Boy No.3 and slightly disappointed

[diz]

Hi have two amazing boys, and i know baby number three will be amazing. But Ive had a feeling i would have a third boy, and i tried so hard not to let it matter, however i was disappointed at my scan today to have it confirmed.

I know there are so many people out there who can't have children and who feel so blessed to be pregnant no matter what, and i don't want to offend any of those ladies. I know i should just be over the moon to be blessed with a third child who is developing normally, but i can't help at feeling a bit disappointed that my last child isn't going to give me the girl i had hopped for.

 

[embeth]

Hope you're ok. I felt the same after hearing I was on boy number 3! It's natural to feel disappointed. Number 3 is nearly 2 now and I wouldn't change him for the'world! Pretty sure number 4 is going to be a boy too! There is a gender disappointment forum on here u can ask to join if u want to xx

 

[SweetV]

This is my third boy as well (2nd living). I would love to have one in pink but I don't think it is going to happen either.

 

[littlesteph]

after 2 boys I was also hoping for a girl, but he's defiantly a boy. wasn't shy about it either. I was disappointed for a little while, not long at all really. about half a day if that. I think the fact that there is a chance they'll have to get him out early because he isn't growing properly kinda helped me to get over the disappointment quickly. i'll have 3 amazing boys who will group up closely. This is also our last. Hubby doesn't want to put me through pregnancy again because of how ill I have been with this one.
for some it's easier to get over the disappointment quickly for others it just takes a little bit of time.

 

[LilianA]

I totally understand hun! I am pregnant with my fourth boy! and when we found out i couldn't help but feel a bit sad that I will never have my little girl that I always dreamed of but I am sure once he is here we will love them and wouldn't change them for any girl!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I could have made this post. I have two of each and although I love my daughters, I don't want anymore girls. I grew up the only girl with 3 younger brothers. All of my cousins were boys until I was 18 and my aunt had a girl. My girls are girly girls...they are diva princesses, who love nail painting, hair styling, dance, dress up...and I'm the total opposite. I'm a tomboy who love soccer, hockey, wrestling...boy things and feel so much more connected to my boys than I do my girls. I am hoping and praying this baby is a boy, but EVERYTHING literally, is pointing towards a girl (Ramzi, skull, gendermaker, symptoms, instinct, dreams, hcg levels, pattern...had GBGB)...the thought of another girl makes me so sad.

I'm choosing not to find out hoping that when the doctor announces what my baby is, the excitement of finally knowing will overpower any negative feelings about the baby being a girl if it is a girl.

What you're feeling is perfectly normal and okay. In the end, you'll come to love him. Boys are awesome and fun.

 

[donnarobinson]

I'm the same found out yday I'm having my third boy and I cried my eyes out which i didn't expect to
After my second I felt completely done at two I wasn't bothered not having a girl but then I fell pregnant and wanted a girl so bad but I feel fine today I love my bod so much and ino this one will slot right in I'm obv Ment to be a mommy to bod x least we all no how each other feels x

 

[TurboTurtle80]

I can totally relate. This may sound super wild to some, but my bf was told by a Spanish "psychic" when he was a young dude that his first would be a boy. So unless he has some unknown love child out there, I'm likely to have a boy. It's a wild rationalization, but in my culture curanderos are trustworthy and everything else has come true for him. I really really want a girl. My sister had a boy and he's just so difficult and wild. I don't have that little boy touch and want a girl. Is it bad for me to pray OH has a love child out there and I'm getting a girl? Lol! I'm horrible for feeling more OK about a random kid than having a boy. But I'll take happy and healthy any day.

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

Oh hun its very normal to feel a little dissapointed, a friend of mine went offline for weeks when she found out her third was another boy, then with her 4th she did the same because she was having another boy and she so wanted a girl, she had a girl for her 5th and her 6th babies, but as i say her gender dissapointment was so bad she couldn't face even talking to anyone, she adores her boys and you will adore your little boy too it just takes a while to get over the dissapointment x

 

[george83]

I felt the same after having my third boy, obviously I love him to pieces but was devastated at not having my little girl. The feeling hasn't gone away completely (ds3 is 3 months old now) but it's not as strong. I still get insanely jealous when I hear of other people having a baby girl and I hate constantly being questioned on when I'm going to try for my girl

 

[prettybirdy27]

Gender disappointment is very real and 100% okay. You will adjust and learn to love your little boy just the same, but it's okay to take time to grieve the future you thought you would have.

I always wanted a girl, but throughout my pregnancy, I was just convinced it was a boy - I just knew it. I started talking to him and bonding with him. He would kick when I would call him by name. And then the ultrasound tech showed us a clear, unmistakeable shot of girl parts, and I felt my little boy slip right out of my heart. I realized I had completely fallen in love with the little boy I thought was there. So even though I had wanted a girl, I suffered from gender disappointment when I found out that the boy I thought was there didn't exist, and it was a girl. I had to start the bonding process all over. I felt a loss in my heart, even though I still had my baby kicking inside me. It took me a couple weeks to wrap my head around it and adjust, and I still have just barely gotten the courage to start calling her by name. But I am bonding to her, and I am excited for her arrival! You just have to give yourself a little time - grieve the future you thought you had, and then start getting excited for the wonderful future that's ahead of you!!

 

[Jessicahide]

This is my baby boy number 4, I really didn't want to recreate the relationship I had with my mum so I was very pleased he was a boy, not that I would have been upset if he had been a girl, just worried... But your baby is yours its the one you made. Everything will be fine and you will be so in love when he is here xxxx PS pink sucks anyway xxxx

 

[jenny873]

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[MummyDaws]

I hear you completely and you can't help the way you feel. I have one amazing daughter and two amazing boys but with my third I was desperate for another girl as our third was to be our last (I am expecting a surprise #4) I ended up in tears after my scan but it wasn't anything to do with my boy really it was grief for the dream of another girl and I love my son to the moon and back. I find myself in the same situation now and refuse to think of this baby as a girl and pretty convinced it is another boy xx

 

[julesjules100]

I'm so so sorry to read this but completely understand. I wanted 2 girls but my first was a boy (who I love more than anything) and I was gutted, which I felt so guilty about feeling as he was IVF and I was lucky to get him. I was completely convinced that this baby was a boy, 100%. Looked idential to my son on the scans, sonographer took a guess at saying she could see a penis etc. When I got my Panorama blood results back it said it was a little girl. I was sobbing in my car at the side of the road when they called me. So I really do get it. As a pp has said, try the gender disappointment pages as they may be some support and I do think that this will improve over time x

 

[diz]

Thank you ladies, I feel so much better now and I really appreciate all of your supportive, kind words. I feel much better now about having a third boy. I love my other two so much and I know this one will be a great addition to our family xxx