Hello ladies, and 1st of all thank you so much for all the experience you're sharing.
I am an expecting dad, wife is 29w0 today. Yesterday we went to ultrasound checkup and everything is OK except for the ventricules, which are 10.4mm. The doctor said that we shouldn't worry, that another doctor probably wouldn't even say anything about that, that everything else is good, but my wife is in panic. She is always too scared of everything, IMO, but now as she's pregnant she's really out of herself.
I did a ton of reading, research, and whatever I say can't calm her. I am a bit afraid too, I must admit, but I don't wanna show it to her, I just try to calm her down.
So, the doc checked thoroughly the head, bladder (filled with urine, so kidneys are working well he said), heart, umbilical cord, amniofluid, placenta, baby's tummy, weight, leg size, etc - all is perfect. Head is a few days smaller and legs are a few days larger than "by the book", which is also OK. We did screening in 1st trimester for trisomies, and all returned good, no amnio reccomended... Baby moves a lot, she was (it's a girl) moving also when the doctor was passing over her head with that ultrasound sonde, and she kicks and moves throughout the day a lot. So, basically, everything seems perfect, except for this 10.4 of V, and we are very worried for that. At 21w doc checked V's and they were 7mm, meaning they've grown - is that normal growth, to be expected as the whole baby grows? Back then, I presume, 7mm was normal and OK, and now it's 10.4
I'm trying to stay calm, but I find it very hard to do. And seeing my wife eating herself out and worrying sick because of that makes me wanna cry. I know I mustn't do that, I must keep telling her that it's nothing, that this one measure "at borderline" as the only factor means nothing (as the doctor said), but inside I really am worried.
What should we do? Next appointment is in 3 weeks, but I'm afraid she'll go completely insane in 3 weeks. Should we go to a private clinic? Ask for a second opinion? But then - why? It's really just this one measurement, and it's not "bad" or "mild" but "borderline".
I've read about two researches, done in 2005 in Italy and in 2007 in USA, and both doctors & their teams reccomended that this "borderline" be moved to 12mm instead of 10mm, because more than 97,5% of cases where V was between 10 and 12 and no other anomalies were found on the baby ended up perfectly well and without any problems for the baby (measured at 2 years of age). And it makes sense, and it concurs with all the data I've gathered in this thread here.
Still, I'm not at rest, and I'm not sure if I'll be able to keep my wife "in dark" about that for the next 3 weeks. Because if she even remotely smells that I too might have worries, that's it, she'll have to be sedated or something - it's just the way she is.