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[terripeachy]

Wish-love the ticker! I was just about to ask you and Miki to consider putting one up because I can't remember your weeks. Thank you!!

Mrs R-welcome back. Glad to hear things aren't going too bad. Did you pick a name yet? I can't remember.

Rain-i think it'll be good to potty train one at a time. When the boy sees the girl going, he'll want to try it too. That's the beauty of twins, right? They have each other to learn from.

Ask-would you consider donor eggs? It seems like a lot of $ and time to wait for one chromosomoly good egg even though I guess 10% doesn't seem too bad. I'm just impatient, so don't mind me. I agree with the others as far as it being lucky/unlucky. I'm glad they were able to find it instead of simply unexplained.

Hi to everyone else. Orioles have been winning lately so I'm excited again. My bestie Andy u went to the game last night. I love going to the games with her. We just talk and eat stadium food the whole time. it was super hot though. We were sweaty, sweaty girls.

 

[Ask4joy]

My doctor seems confident we will find a good embryo but the only way we could do more than 1 cycle is with some kind of grant. I'm not ready to give up on having a biological child but I'm totally open to donor eggs if that doesn't work out. I've talked to some Turner Syndrome women who have conceived naturally a healthy baby after several miscarriages so that's still a possibility!

 

[Alleke]

Thank you, ladies. I’m all recovered now. I had some sort of infection, but I don’t think they tested for the exact one.

Miki, you look lovely! Your bump is and will be very cute!

Ask, I’m sorry about your news. But, it’s always better to know what you’re dealing with, so you know how to deal with it. It’s great that you’re working with doctors who can help you make the right decisions for you going forward.

AFM, I’m writing this as my guests catch up on a bit of sleep. They arrived yesterday, as did AF. So, I will probably not even be lurking for the next 10 days. I will be drinking and gallivanting, instead! When they leave, we will start BDing all day every day. We had been trying to sway pink with timing, and we have decided to stop that this month.

 

[Wish2BMom]

Hi all!

ready for the weekend? I am and I haven't even been killing it at work this week. I had an interview at a new place this morning and I think it went really, really well. I had to meet with a panel of 3 people but all were very engaging and not intimidating at all. Fingers crossed!

rain - that sounds like a great PT plan and I bet what terri says will happen. Boy will be so curious and hear all of the praise girl is getting and want in on that. Hopefully!! Glad you're getting some sleep too! Sleep is NOT overrated, I love it and it loves me and I'll miss it terribly in a few months!

terri - oooooh a ball game and stadium food sounds AMAZING right now! I don't even care about the heat! Glad you had such a good time. You're welcome for the ticker!

alleke - have fun with your guests, gluttony and gallivanting! HA! Have one for me!

ask - I wish you nothing but luck in continuing to try for your own but am here if you ever want to start asking about DE. Truth is, I'm still wrapping my head around it but it's given us this shot at a family so I'm forever thankful that there is such thing as this process.

msr - so glad you're feeling good, besides those little thing! omigosh,YES - baby watch is ON! Yes, do you have a name yet?

thanks for all of the well wishes - I am so happy. I told all of work last night at an outing we had. A few people already knew so it was more letting them off the hook of the secret. But there were a couple that I consider friends that didn't yet know so it was fun to tell them. Then my boss started joking about how the babies would be hired and they are 'Company 2.0' or whatever. Nope nope nope nope. I gotta get out of here...

have a great weekend everyone!

 

[mikihope]

Wow, so much going on! It would be great if we got some BFPs on this thread, I’m keeping my fingers crossed for those who are TTC!

Ask- Thanks! You have such a great attitude! I’m sure you’ll be successful in your TTC journey, I hope it will come real soon for you.

Wish- I love your ticker! Too cute, you have two nuggets now! What a promising interview you had, I hope you get the job! Oh yes, thanks for the great Halloween costume idea --basketball belly!

Terri- I’m sorry to hear that you couldn’t go to your family reunion, I hope you can go the next time. At least you get to enjoy watching your Os play, and spend time with your bestie. How wonderful! The heat didn’t sound wonderful at all, though. Eew, sweaty!

MsR- Thanks! I’m impressed that you managed to imagine what I looked like. Great to hear that you are doing well, but too bad you have to deal with being overwhelmed with work as well as the other issues. I hope you feel better soon, and your bp stays in a good range. Wow, 6 or 7 weeks to go! How exciting, almost time to meet baby!

Alleke- Thanks! Wow, sounds like you’re in for a "hedonistic" time... enjoy your drinking/gallivanting/BDing! Good luck, and may this be your month!

Rain- Thanks! Hmm... yes, I am in fact feeling much better (except for the extreme bloating!). I have much less nausea, even if I don’t have all my appetite back. I’m so glad, I hated feeling so queasy! I am definitely enjoying the pregnancy much more, and feeling much more like my old positive self.

So I’m feeling a bit more energetic, and I tried to break into a little jog during my walk yesterday. And I reeeaally sucked! I felt little pains in my boobs and other parts of my body, I was so slow, and I felt like a clumsy hippo. It was embarrassing Luckily DH has set up some gym equipment and put his road bike on the trainer, for me to try to get fit in the comfort of our home. Oh, and I’m not sure... but I think I’ve been feeling some pops/flutters that may be gummy moving around in there. I’ve been feeling the fluttering for over a week, wondering if it’s gas or my imagination, but I think they’re getting stronger!

 

[Wish2BMom]

ohhhhhhh feeling flutters!!! it's just about that time!! I'm so excited for you!
yes, I need to get on this workout thing - the owner of my gym (it's a small boxing/martial arts gym) was messaging me through FB last weekend and said that I could come in for the rest of July and August for free since I barely got to use my membership earlier this year. I had put the membership on hold when I found out I was preg to save the $100/mo, knowing I wouldn't come in during the first tri. Maybe I'll get some energy to go a couple of times. I feel like fatigue is hitting me late, though.

I can't wait to see which craving food my nuggets are on Monday!

 

[TTC74]

Wish - What kind of cravings have you had thus far?

 

[Wish2BMom]

Definite sweet tooth! ice cream has been on the top of that list but if a cupcake passes my way, I have zero ability to say no. I'm making sure I balance it out with lots of good stuff, though!

how are you doing? we in another TWW yet?

 

[mikihope]

How was everyone's weekend?

Wish- That's great, 2 months free at your gym! I hope you get your energy back so you can make use of it. I have a sweet tooth too! Sounds like you have more willpower than I have, though. Yep, I've been feeling flutters and I hope it's from little gummy moving around in there!

I went for a prenatal checkup today, but it was a very quick one. There was no scan, and DH was so disappointed. But we heard the heartbeat, so that was good! I asked the doc about the possibility of a vaginal delivery, given that I broke my pelvis a year ago, and apparently it is possible as long as my pelvis doesn't start hurting beforehand. Hmm...

I've been reading stuff on the net written by women who are 17 weeks along, and they have already bought a bunch of baby stuff. I haven't bought anything, except for some maternity jeans. The Target (thanks for the suggestion, Wish!) I went to had a Maternity section, so that was convenient. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to be looking at baby stuff now, or it's still early...

 

[Wish2BMom]

So glad your appt went well! You look like you're really healthy and I'm sure you're all healed up and ready for birth. You still have a few more months too, so I'm sure you'll be great!

Yeah, I'm not sure when to start looking either! It's actually not even on my radar, oddly enough. I think it might freak me out and make it too real or something, even though the most real thing should be that they are growing inside me! I don't think 17 weeks is too early, though. Maybe ease yourself into it and pick up a cute onesie somewhere you and DH go to visit sometime soon? I also plan on accepting any and all hand-me-downs, since we're just about the last ones in our groups of friends to have children.

I've been feeling little things too, very rarely but I've read that it's completely possible to feel them now with twins. Feels like a tiny little muscle spasm. I only feel it when I'm laying in bed at night.

Vonn - I hope you're doing well and can hop on soon to give us an update!

 

[TTC74]

Wish - that makes perfect sense! Babies are more active when we lie down for bed. As a matter of fact, when babies are born, their sleep schedules are backwards because of it. Apparently, they are soothed to sleep by our walking around in the daytime.

Miki - I don't think it's too early to start looking at baby stuff! I totally get the weirdness of looking, though. I don't think I was comfortable truly shopping until I could really feel the movement in a major way on a regular basis.

AFM - I am 1 DPO today. BD last night. We'll see if anything comes of it. Also, baby B is doing great! She slept in her crib for the first time last night! She slept awesome! She's been waking up in the middle of the night (which is weird since she started sleeping through the night by 2 months but stopped again at about 4), but last night night, she slept like a rock. So, we think she may just be sensitive to light and sound. We have the terrible habit of sleeping with the TV on.

 

[Ask4joy]

Ladies, I'm struggling and need somewhere to vent! I don't like sharing marital problems with close friends and family so I guess this is a better place that anywhere. DH lost his job 3.5 months ago. A company is in the process of making him an offer this week but the stress we have endured the last few months is enough to tear our marriage apart. DH has become an uptight, irritable, negative a-hole. I understand it's a result of the situation but I feel like I can't take it anymore. Lately I feel like we truly hate each other. I wake up hating him and go to bed hating him. This will sound selfish but I feel like he has ruined my summer. This time was supposed to be a time to relax and recoup and GET PREGNANT. He is too stressed and irritable to care at all about my well being. Our relationship has become a constant power struggle and shouting match. He won't compromise anymore. I feel like running away. I feel like the man I married is nowhere to be found. Honestly, he was the least sympathetic of anyone after my Turner Syndrome diagnosis last week. I'm at the end of my rope. Please tell me it will get better! In the past when we would argue we would make up and all was well again but lately it seems we aren't getting over it and are both developing major resentments.

 

[Wish2BMom]

FX'ed, TTC!!!

ask - oh man, that's so hard. Marriage BLOWS sometimes!!! Especially when we are on complete 100% different pages. I am no expert but I would say to hang in there - I'm sure he feels like he's under considerable pressure right now not having a job (esp, and maybe looking at his age maybe he feels like he should be the breadwinner/supporter/etc) and feels like a failure there, and then maybe feels like a failure b/c he can't get you pregnant, and then potentially even more of a failure if he knows or senses you feel this way about him and there's nothing he can do about it. I'm not saying you're wrong, maybe he is just a d*ck. But usually a person doesn't just change into one. And men are OH SO GOOD at sharing their feelings...not. Just TTC, without all of the other stuff, can send a shiv into the middle of a relationship. You guys have considerably more going on.

I really hope that this job works out for him and maybe that will give him a sense of belonging/responsibility or whatnot (not the right words I'm looking for but thinking you get my drift?) again and maybe his attitude will ease up again. I would say, if after that it doesn't, then maybe reassess things. Tough to base anything on your current situation b/c things, from potentially his perspective, really need to get better. All that said, I think it's also enlightening to know how the other responds in tough situations. I've learned that my DH and I don't do well in tough situations either and definitely build resentments. A lot of that happens b/c we choose not to communicate to each other b/c we know it'll be a blowout or the other won't listen. So we silence ourselves and stew.

 

[Lee37]

Congrats Vonn! shes beautiful!

Hi, everyone! Sorry I have so absent lately. Things have been incredibly hectic with moving, looking for a house, dealing with the increased dr visits and preparing for an early delivery. We finished moving everything into my parent's basement a week ago Friday, cleaned the condo over the weekend and closed on the sale of our condo on Monday. On Tuesday, we went in for a dr appt to check on blood pressure and baby. Baby looked good, but BP was too high. We got sent back to hospital. Once there, the labs indicated I had protein in my urine, which meant I had developed preeclampsia. Inducement required that day. I was super overwhelmed and not prepared at all. Nothing was ready. But baby was coming no matter what. The first part of inducing took a full day, then things started moving a little more quickly.

Our little girl arrived at 6:09 am on July 13. She weighed 5lbs 4 oz and was 18.5 in long. She came 4 weeks early. I'd love for you all to meet Sailor Elizabeth! She is the most adorable little thing I have ever known. Her dad is completely smitten, which makes me love them both even more.

It is Sunday and we are still in the hospital. Me, because my BP is not coming down. They increased my med and are waiting to see if it starts to drop. Baby Sailor dropped too much weight and developed jaundice. She is now undergoing photo therapy for 24 hrs, so we have to see how that improves. She's got to wear goggles and looks like our baby from the future.

The preeclampsia and magnesium they give to prevent stroke and seizure can impact milk production. Mine still hasn't come in and we are supplementing entirely with donor breast milk. I am doing everything I can to produce and hope it happens. That is my biggest personal concern right now, how we will feed little Sailor when we leave.

It's been quite a ride so far!

 

[Lee37]

Wish so happy all is going great and you can share the news!! So wonderful Lily is 10 months old now, cant believe I will be weaning her soon. It goes so fast! Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy! Excited to see scan pic and bump pic updates!!

Hi all!

ready for the weekend? I am and I haven't even been killing it at work this week. I had an interview at a new place this morning and I think it went really, really well. I had to meet with a panel of 3 people but all were very engaging and not intimidating at all. Fingers crossed!

rain - that sounds like a great PT plan and I bet what terri says will happen. Boy will be so curious and hear all of the praise girl is getting and want in on that. Hopefully!! Glad you're getting some sleep too! Sleep is NOT overrated, I love it and it loves me and I'll miss it terribly in a few months!

terri - oooooh a ball game and stadium food sounds AMAZING right now! I don't even care about the heat! Glad you had such a good time. You're welcome for the ticker!

alleke - have fun with your guests, gluttony and gallivanting! HA! Have one for me!

ask - I wish you nothing but luck in continuing to try for your own but am here if you ever want to start asking about DE. Truth is, I'm still wrapping my head around it but it's given us this shot at a family so I'm forever thankful that there is such thing as this process.

msr - so glad you're feeling good, besides those little thing! omigosh,YES - baby watch is ON! Yes, do you have a name yet?

thanks for all of the well wishes - I am so happy. I told all of work last night at an outing we had. A few people already knew so it was more letting them off the hook of the secret. But there were a couple that I consider friends that didn't yet know so it was fun to tell them. Then my boss started joking about how the babies would be hired and they are 'Company 2.0' or whatever. Nope nope nope nope. I gotta get out of here...

have a great weekend everyone!

 

[mikihope]

Wish- Thanks so much for the encouraging words! That’s a good idea, maybe buying a onesie might be a fun way to start. DH likes to buy stuff, so maybe he’ll get into the choosing and buying of baby stuff and take a load off my mind. Do you start feeling movement earlier with twins? I think I feel the muscle spasm type feelings too! It’s like a light twitching for me.

TTC- Fx for you! And it’s great to hear that your little baby B is doing so well! I think I feel the same way you did about buying baby stuff, I would feel much more comfortable buying something if I felt regular movement. I hope that’s coming soon!

Ask- I’m sorry that your husband is being irritable and negative. It does sound to me that he is very stressed and unhappy at the moment. Unfortunately I don’t really know what to suggest to make it better (I think Wish had some wise thoughts). I do think that since he was not like this before he lost his job, that it is just situational and should go away once he gets a new job. I hope that is just around the corner! Unfortunately, it’s tough that both of you need each other’s emotional support at the moment, and I think that is adding to the resentment. It’s tough, but I think it will pass

 

[mikihope]

Finally trying out a ticker...

 

[terripeachy]

Yeah Miki!!

Ask-i agree with the others. Marriage is hard. Making babies is hard, raising children is hard, losing a job is hard and you have two out of three going for you. Maybe you should try doing something nice for your husband and explain how you are feeling. He doesn't have to explain himself but maybe having you open up will allow him to see how his situation is not only affecting him but you as well. Be the bigger person. We always have to do that and it sucks, but men have no concept of communicating their true feelings and so if you do it first he may get a clue. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're not alone. My hubs and I had many issues when we were TTC and I figure it's just how things go when people are not on the same page. Everything is still not perfect but it's a lot more manageable at this stage of the game. I hope by now things are a little better.

Afm-headed to pa to deal with landlord-tenant stuff. Why, why is this such a trying process? Hopefully my tenant will really get out when her lease is up in a few weeks. I'm serving her teeth day notice today. I should have dinner it in May but I was trying to give her the benefit if the doubt even though she's been plucking my nerves since day 1. No more ms. reasonable landlord. I will do as much as possible to get these people out the day after their rent is late.

 

[Wish2BMom]

love the ticker, miki!!

terri - ugh, I hope it went well for you this weekend. I have to say that our property management company has been a lifesaver. I could NOT deal with tenants on a daily basis. Or weekly, or monthly...no thanks. We actually looked into selling our duplex this year since the market is so good but nah. Not yet. Sigh.
Sox are out of #1 spot - told ya they always blow it!!

 

[Vonn]

Wish--I love how happy you are. It's so wonderful to see your success and positivity. You're going to be an amazing mom! How's your bump coming?

Terri--I really hope your next tenant is amazing. It seems like the past few have caused nothing but stress.

Ask--I'm so sorry you are having marital troubles. Infertility put a huge strain on my marriage. They say it's as stressful as having cancer, so it's no wonder marriages suffer. I found going to a therapist was extremely helpful. I wanted to go to one with DH, but he wasn't interested, so I went to one myself and it still made a big difference. I think for many of us, relationships suffered while TTC. Know that you are not alone in having this issue. I hope you and DH can work through it.

Miki--I feel you on buying baby stuff. I looked a bit, but was hesitant to buy anything for a long time.

TTC--what was Bellamy sleeping in prior to using the crib? Any tips for how you fit her to sleep through the night so early? We are a ways from that, but it sounds absolutely glorious!

Hi to everyone else!

AFM--checking in as I pump, which I am doing every two hours to try and stimulate milk supply. I am also taking supplements and tea and eating foods that can help. So far it hasn't really improved. I am trying to be patient and not get down but it's hard. I will be so disappointed if I can't breastfeed but I am trying hard not to dwell on it.

Sailor is doing really well! She is such a sweetheart. She was up to 6 lbs at her appt on Thursday. She still mainly sleeps, but was awake for about 3 hrs between feedings this morning. That's a record for her! She fusses a little when she's hungry but rarely cries. She's changed a lot already.

We've started having visitors and it's so fun to have ppl meet her, but it seriously messes up our schedule. DH is back at work now so it's nice to have my parents around to help when feeding and pumping happen to be at the same time.