Birth Certificate - pros and cons of FOB being named

[suzanne108]

Wow just logged on and saw all the replies, thanks! Seems to be a hot topic.....but I'm still confused about what to do

 

[Lexi's Mummy]

Thats the abreviated BC then. They dont always acept that. When my kids started school, they only wanted full BC's

i have never needed her full bc, neither has my mum with all 8 of us, she has only ever had the abreviated ones. maybe its different in different areas? x

 

[staycutee]

I won't be putting the FOB on LO's birth certificate because he's plainly said he doesn't want to be on there, and because he has to be there when I register the birth theres no way he can be put on because he wont come!

I would of rather he was, even though we don't see eye to eye and he wont be seeing her, he's still her father and I don't want to deny her the right of knowing who her dad is

i'm in the same position, he can't be bothered to make a short journey to sign it, so why the hell should i bother to try and persuade him? if it means that little to him then quite frankly i'd rather he didn't sign it. he hasn't been to ONE scan/a[ppointment and doesn't even know the baby is a boy. he has ignored me since i told him apart from sending me one big spiel of a message on facebook to tell me to abort him.. when i was 6 months pregnant. idiot.

 

[Lu28]

Wow just logged on and saw all the replies, thanks! Seems to be a hot topic.....but I'm still confused about what to do

I used to be a family solicitor so hope I can help you! It's true that if FOB isn't named on the BC then initially you are the only one with parental responsibility. However, if FOB shows commitment to your LO and is involved in their life, if they make an application to the court for parental responsibility, it is highly likely he will get it. It's the type of application that people don't even tend to employ solicitors to go to court with them, it's pretty straightforward.

As for the implications of PR, FOB would have the right to be involved in the major decisions in your LO's life eg education, religion, medical decisions etc. They would need to be consulted in decisions. However, if he wanted to stop you doing something and there was no compromise, he would need to apply to court for either a prohibited steps order to stop you doing something or a specific issues order to make other decisions. This isn't something most people take lightly and unless he's a stubborn so and so, he'd probably only do it for something important, not just to get at you. The court would place a great deal of weight on the fact that you're the primary carer.

So if it's something he's likely to get if he's involved anyway and you're happy this will be the case, then I'd name him on the BC personally - it's a document I've used alot over the years.

Hope that helps

 

[purpledahlia]

So if he was only gonna see LO a few times a year for a week or so at a time.. he probably wouldnt get much in terms of the courts? I know he can apply and that.. but really, for me, he probably wouldnt get as much would he? being so far away? am i right?

 

[babybaillie]

Thats the abreviated BC then. They dont always acept that. When my kids started school, they only wanted full BC's

i have never needed her full bc, neither has my mum with all 8 of us, she has only ever had the abreviated ones. maybe its different in different areas? x

What age is ur daughter? i needed full birth cert for school, and for nursery for both my kids. Wether u need it or not tho anyone at the age of 16 can walk in and buy there own copy.

 

[Lu28]

So if he was only gonna see LO a few times a year for a week or so at a time.. he probably wouldnt get much in terms of the courts? I know he can apply and that.. but really, for me, he probably wouldnt get as much would he? being so far away? am i right?

It depends on how he might otherwise be involved in LO's life - if he shows involvement and commitment as far as possible despite the distance then maybe. Basically, the court will want any dedicated parent to have PR - all factors including how far apart you live would be taken into account. I don't know very much about your situation though

 

[purpledahlia]

well so far hes shown no commitment or care not bought a thing or kept in constant contact or seen me since i was 8 weeks... so i think im winning on the parental responsibilities role! obv if he did tho it would be good for the child, but im still not taking him to sign the BC, he can apply if he thinks he will win... doubt he will tho. prob doesnt even know about it.