tashalina
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Hi Ladies, I have a bit of a situation with who I'm having at my birth...a bit of background first, for my first baby it was just me and hubby at the birth, then when my DD was born my sister came too so I had the both of them.
When I found out I was PG my best friend jokingly said she thought I should have a home birth so she could be here too. Hubby replied saying well there is space for 2 people even at hospital. We were really close and spending a lot of time together and after thinking and talking about it with hubby I asked her if she would like to be my 2nd birthing partner when the time comes.
In Jan she briefly split up with her partner and came to stay with us, she got back with him very quickly but since then it seems like I hardly see her. We have always been close (and my kids see her as an auntie) we used to see each other several times a week but recently it can be weeks before she can fit us in and often cancels or rearranges plans last minute.
Basically the way things are I really dont feel like I want her at the birth. Its a very special time and I dont think we are close enough for her to share it with us.
Its a tough situation as she is quite an emotional and sensitive person and she is likely to be very upset by me telling her I have changed my mind. I dont want to lost her as a friend but I cant just have her there so as not to upset her
Any suggestions on how best to break it to her??
(sorry for the essay lol)
When I found out I was PG my best friend jokingly said she thought I should have a home birth so she could be here too. Hubby replied saying well there is space for 2 people even at hospital. We were really close and spending a lot of time together and after thinking and talking about it with hubby I asked her if she would like to be my 2nd birthing partner when the time comes.
In Jan she briefly split up with her partner and came to stay with us, she got back with him very quickly but since then it seems like I hardly see her. We have always been close (and my kids see her as an auntie) we used to see each other several times a week but recently it can be weeks before she can fit us in and often cancels or rearranges plans last minute.
Basically the way things are I really dont feel like I want her at the birth. Its a very special time and I dont think we are close enough for her to share it with us.
Its a tough situation as she is quite an emotional and sensitive person and she is likely to be very upset by me telling her I have changed my mind. I dont want to lost her as a friend but I cant just have her there so as not to upset her
Any suggestions on how best to break it to her??
(sorry for the essay lol)