Im really hoping that someone please anyone will respond to me with their stories regarding bonding with your unborn baby.
Im 23 weeks pregnant and up until a couple of weeks ago i was excited and felt some relative bond with my bump, the kicks and movements started at 18 weeks and i remember crying at some of the first kicks at how amazing it was but now its all changed and i really don't know why and looking for some advice because i feel SO ALONE with this.
I just seem to have all of a sudden really started to resent my bump and feel nothing towards her (we found out the gender) and I'm confused as to why i feel like this. This pregnancy was planned and happened so quick (conceived within the first month of trying) i am recently married have no other real worries have the luxury of not being able to work etc and i should count myself SO lucky how i conceived so quickly and am in such a good position to raise a baby but i just can't shake this feeling of resentment and unattachment.
Before i got pregnant i was out a lot socialising, drinking, smoking, going to the gym with a trainer four times a week lifting heavy weights doing as i pleased, obviously when i found out i was pregnant i gave up all of the above and i don't know if this is why i resent my bump so much because i know it sounds so selfish but i feel my life has literally stopped and i am so bored because i cannot do anything which i enjoyed before whilst my partner just goes out with friends and does as he pleases. I can't enjoy shopping for clothes because whats the point they don't fit me. I feel fat and feel so out of control of my body. I just most days these days cry.
I also got talking to someone who proceeded to tell me about their bloody birth and i came so close to fainting which disappointed me because i am so strong with regards to pain and blood its never really phased me but now i know it really does I'm starting to dread the labour and birth whereas before i was just all for taking it as it comes and being really laid back about it.
Im worried i won't like being a mother and i won't have that fantastic mother baby bond everyone speaks of because i struggle with my feelings (my mother is very emotionally cold which has obviously had an affect on me growing up) its not like i can give the baby back, I've tried to tell my partner that i feel no bond and he just shouts at me and is obviously real disappointed that i feel this way.
I just don't know what to do anymore i feel so utterly lost with it all and don't know where to go from here if anyone reading this could help i would greatly appreciate it as i feel like i can't tell anyone about how i truly feel without being called selfish, ridiculous and stupid.
Im 23 weeks pregnant and up until a couple of weeks ago i was excited and felt some relative bond with my bump, the kicks and movements started at 18 weeks and i remember crying at some of the first kicks at how amazing it was but now its all changed and i really don't know why and looking for some advice because i feel SO ALONE with this.
I just seem to have all of a sudden really started to resent my bump and feel nothing towards her (we found out the gender) and I'm confused as to why i feel like this. This pregnancy was planned and happened so quick (conceived within the first month of trying) i am recently married have no other real worries have the luxury of not being able to work etc and i should count myself SO lucky how i conceived so quickly and am in such a good position to raise a baby but i just can't shake this feeling of resentment and unattachment.
Before i got pregnant i was out a lot socialising, drinking, smoking, going to the gym with a trainer four times a week lifting heavy weights doing as i pleased, obviously when i found out i was pregnant i gave up all of the above and i don't know if this is why i resent my bump so much because i know it sounds so selfish but i feel my life has literally stopped and i am so bored because i cannot do anything which i enjoyed before whilst my partner just goes out with friends and does as he pleases. I can't enjoy shopping for clothes because whats the point they don't fit me. I feel fat and feel so out of control of my body. I just most days these days cry.
I also got talking to someone who proceeded to tell me about their bloody birth and i came so close to fainting which disappointed me because i am so strong with regards to pain and blood its never really phased me but now i know it really does I'm starting to dread the labour and birth whereas before i was just all for taking it as it comes and being really laid back about it.
Im worried i won't like being a mother and i won't have that fantastic mother baby bond everyone speaks of because i struggle with my feelings (my mother is very emotionally cold which has obviously had an affect on me growing up) its not like i can give the baby back, I've tried to tell my partner that i feel no bond and he just shouts at me and is obviously real disappointed that i feel this way.
I just don't know what to do anymore i feel so utterly lost with it all and don't know where to go from here if anyone reading this could help i would greatly appreciate it as i feel like i can't tell anyone about how i truly feel without being called selfish, ridiculous and stupid.