breastfed babies result in better behaved children?

[Natasha2605]

I don't think anyone is hardline saying that if you FF you will have a badly behaved child compared to a BF child. There are studies about everything nowadays. Soon they'll be saying ''blond haired five year olds study more than brown haired five year olds.'' Well maybe not but you get what I mean? Studies are studies, they choose a subject then tell the result. Whether you choose to believe it is up to you but results are results. Who's to say another study doing the same won't find the opposite?

I don't really care tbh. My child is FF and I believe that through more than feeding alone my child will be well behaved xx

 

[xemmax]

Like I said, everyone is entitled to their opinion and I stand by mine.

I am not naive enough to believe that parenting is black and white, nor do I claim to know the best way to raise a child. I highly doubt anyone really does. I may be misguided but I believe that the behaviour of children of such a young age (under 5) is a result of how they are being raised. I should add that I am not referring to children with behavioural difficulties as this is something beyond a parents control. I also believe in the saying 'behaviour breeds behaviour'.

I would like to reiterate that I am not talking about rebellious teenagers that go off the rails, I understand that as children grow up they are subject to varying degrees of good and bad influences.

But the point I was making is that behavioural difficulties are not often diagnosed until later life, so where people may look at a 4/5 year old as a misbehaving little brat and condemn the parents to the bad parents club, they may be much more symptathetic a further 5 years down the line when it is realised that in fact the child has undiagnosed issues which the parents could not have controlled.

I'm not disagreeing that parenting is a huge influence, but I just think it's unfair for us (mothers of babies) to sit here preaching about how children should be raised when we haven't done it yet and therefore have no direct experience of it!

 

[Mummy2Asher]

Ooo what an interesting read!! Good find!
Ash was breastfed for 14months and never had any formula and he's a very social clever boy but he does have his phases of bad behaviour like when we moved city he was a nightmare for a couple of months...normal for all children I think.

 

[Lellow]

My nephew has been exclusively having cow and goats milk since he was born.

I wonder how his behaviour will pan out in yrs to come!

 

[kerrie24]

My eldest was ff and my other 2 were bf,my daughter who is 5 was bf for 22 months and I dont see any differences in their behaviour.Its the way they were brought up not the way they were fed.

 

[OmarsMum]

I didnt expect Omar to STTN because he's FF. He STTN at an early age because he prefered sleeping more than feeding. We still co-sleep & he's still in our room. We'r baby led. We didnt use any sleep taining. We used to offer him feeds on schedule as he wasnt a hungry baby & we had to feed him every 3-4 hrs as he never cried for milk. Until now if he wakes up at night for an odd bottle, I offer it to him.

He's so easy going, cheerful since he was tiny, he's very smart, not clingy at all, healthy & not over weight.

I dont think he will change overnight & will have behaviour issues because he was FF when he was a baby.

 

[lizzieredrup]

This seriously made me laugh as its so bonkers, I FF my 1st and have BF the other 3, there is no difference between their behaviour at all, they are just all normal little boys, they are all equally as good and naughty as each other, if there was a difference in their behaviors I don't think I'd even have thought for 1 second it was because of the way I fed them, I would more likely just put it down to age and personality!

 

[angel2010]

I kind of understand what you’re saying. FFers generally expect their babies to STTN at a certain age, and if they're not, we ask 'why, why, why?' whereas BFers have a different reality.... that young babies simply will not sleep through the night and need feeding.

Whether this fact contributes to behaviour in the grand scheme of things, I can't say, but it is still an interesting point and certainly one I didn't think of.

I NEVER post (although I do sometimes read them) in these threads because they usually turn out the same. Everyone always asks why ffers are always justifying their decision and this^^ is one reason why. The above comment sounds like ffers aren't willing to put in the hardwork like bfers IMO. "Bfers have a different reality" is particularly offensive to me.

 

[lozzy21]

Iv just read it was the mothers them selvs who filled in the forms the study is based on so im now led to think that some of the more well off women who are more likely to breast feed are just more reluctant to admit their children are little shits lol

Id like to see if they got the same results if some one else rated there childrens behaviour.

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

Like I said, everyone is entitled to their opinion and I stand by mine.

I am not naive enough to believe that parenting is black and white, nor do I claim to know the best way to raise a child. I highly doubt anyone really does. I may be misguided but I believe that the behaviour of children of such a young age (under 5) is a result of how they are being raised. I should add that I am not referring to children with behavioural difficulties as this is something beyond a parents control. I also believe in the saying 'behaviour breeds behaviour'.

I would like to reiterate that I am not talking about rebellious teenagers that go off the rails, I understand that as children grow up they are subject to varying degrees of good and bad influences.

But the point I was making is that behavioural difficulties are not often diagnosed until later life, so where people may look at a 4/5 year old as a misbehaving little brat and condemn the parents to the bad parents club, they may be much more symptathetic a further 5 years down the line when it is realised that in fact the child has undiagnosed issues which the parents could not have controlled.

I'm not disagreeing that parenting is a huge influence, but I just think it's unfair for us (mothers of babies) to sit here preaching about how children should be raised when we haven't done it yet and therefore have no direct experience of it!

I understand what you mean if we dont have other kiddies, I have Mia and she was FF and is a good wee thing, the only thing is Ellie has got developmental problems due to her health etc and she was given EBM til she was 7 weeks so when she is older and isnt doing aswell as other kids at her age will people think it is cause she was FF or take into consideration she has Cerebal Palsy when doing these checks if I were to be asked to take part in the questions, does that make sense lol been a long week already and its only Tues xx

 

[Kimmy25]

Iv just read it was the mothers them selvs who filled in the forms the study is based on so im now led to think that some of the more well off women who are more likely to breast feed are just more reluctant to admit their children are little shits lol

Id like to see if they got the same results if some one else rated there childrens behaviour.

 

[leash27]

Like I said, everyone is entitled to their opinion and I stand by mine.

I am not naive enough to believe that parenting is black and white, nor do I claim to know the best way to raise a child. I highly doubt anyone really does. I may be misguided but I believe that the behaviour of children of such a young age (under 5) is a result of how they are being raised. I should add that I am not referring to children with behavioural difficulties as this is something beyond a parents control. I also believe in the saying 'behaviour breeds behaviour'.

I would like to reiterate that I am not talking about rebellious teenagers that go off the rails, I understand that as children grow up they are subject to varying degrees of good and bad influences.

But the point I was making is that behavioural difficulties are not often diagnosed until later life, so where people may look at a 4/5 year old as a misbehaving little brat and condemn the parents to the bad parents club, they may be much more symptathetic a further 5 years down the line when it is realised that in fact the child has undiagnosed issues which the parents could not have controlled.

I'm not disagreeing that parenting is a huge influence, but I just think it's unfair for us (mothers of babies) to sit here preaching about how children should be raised when we haven't done it yet and therefore have no direct experience of it!

I wouldn't describe it as preaching, just an opinion. Maybe I should have preceeded my original comment with 'IMO' as it does sound quite pig headed of me now that I have re read it.

I have already said I don't claim to know the best way to raise a child. We all just do what we think is best for our children and try our hardest to be good parents. It is inevitable that people will disagree with each other, if we didn't the world would be a very dull place.

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

Iv just read it was the mothers them selvs who filled in the forms the study is based on so im now led to think that some of the more well off women who are more likely to breast feed are just more reluctant to admit their children are little shits lol

Id like to see if they got the same results if some one else rated there childrens behaviour.

yeah like when Ellie was up every hour and I could easily have said no no shes sleeping through the night!!! I bloody wished back then,but why lie eh

I cant believe though on the news earlier it said that better off mums would be more likely to BF I am not in anyway better off and I tried and tried and tried lol xx

 

[BubbaG]

What about combo fed babies? Is mine going to be a split personality child?

 

[I_AM_LIVID]

I kind of understand what you’re saying. FFers generally expect their babies to STTN at a certain age, and if they're not, we ask 'why, why, why?' whereas BFers have a different reality.... that young babies simply will not sleep through the night and need feeding.

Whether this fact contributes to behaviour in the grand scheme of things, I can't say, but it is still an interesting point and certainly one I didn't think of.

I NEVER post (although I do sometimes read them) in these threads because they usually turn out the same. Everyone always asks why ffers are always justifying their decision and this^^ is one reason why. The above comment sounds like ffers aren't willing to put in the hardwork like bfers IMO. "Bfers have a different reality" is particularly offensive to me.

I'm a FFer, what are you talking about? I do night shifts everyday and I know all the work that goes into sterilizing bottles, preparing them and warming them. If anything, I could easily say Bfers have it easier in that sense. Take offense if you will, but I stand by my above comment.

 

[xemmax]

I understand what you mean if we dont have other kiddies, I have Mia and she was FF and is a good wee thing, the only thing is Ellie has got developmental problems due to her health etc and she was given EBM til she was 7 weeks so when she is older and isnt doing aswell as other kids at her age will people think it is cause she was FF or take into consideration she has Cerebal Palsy when doing these checks if I were to be asked to take part in the questions, does that make sense lol been a long week already and its only Tues xx

I don't think anyone would use a study like this to 'blame' a child's behaviour on the way they were fed hun. And certainly if a child has health/developmental problems I'm sure they wouldn't be included in the survey (as they would want to eliminate those factors to get a more accurate result). It shouldn't be used against parents (certainly not parents who have been through as much as you have), it's just a study with interesting results.

I wouldn't describe it as preaching, just an opinion. Maybe I should have preceeded my original comment with 'IMO' as it does sound quite pig headed of me now that I have re read it.

I have already said I don't claim to know the best way to raise a child. We all just do what we think is best for our children and try our hardest to be good parents. It is inevitable that people will disagree with each other, if we didn't the world would be a very dull place.

Like I said initially I didn't mean to just target your comment, I'm not meaning to seem like I'm getting at you, it's the sentiment that I see all over that really gets on my nerves. I just think it's easy for us to think we know what the best way is to raise a child but that's what everyone does - and we still have naughty children.. so surely something is going wrong somewhere.

And yes I'm happy to agree to disagree, just wanted to clear up that I'm not trying to target you specifically - just your comment summarised what was getting my back up, that's all!

 

[Janidog]

I didnt expect Omar to STTN because he's FF. He STTN at an early age because he prefered sleeping more than feeding. We still co-sleep & he's still in our room. We'r baby led. We didnt use any sleep taining. We used to offer him feeds on schedule as he wasnt a hungry baby & we had to feed him every 3-4 hrs as he never cried for milk. Until now if he wakes up at night for an odd bottle, I offer it to him.

He's so easy going, cheerful since he was tiny, he's very smart, not clingy at all, healthy & not over weight.

I dont think he will change overnight & will have behaviour issues because he was FF when he was a baby.

When I drop LO of to nursery and they ask when is his next feed, I always say 'i don't know' and then say 'when ever he is hungry'

 

[leash27]

 

[MissCurly]

wow, i go away for a couple of hours, planting begonias and now have dirt in my nals!anyway i digress, i've found it a very interesting read.
and wow, 10, 000 women- thats too a big sample to ignore.

I want to say thanks ladies for your opinions, and hope you didnt get upset with the subject topic if you are formula feeders.

But i have been thinking whilst reading this thread, is that the personality of the child that is more disposed to a certain type of behaviour is exacerbated by the type of milk the baby recieves?

also, another interesting point in another article, was that the potential that a baby has a higher RISK of getting ill on ff, and hence affects the behaviour somehow?

 

[rable]

This study is by a prestigious research team with a sample size of 10,000, it shows a 30% increase risk of behavioural problems even after adjustment for the following factors: household socioeconomic position, mother's mental health,mother's age, education, smoking during pregnancy, relationship status,baby's admission to a neonatal unit, baby's birth order, mother's alcohol use during pregnancy, type of childcare the child attended and age when the child started childcare.

I would say it can hardly be discounted as nonsense.