Birth Cert Question

[babybaillie]

As this is the 2nd baby with d same man. He loves our 1st daughter and is a great dad, but has vowed to have nothing to do with the 2nd one. Unless this changes i have a question. Our 1st daughter has his surname and obviously is on the birth cert. He has demanded his name not be put on our 2nd daughters cert which i told him i cannot do unless he was there. But i do want both my daughters to have the same surname. And i no he would never let me change our 1st daughters surname. so what im askin is can i chose his surname for my daughter without his name being on the cert, as it will be a diffrent surname to mine?

 

[Sherileigh]

WHAT? Why in the world would he not want to be part of the 2nd baby's life? Will you guys all be living together?

 

[tasha41]

You can put in whichever surname you want, but you either have to have him sign the form or explain why that was the choice I believe?

Do you WANT him to have the privelage of passing his surname onto your daughter if he's going to be like this?

 

[McLovin]

I would look into ways of getting your first daughter's surname if I was you - maybe make a trip to the citizen's advice office for some free legal advice.
Why should he have the privilidge? Also, won't your second daughter be jealous that her big sister gets a dad and she doesn't? x

 

[purpledahlia]

how on earth can he choose to care about one child but not the other?! ESP when both have the same mother/house etc... he might change his mind

 

[xxannxx]

As far as i know the baby can only have his surname if he is named as the father, so you would need him to be there and consent. I understand that you wouldn't want both children to have different names, so agree with previous post that maybe you should look into changing 1st childs name to your's.

 

[babybaillie]

I would need his permission to have 1st daughters surname changed and he will NEVER agree to this

 

[McLovin]

the surname of the 2nd baby can be what ever you choose it to be. The father only has to be there if you want his name to be stated as her father x

 

[KaeRit21]

why does he only want to be part of one childs life?

as far as i know you can register it with any name, the father only has to be present if ur naming him on the cert

xx

 

[babybaillie]

why does he only want to be part of one childs life?

This is the million dollar question and i wish i had the answer. But after almost 9 years together, hes decided he doesnt want this baby and will only take our 1st daughter.

 

[Perdita]

It's amazing what complete ar**holes men can be! He's only going to take an interest in one of his children but the second one isn't worth it???? Wow, that really does get an award for 'prat of the year'!! Give the child your surname I would say but it's a difficult situation if her sister would have a different surname! If you have custody then I'm not sure you do need his permission to change her name but it's worth looking into from the legal side of things. Sorry but there really isn't a straightforward answer to this one!!