

Rain - I totally get it. It took my 8 years to get a promotion that everyone else got in about 2. It was all related to the fact that the boss's best buddy in the office didn't like me. It had nothing to do with my competence. It was awful. When the best buddy quit, I celebrated. Less than six months later, I was promoted. The process really sucked, though. It started to affect my self-esteem in a massive way.

 

[mikihope]

Thanks, Rain, Wish and Terri! We haven’t thought of names, but I’m sure we’ll come up with really silly ones as time goes on. DH and I are rarely serious! But yeah, we’d better put our tiny brains together and think up some nice and non-silly names for little gummy.

TTC- Fx for you!

Ask- I'm sorry you're going through all that stress. I don't have any suggestions that haven't been mentioned already. I really hope that your husband manages a successful collection the next time. For IVF, maybe they can freeze the sample and have it available for retrieval?

Wish- Poor you, I hope you recover from your cold soon. It really does sound that your job is sapping you, and it has taken its toll. I really feel that it would be good for you to move on to greener pastures, I really hope it happens for you soon! I do agree with you that the stress and tiredness make us feel even worse. I have gone backwards with respect to nausea and exhaustion again, but I think it’s partly due to the stress I’m feeling due to worries about work performance, worried about DH having to deal with most of the unpacking, not having much time together with him because he’s still working weekends (was supposed to be short term, but it’s been almost 2 years). Argh!

Rain- What a tough time you’re having at work now, kudos to you for moving forward and doing the right thing. I think you’re the bada$$ ! I think the women’s leadership circle is a great idea, and you’re so strong for being able to start things like this. And that’s great that you had such a productive weekend! I want one of those!

Terri- Sounds like you had a great day yesterday! But too bad your night was marred by the noise from your neighbor.

Ugh, I’m sooo bloated, I don’t seem to have any relief from it except for first thing in the morning. I think I’m going to have to go shopping for pants, but I truly dread clothes shopping. DH would do it for me if it were possible. Hmm… Anyway, I wish I could wear dresses in to the lab, but since I can’t, it looks like pants shopping is in the near future for me!

 

[TTC74]

Looks like I may have a late implanter. I'm 11 DPO and I have the faintest of lines. Here is the original, the saturated, and the inverted pics.

 

[TTC74]

Cannot replicate with SMU and feeling crampy like AF is coming. Time will tell . . .

 

[Wish2BMom]

i def see it on the last 2, TTC! Cramping is sometimes good, right? And how the heck are you getting blood tests at 10DPO??? I'd be turned away flat-out!
Hang in there - it may stick!

miki - can you wear yoga-ish pants to work? I've been living out of mine that I picked up a few years ago at Target. Easy, simple shopping - they are Champion brand, black. I found a size that fit and bought 5 pairs. That way you aren't killing yourself shopping, not dropping a lot of $ and there's little decision making involved. And they're stretchy!

ask - good luck! maybe the repetition of trying will normalize the process for him and he'll be successful soon. FXed

terri - you are SO allowed to have PTSD on that very subject. Preach.

afm - trying not to work myself into a tizzy by reading into things, of course. This cold is adding in variables that I don't like and I can't aptly analyze myself and symptoms daily! My boobs aren't hurting as much lately, but I just read last night that the acute pain will leave after a couple of months, so that's now. I was terribly fatigued last night around 5:30 (and Tues night if I"m honest) but is that b/c I'm sick? or b/c of the pregnancy? I'm not as hungry anymore throughout the day either - not like crazy, endless pit hungry like I was. Guess I'm just feeling more normal and it's scary! I'm not even close to out of the first tri yet! Next scan is next Wed and it can't come soon enough. Just constant worrying here...

 

[Ask4joy]

I see it TTC! Hoping it keeps getting darker for you! Cramps could be due to early pregnancy as I'm sure you know!

We got the sample done today but we broke the rules and had sex using preseed and he pulled out (sorry TMI). I guess we will see how the quality is...hopefully it won't make much of a difference! We will try the collection condom again next time (didn't have one this time) for the sample that they will freeze. Hopefully we didn't just blow $200!

 

[TTC74]

I got some sure predicts and I see nothing. So, I'm thinking the frer was a fluke.

 

[terripeachy]

Ttc-when were those first tests from? I'd wait until tomorrow and see. Don't give up yet.

Wish-maybe you're just adapting. I don't have any advice, but maybe Rain will pop on and reassure you.

Ask-phew! I hope everything is OK with the sample. And get some spare collection condoms. Preseed should be safe I would think.

Two days until I leave for IL. I'm trying to pack tonight and take it easy tomorrow. Many of my friends are on the road so I'm getting excited.

 

[TTC74]

The FRER was fmu. So, it's conceivable that the later tests are just dilute samples. I'm just not getting up my hopes.

Enjoy IL!

 

[TTC74]

12 DPO. Just waiting for AF now.

 

[Ask4joy]

I'm still seeing a shadow of a line TTC. Hate to say it but may be a CP. Still hoping AF doesn't show for you!

 

[mikihope]

Wish- yoga-ish pants might just work, thanks! I told DH about your idea, and now we're going to go to Target (and maybe some other stores) next week on his special weekend off. He managed to take time off for that week, which is super rare. I wish we didn't have to waste our precious weekend, but I hate shopping and prefer to have DH's company, and DH likes shopping a lot more than I do!
I'm sorry you're not feeling well, and are anxious about your symptoms. I read up a lot about symptoms as I was inundated with them in my first tri, and what I found is that they come and go for many (most?) women. It did for my sister too. Many women were already losing symptoms by week 8-10. And a number of women with twin pregnancies said that they were very easy and basically symptom-free. I guess what I'm trying to say is that less symptoms shouldn't be anything to worry about, but I know that it's impossible not to. I'm glad that you have a scan coming up soon!

TTC- I hope AF doesn't show for you too!

Ask- What a relief, I hope the sample is good!

Terri- Have you left for IL yet? I bet you're going to have a blast, as usual

AFM- Am trying to get back my lost fitness, despite my exhaustion. Someone at work told me I looked very tired, and I do. No pregnancy glow for me, just dark circles around my eyes. I don't wear makeup, so all my tiredness is out there for the world to see! Anyway, I've started walking easy trails, but it's discouraging how weak I am now, huffing and puffing on easy short walks. I used to be fit, playing lots of basketball, doing triathlons, etc. Those days are long gone, but I hope to at least be able to get back to a bit of running!