BFP today after MC 4 weeks ago

[toothfairy29]

Hi Ladies
I got a BFP today at 10dpo on FRER and a pregnant 1-2 weeks on a digi also. I MC at 7 weeks on 28th Feb. Doc said we didn't need to wait to try again as no medical intervention. So I haven't had AF since MC.

I don't know how I feel? I was so desperate to get pregnant again but now that I have seen the lines I have mixed feelings. I haven't even told my hubby yet even though I got v faint line yesterday.

I had a 5 wk MC in november last year also so this is the 3rd pregnancy in 6 months. The other 2 times I was really excited by the BFP but this time I just don't know?? It's almost like it doesn't really mean anything?? Does that make sense? I know I'm in for a worrying time. I don't even feel like going to the doctors for a few weeks either.

Did anyone else feel the same??

 

[toothfairy29]

anyone??

 

[ChiGirl18]

Hey!

I had a mc on Feb. 29 and today got a bfp... 9 dpo. I feel the same way. Very scared. My doctor told me to wait a full cycle and, obviously, we didnt listen. i am comforted to hear that your doctor said it was okay to try right away. Are you ttc #1? Keep me posted on your progress... sounds like we are days apart on things!

 

[Kita]

I felt the same way for a long time. Even after things were confirmed with this pregnancy and I saw him wiggling on the screen. My first BFP I was completely in love with and after the MC everything seemed to fall apart. Don't get me wrong, I am very much in love with my little one on board now but it took a WHILE before I REALLY felt that way, I was too scared to get attached and then lose him too you know?

Good luck ladies!

 

[tuckie27]

Yep, totally felt weird about this bfp too. Didn't want to get excited just to be let down if something goes wrong. My hubby didn't even acknowledge for a few days after I told him. Miscarriages tend to take out a lot of the joy and excitement that we felt the first time :/ Gotta have hope though! Always be optimistic, even if you don't want to get too excited because you're scared...I can never lose hope

 

[beth30]

I got pregnant with my son just after my first m/c... no period between. I was scared, but I was at ease with his pregnancy.... then I had trouble after him, a couple more m/c-I always felt that something was wrong, and I was right, and now here I am, almost 11 weeks, and although I feel more at ease with this one, and have since the beginning, I still am nervous, and afraid to get invested emotionally. But, I am hopeful that things will be okay.

 

[toothfairy29]

Oh Ladies you are all AWESOME!!!!!!

KITA you have an inspirational bump!!

Chigirl lets try keep in touch as seems like we're only days apart.

Tuckie and Beth..... is anything different with this pregnancy?

I am 13dpo and feeling very sick already. I have a 13 and a 15 year old and was sick badly with them both. With my 2 recent MCs I hardly felt sick at all and midwife said probably as I am older and with a different partner. I am hoping this is a good sign although hard to see feeling so sick in a positive way

Thanks for the replies! Love to you all x x x x

 

[ChiGirl18]

when are you planning on scheduling your first appointment with your doctor? i have not called mine yet... i think i am going to wait it out another week. just wondering if she'll want to see me earlier bc this is straight after mc?

 

[toothfairy29]

I was at doc couple days ago with a cough/virus I can't shake off. Wasn't gonna see him about preg for few wks but ended up mentioning it. I asked not to have in acknowledged or see midwife or anything yet. Said I'd go back in few wks. He wasn't interested to be honest. When I mc at 7 wks they couldn't even get me in for scan for 5 days even though I was bleeding, by time scan day came they wouldn't do it as my preg tests were almost negative. Said thy didn't need to check I'd lost it all even. They were so matter of fact and unhelpful that I can't face them again. I ended up paying for a private scan when started bleeding. I will pay again at 7 wks if I get there and then go see doc I think?
How about you?

 

[ChiGirl18]

wow... it seems like they are to busy to care! can you find another doctor?? Normally my doctor likes to see me at 8 wks to check everything--blood test, baby's heart beat, ultrasound. but she told me to wait a full cycle before getting pregnant again. i did not do that and never got af. i am wondering if shell need to see me sooner bc of the mc? I am actually kind of scared to call her. i feel bad about not listening to her advise and now im really worried about the baby.

 

[fingerscrosed]

hi girls i had a mmc in jan then in feb found out i was preg again so got preg bout 2 wks after my d&c, so i 2 didnt have a mthly. as far as i no my little jelly been is doing fine at mo i had a scan at 7.1 as was spotting but all was fine then had another at 7.4 as i been in hos as soo sick had 2 go on a drip but so say thats a good sign i am now on tabs 2 help sickness. so i am 9 wks on monday hope all goes well 4 u all and me

 

[fingerscrosed]

when are you planning on scheduling your first appointment with your doctor? i have not called mine yet... i think i am going to wait it out another week. just wondering if she'll want to see me earlier bc this is straight after mc?

hi hun was that ur 1st mc? as i had a mc in jan and like u got preg stright away. my mw isnt seeing me till i am 10 wks as she said that mcs r so common that unless u have at lest 3 they dont treat it any diff sounds hard well i thought it did any way but in a way can see where she coming from hope that helps x

 

[ChiGirl18]

yes... first mc. i do have a baby boy, so i know it is possible for me to carry a pregnancy all the way through. what your mw said is very comforting and hopeful for me! i guess they cant really do anything so early in the pregnancy anyway. i will call my doc in a week or so (hopefully the little one keeps sticking!!!) and see what she wants me to do. i have heard its hard for them to date the pregnancy if its right after a mc so they might want to scan earlier?

 

[toothfairy29]

Mine said ok to try straight away when I went to private scan. from what I have researched they only like you to wait one cycle so the pregnancy is easier to date?

 

[Kita]

I think medical professionals want you to wait a cycle BECAUSE of dating purposes. I just used the date of my MC as my LMP date even though I made it clear that it was a MC and not really a period.. And thats what they are basing my due date (April 10) off of. My first scan was at 14 weeks and by that time it can be harder to date a pregnancy because I think after 10 weeks ( cant remember) then babies can grow at slightly different rates so it is less accurate the further along you are. Based off my scan I would be due on April 17.

It will confuse them for a while at first as you explain to everyone who asks when your LMP was that it was actually a MC but they will get used to it. I believe it was september that I had my scan and when they'd ask about LMP I'd have to explain that officially it was at the end of May, I got pregnant in June and MC'd July 5th.. And then found out I was preg AGAIN August 5th. So I'd count July 5th as my "LMP"