Booby monster still at 29 months tips on when to stop....

[alocin22]

My LB has always been a booby monster, and would always refuse a bottle - especially from me, he would launch it across the room. I gave up eventually thinking he would become less dependant on the boobs, but he didn't

Now at 29 months we have stopped daytime feeds, although he does still give it a good try some days but night time he just will not give in, some nights he will still only go a few hours

My other half is not supportive in any way and he finds it disgusting that we still feed, he thinks it unnatural is there any tips on how to try and stop as I just need a full nights sleep some days I really struggle and with work it doesn't help.

 

[Larkspur]

I'm afraid that unless your OH is on board with helping at night, it will be very hard and probably quite stressful for you and your LO to try to wean.

I have TWO boobie monsters (lord knows what your husband would think of me!) and the only way we night weaned was by OH taking over at night until they were sleeping through. In my son's case, that took about three weeks, and OH dealing with a couple of hours of crying each time he woke.

My daughter is going a lot better, though we're doing it later (21 months vs 14 months). The last three nights OH has taken over settling her at night, and she has put up very token protest (2-4 minutes of whinging, then giving up and going to sleep). She is now also down to waking just once around 4am vs waking 2-4 times a night, sometimes for 30m+ at a time.

So if your OH really doesn't want you to keep BFing, perhaps the best thing he can do is commit to taking over the night settling until LO is weaned.

 

[twobecome3]

it should only take 2/3 weeks to nightwean, and your oh needs to be onboard. I would tell him if he sees this as a problem, he needs to be part of the solution.

id thought we would let ours 'selfwean' but at past age 2.5 she was on the boob in the night as much as a newborn. the gentle techniques like removing the boob, etc., did not work at all for her she would just fully wake and freak out. we decided to just go for it and tackle the nighttime feeds. a few days before we talked about it several times a day, that milk will need to sleep at night, I rebuilt the rockerglider chair and put it in the bedroom, even drew pictures of us having milk in the chair, then all aslepep in the bed, and then us having milk on the couch in the morningtime. it helped that we did this during winter as the nights are longer!

so the first night I boob/rocked her to sleep in the chair, then we moved to the bed. it was not at all as bad as I thought it woud be. I think she woke up 3x that first night, and my husband rocked her back to sleep. the first week he had rock her back down less the 10x. the 2nd week she only wanted me to pick her up when she woke, and I only had to rock her a handful of times. by the third week she was just cuddling back in by me on her own.

a few weeks later I tackled the initial getting to sleep process in the rocking chair, and now we're down to 5-10 minutes at the most and then she goes down awake.

 

[Marumi]

Why not try to night wean and nurse during the day? That is usually what naturally happens and will help the weaning process since the toddler can be kept busy during the day but at night they see you as a warm pacifier

My "booby monster" is 4 1/2, I am 30+5 weeks pregnant right now. We chose child led weaning. Around 6 months he started falling asleep alone in our bed while I got my 5 hours of free time every night (nice!!), at 8 months his night nursings reduced to 3 times and lasting 6 hrs between "night" - morning nursings so that was really good too. My husband did not want me to go past 2 but I ignored him and he totally adjusted and just went with the flow...my boobs not his He even eventually felt it was good I continued. Reading some of the science from Kellymom and Kathy Dettweiler certainly helped.
I did not night wean him until he was 4 but could have. Just that one session never bothered me as we cosleep. When I got pregnant I nightweaned him and he is pretty understanding. I also asked him to cut down on feedings since my nipples were so sore and he adjusted too. We are down to two feedings now, day and bedtime and my nipples are less sore.

What was totally helpful in pregnancy is this time my boobs did not turn into ugly, hormonal "atomic bombs". Last time I was suffering because they were painful, swollen, discolored, little stretchies, went up two sizes. This time I went up a half cup size and that little bit of nursing always made them feel soft. No swollen salami nipples ^^', no stretchmarks, no leaking etc. 👍👍

 

[alocin22]

Thanks for your advice..... I bit the bullet and got my oh on board and we took the long Easter weekend to wean!!!! Wednesday night was his last feed but I did a count down with him from 5 nights letting him know that there will be no more booby �� He understood and counted down too, he quite happily told people he see he only had some many nights of booby left. I then put plasters on my nipples and told him they had broken now they knew he was a big boy �� And he happily went along with it. The first night he was up every 2 hours, the worst was at 12am with 20 minutes crying and stamping his feet. Luckily we have a spare room downstairs and I stayed in there with my daughter and let my Oh deal with him. The next night he woke about 3 times in the night but nothing major. The 3rd night he slept from 9pm to 6.30am ��
He does keep asking to check boobies I hush ace to remember to plaster them up and he with give them both kisses and cuddles but accepts they are still broken.
Not quite as bad as I expected it to be, just hope it stays this way.