Breaking news to Mum...sigh

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ok so today I finally plucked u the courage to tell my Mum about being pregnant.
I woke up feeling like I just couldnt handle being at home with such a big secret so i went downstairs with no plan of what or how I were to say it but all i knew was i had to just come out and say it!
i nticed sher was eatingher lunch so I walked into the kitchen instead where I met my brother who already knew..."I cant do it anymore I have to tell mum today" he sighed and gave me a hug and told me to calm down and not to let it get me down. So we went to his room where we waited for mum to finsh eating. as soon as she finished my heard was beating sooo fast i started to feel dizzy.
Mum and sister came into the room where my brother had told them we needed to talk and my mum said "what is it" and looked im my face and just said "your pregnant?!" i just put my hand over my mouth and nodded and she cried and walked out of the room.
I burst into tears at the thought of her being so upset she had resulted into tears. as she came back in she said how she was dissapointed and why didnt i finish uni and stuff. Her face was so red which really upset me...especially because having a red face and being a black person shows alot of emotion.
well to cut a 2-3 hour emotion filled talk/lecture/expression of feelings short...she didnt take it so well...at the end of the conversation she did lighten up and I thought it was fine but now she is off with me and I feel so odd now..my sister was shocked and thought I was joking untill she saw how upset mum was...I hope she comes to terms with the situation soon and we can be close again because although i thought i braced myself for the worst i feel very down right now.:cry:
OH told his mum aswell and she took it much more better, well hes older so it would be but good news to her I guess.
 
she will come round once she gets over the shock... but at least it is all out in the open
:hugs:
xxx
 
yeah i guess so..I do feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest
 
:hugs: I am sure once the shock wears off she will be ok with it.
 
hope it doesnt take too long..i cant live with the arkwardness
 
:hugs: She'll come around...after all, she is your mommy and she knows what you are going to be going through and will be there for you.
 
She'll get over it. Really she knows the joys of motherhood. And now she'll learn the joys of grandmotherhood. Just wait until you start showing or know the sex!..My mom was disappointed cuz i haven't finished school...but my mom is literally counting the days until i find out the sex!! Good Luck! =]
 
yeah..thaks guys youve made me feel alot better...i know she'll come around and stuff....she got pregnant when she was 20 ..ill be 20 in cotober so im sure she knows how it feels....im counting down the days for my first scan..then it'll feel more real...i wanna see bubs
 
She'll come around. That's her grandchild growing inside you. It's very rare that a mom won't come around to the idea.
If it makes you feel any better, my mom's best friend's daughter got pregnant at 22 (she still lived at home) and her mom (my mom's friend) freaked out and wanted her to get an "a" and didn't talk to her for a while. It was really bad. But now she absolutely loves her grandson and he's all she ever talks about. She ended up apologizing to her daughter, and now they're back to being close again.

So even when parents react horribly at first, it's very likely they'll come around by the end. Just give it some time. :hugs:

Good job on telling her! xxx
 
thanks croc-o-dile...mum told me i must not get an 'a'...i so would'nt anyway iv never belived in such a thing i love my baby already..OH does aswell
 
how long did your mums take to come around?

My mom had her first child at 14. She's korean and grew up in Korea so things are obviously different there. But I told her the day after I went to Planned Parenthood and they said I was definitely pregnant and she's like, "Really?" and hugged me. That was that. Of course she was disappointed, I'm only 18 but she's so supportive.

My dad was... Difficult. My mom, without my permission, told him by saying, "You're going to be a Grandpa on November 14th." And my dad was like, "Haha. Very funny." But then he figured out it wasn't a joke and got really, really angry and was like, "Glad you guys have a family lined up for adoption." :nope: I was really upset and ran upstairs crying and mom yelled at him :haha:. But later he came up and told OH and I, "I'm sorry for overreacting earlier. I will support you guys no matter what." He was still pretty distant and disappointed but he's warmed up a lot. He went out and bought me baby clothes and talks about her now, so...

That's my story.

I promise your mom'll come around. Especially when she sees your first ultrasound!!! :D
 
aww thats so cool...im glad they are so supportive of you :)...yeah thats next month so ill be waiting to see her reaction to that..xx
 
My mom was speechless. But the next day she was calling me making sure i'm okay, had what i needed or what i wanted. My Mom was 18 when she got pregnant and 19 when she had my eldest sister, so she couldn't really say anything negative since i'm 19 gunna be 20 in November. She was and still is very supportive. In fact she swears its a girl and bought it clothes already...and i don't find out the sex for another 3-4 weeks!!
 
aw shes cool lol...at least my mum knows why I cant help but over sleep now..and im sure she wont wake me up anymore haha....me and my mum are normally close so im gonna be optimistic... ill see how she acts tomorrow, like if she comes to the room to check if im okay and stuff
 
Ya you have to give her time to adjust. I mean her little girl is grown up and gunna have a baby of her own...and besides it's better she knows sooner than later it'll give her time to adjust!
 

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