Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

  • Thread starter Thread starter baby.love
  • Start date Start date
Just a quick hello :) Well, Emmas sleep has gone straight down the potty and like a horrible mummy, i had a temper tantrum the other night only to wake up to a sick baby :blush: I felt terrible since there was a reason for her not sleeping- I thought she had a runny nose and was hot from all the crying and it never crossed my mind that she might be sick. Anyway, Im sick now too so we are a good pair, lol. Laptop is still screwed but I think we might be shopping for a new one this weekend. Gotta love income tax refunds :)

Maffie- massive :hugs:

Hope everyone is well!
 
Awwww Kaites, poor you and poor Emma. Glad to know, however, that I'm not the first mummy on the planet to have a little tantrum now and again re baby's sleep :blush: I hope you both get better ASAP and hope your OH doesn't catch it too.

Controlled crying seems to be keeping Monty awake rather than teaching him to go to sleep, so I think we're going to call it quits. Have just spoken to health visitor and she agrees that two to three hours is too long to be doing CC. OH is about to call the osteopath that we used when Monty had colic in those long ago days, because apparently osteo treatment can be quite good for sleep issues. I am hoping he'll say 'I can treat your baby's sleep problems and make him sleep for 12 hours all night after just one treatment', but somehow I think that's a bit optimistic :haha: Will report back, anyway.

Maffie, hope you're feeling a bit better today. At least it looks like we might be getting some nice weather this weekend, so you can at least enjoy some sunshine. BTW, this Tuesday's SureStart walk is from Whaley Bridge if you're interested.
 
Colsy im over in Yorkshire now for the moment until I find somewhere to live.

Of course, sorry, I wasn't thinking (lack of sleep again!). Hope you find a special place for you, Noah and bump ASAP :hugs:
 
Hugs to everyone with the sleep dep. I'm also guilty of a bit of a temper flare this morning - at the dog, poor animal. Got under my feet and I snapped. It's hardly surprising though with what's going on here.

I just wanted to update you ladies, not sure if anyone clocked that I was worried about my Dad. Well he was rushed into hospital on Wednesday morning with an unknwn illness. It's since been confirmed that he has a clot in his lung which is causing all sorts of issues, and because it went untreated for nearly a week he's got a lot of complications and recovery setbacks. He's in hospital til next week at the earliest and I am really worried about him. Add in my Mother's usual tricks and I'm at my wit's end, hardly eating or sleeping. We went to visit (5 hour round trip) yesterday and he seems ok - comfortable and happy - but it's not easy to see your elderly father on a ventilator and the Dr's are unwilling to give a timescale which I know is never a good thing.

Moneywise, this is putting another strain on as now I have to go and see him whenever I can, and I can't take Earl in to see him as no under-12s allowed on the wards. Luckily hubby was off yesterday so no problems there, but he's not off again til next monday and he's away in Ireland from next Wednesday too. Not wuite sure what to do as I'm not willing to give Earl to anyone bar MIL and SIL and neither of them is available to come and look after him :cry:

On the Earl front he drew blood this morning that tooth is so sharp - he keeps biting himself by accident too which is funny in a way but can't be nice. I suppose he'll learn soon enough lol. It's still not visible though which I think is hilarious.....no teeth, but deadly lol! :haha:

Anyway, got to go. Have to tidy up the house as mother is coming to visit tomorrow afternoon. I wont go into the issues as I've already been in tears once today over it but I don't really know what to do about it. I'm sure it'll sort out eventually. Got to go and ring the hospital again too...see how Dad is doing.

Hope we're all ok ladies.

Kaites - hope you feel better

Maffie - hope you find somewhere soon :hugs:

Colsy - sorry the CC hasn't worked. Monty must just have other ideas :dohh: Hope the osteopathy helps - I've heard it'll work wonders.

Ooh best be off....crying baby again. Because I'm so upset today he's really cranky (think it's teeth too) so we're a right pair. Hubby will want to stay at work. :wacko:
 
Aimee, big hugs. I hope your dad gets the treatment he needs and is home as soon as poss. Hope also that you sort stuff out with your mum. :hugs:
 
Aimee, sorry to hear your dad's not doing too well. My grandad passed away 6 years ago yesterday so that just bought back memories of him on the ventilator & in a bad way, so i can totally sympathise with you on how awful it is. And it's sad Earl can't go with you either... I hope he gets better over the coming days :hugs:

Kaites, hope Emma feels better soon & you do to.

Colsy, sorry the CC hasn't worked out for you this time; i hope the osteo will help him get back on track with the sleeping.


Well, I went to a mum & baby group on weds, and it was awesome. Everyone was really friendly, and they have so many toys & sensory equipment for the babies to play with! They also did singing, rhyme time, story time & baby exercises, which harry loved. And they showed some exercises for mummy to do using the baby as a weight, and man, they were tough- just proved to me how unfit I am!!! I'm definitely gonna go every weds now since Harry enjoyed it so much. :) Annoyed though that they cancelled the 'learning through play' course we were meant to be doing yesterday & now everything else for this month is already fully booked so now we'll have to wait till July to sign up for the next lot of courses on offer.

Going to my MILs stables this weekend so Harry can see his ponies again. I still cant get over the fact she bought a then 2 day old 2 shetland ponies :dohh: that he has only met twice so far... I'm hoping now he's more alert (he was 4mths when we last went) and into everything that he will actually interact with them this time & bay go on the carriage in the sand school or something. taking Joshy with us too, since he loves the stables coz they let him play with the 'dead' tractor in the ditch, lol.

Harry's finally realised he has knees. He pulled himself up onto his knees using the sofa lastnight, then fell & head butted the hard bit on the base :dohh: He's also pushing up into the proper crawling position now & rocking back & forth, but as yet, he appears to have no idea how to actually move or go anyway in that position, lol. I think I seriously need to babyproof this house before he figures it all out!

anyways... best go get him down for his nap before he turns into a grumpyguts. Have a great weekend everyone :)
 
Aimee: Hugs hugs :hugs: Hope your Dad makes a speedy recovery and things with your Mum get sorted :flower:
 
Thanks everyone,

Apparently he had a bad night and they're keeping a close eye on him, but he's still joking with the nurses so that's good! Got to sort out my mum but I really don't have the energy at the moment - just got to get through the visit tomorrow.

Hope we're all good...time for tea and cake me thinks! :coffee:
 
Well went out for dinner today (carvery) ad I went for a vegetarian option as meat isnt agreeing with me now. Was lovely. Noah tucked into alsorts and loved it. He's so well behaved when we eat out. Very proud of my little man :)
 
Just popping by to say Aimee, hope your dad is okay and home soon :hugs:

x
 
Aimee- Hope your dad makes a speedy recovery :hugs:

Colsy- Sorry to hear CC didnt work for you :hugs: Ive never tried it, but I can probably guess that we would have the same problem just based on how Emma gets more and more worked up when she is having a bad night. I hope the osteopath makes a big difference!

Flora- Have fun at the stables this weekend!

Anyone else with weekend plansÉ (argh, still using hubbyès French laptop without normal punctuation!) Nothing too special going on here- hubby is supposed to be taking Emma out for a while tomorrow so I can have a break since its been a long week of sleepless nights. Last night was probably the worse night yet- Im proud to say I didnt have a temper tantrum, lol, but I was also up until 1am before Emma finally passed out. I think Emma seems to be getting over whatever this is since she doesnt have a fever now- I seem to be about a day behind her and now Ive got a sore throat, earache and headache. Emma still has a snotty nose (I dont have that though) and is having a hard time feeding (I sense a long night of making up for lost feeds :wacko:). Hope everyone is well :hugs:
 
Thanks again everyone - I spoke to the hospital this morning (got a telling off from the nurse as apparently we're phoning too often- my family aren't close so we're obviously all making seperate phone calls) and they said he's ok. Still the same as before but he slept last night so that will have helped a lot.

I've got my Mum and stepdad coming in about an hour. I still have a mass of washing up to do but to be honest, my heart just isn't in it. Might just stack it all in the cupboard out of the way :blush:

Thanks everyone again...means a lot :flower:

Will be on later I'm sure.
 
Good day all :flower:

No plans as such, start of Nij's holiday today but may have MIL and FIL over this aft, not sure. I have to call them back, don't really want to, I get all stressed. Daft really, I have seen them every weekend over the whole cufuffle but it hasn't quietend down now Nij is back. I feel a bit harassed, I know i'm not being really but I just want 1 little weekend where I don't have to do or think anything! *breathe* Tomorrow should be fun though, we are going to watch some grass racing although I am a little bummed as we got a nice cheap stroller to take CHloe in and it hasn't arrived yet :growlmad: It's not even been posted yet, we have another pram we were given so I will use that one, don't fancy dragging the 3D though fields :wacko:

Aimee: Don't blame you about not doing the washing up, you have enough to worry about, the dishes can wait.

Kaites: Hope you and Emma feel better soon :flower:

Flora: Enjoy the MIL and stable visits

Argh, one of Chloe's toys just randomly sets itself off, its in its box, I may have to get the screwdriver and take out the battery as it doesn't have an on off switch. All is quiet then suddenly a little tune plays and then it goes 'moo' 'moo'. Freaking me out! :haha:

BRB: Chloe woken from her nap.

EDIT: That's me done for now, little miss ain't right happy after her long nap :(
 
Thanks Kte- I did half of it then put the pans etc into soak and stacked a few bits on the side 'tidily' lol....I don't know why I get so stressed but I know my Mum looks at these things and will be going on to my Dad about how I'm 'not coping', just because there's a few dirty pots and a bit more washing than I'd like in the basket! :wacko: She tried to tell me that I'm not reaching my 'full potential' today - I must confess I sneered that career will come and Earl seems to think I'm pretty darned brilliant! Snappy but I had a go at her already as the reason I was told off by the nurse has become clear. She's been telling them she's my Dad's wife, not his ex, so they've been happily telling her everything and then having a go at me as according to them my Mum should be telling me! I could have killed her but I stayed calm, asked her not to call (which I know she'll ignore) and I'll call my brother and get him to alert the nurses at the ward to her scam. I don't know why she's so bothered.....she owes him £7k, and she's divorced but she keeps on getting involved. My half-brothers both hate her and wont be happy when they find out what's going on.....neither am I but I can't really stop her.

Anyhoo's - got to go and ring my brother now, and then give Earl his tea in about an hour. Penne italiano - Hipp jars we've discovered go down the best lol.

Oh and, we have a 2nd tooth. that's both bottom fronts poking through. :thumbup: He seems very pleased with himself lol.

Thanks again everyone :hugs:
 
Ooo she sounds like my ex MIL. First thing she said to me when we said we were engaged is 'I always wanted a daughter, now . . . here is how to make up a proper bed' and proceeded to start showing me how to put a cover on a duvet :wacko: Should have realised and run out the door screaming then lol! Good ploy about the dishes :thumbup:

What a cheek calling up! At least you found out and can put a stop to the hospital telling her stuff. Not the hassle you need though :hugs:
 
Last night was probably the worse night yet- Im proud to say I didnt have a temper tantrum, lol, but I was also up until 1am before Emma finally passed out.

Aw Kaites, you poor thing. Do you seriously mean it took until 1am for Emma to go to bed? Or did you get her to bed and then she woke a bit later? I really do feel for you. I think you and I could form our own Bumpkins Bad Sleep forum at the moment. Just as I think things are getting better here, they then revert to what they were ... or even worse. And it sounds to me like you're having exactly the same experience. The funny thing is that Monty is suddenly sooooooo easy to put to bed and even to put down for naps - I mean, if you'd seen us just three weeks ago and the battles we were having at nap time, you would be sooo mightily impressed with the situation now. But that doesn't help me and OH at 3am when Monty just won't go back to sleep. I just don't know what he wants - it's not even that he just wants a cuddle, because even if he comes in with us, he still lies there and cries, sometimes really yells. He isn't hungry - I know this because when he finally gets up for the day, any time usually between 5.30 and 7, he really isn't that bothered about feeding off me - he's quite happy to babble in his cot for a while and then come in to our bed and play, before eventually asking for a breastfeed. It's just soooo strange because to be honest we now have a baby who just doesn't cry ... apart from between 2am and 5am. So all day we have this totally happy baby, who at worst grizzles when he's tired or hungry. But then he becomes like a newborn with colic in the middle of the night. And because we're now missing out on so much sleep, I just feel like my entire life is on hold while we work out what the problem is. I am hardly doing any baby-related activities (playgroups etc) during the day now because my entire focus is making sure he gets enough sleep, so I'm getting a bit stir crazy and OH and I are totally always grumpy with each other and basically I would just like to sort this out once and for all.

I don't even expect him to sleep through the night. I am completely accepting of having to feed once or twice each night, as I know loads of BF babies continue to do this for a year or so. It's this refusing to settle after a feed that's hurting me.

Controlled crying hasn't worked. Pick up/put down doesn't seem much cop either. And basically, if we can't even settle him by just snuggling up to him in our bed, then to be honest I'm at a total loss as to what else to try. The final thing to try according to some people would be cry it out, but that is a step too far for me, and I absolutely put my foot down at that one.

I am thinking about asking our GP about referral to a sleep doctor, but I don't know whether he will just laugh at us. We have a world-renowned children's hospital in our city, so I guess there's lots of great research doctors based there. But would the GP just think we're wasting his time and tell us to shut up and put up? Or do we have a genuine reason? I dunno, at what point is a sleep problem considered a disorder that deserves treatment? I mean surely crying for up to two or three hours a night, almost every night, is not right?

Sorry, I am rambling away here. Feel free to answer if you have an opinion, but I don't suppose anybody has got a right or wrong answer.

Aimee, I hope your dad is over the worst. Have you heard when he might come home? I'm not sure whether you've moved house yet - if yes, I hope it's all gone well; if not yet, then I hope it goes well.

Kte, I didn't realise Nij was back. I am really pleased that you've managed to sort things out. Wishing you lots of luck in getting everything fully sorted. I hope Chloe is enjoying having the pair of you together again and that you've managed to make the most of having another pair of hands on the scene!

Flora, I remember you saying a couple of weeks ago how Harry seemed to have lost interest in solid food. Well, Monty's done the same. He will eat, but he doesn't have anything like the fascination for eating that he had just a week ago. I wonder whether it's a case of the novelty wearing off? I have to say, we seem to have gone backwards a bit in that we're giving more spoon foods now rather than proper BLW style foods. I think this is partly because the HV wondered whether MOnty was waking up hungry, so we have been trying to get lots of lovely carbohydrates in to him! However, as I said earlier, I don't think he is hungry, so maybe we'll move away from the spoon again and do more finger foods. Has Harry started to enjoy his food again yet?

MAffie, how are you? Are you with your parents still? I hope you had a nice weekend and managed to do some fun stuff. :hugs:

Well, OH is out on a job, but his parents are turning up in a bit, so hopefully the weather will stay dry and they can take Monty out for a walk once he wakes from his nap. I can then put together the newsletter that I should have finished about three weeks ago (I edit a newsletter for a local organisation, on a voluntary basis - but unfortunately there's nobody else willing to take over the helm when I have weeks where I can't do the job, so at the moment we seem to be permanently behind schedule).

Bye for now xx
 

Users who are viewing this thread

Members online

Forum statistics

Threads
1,650,410
Messages
27,149,686
Members
255,826
Latest member
RCH
Back
Top
monitoring_string = "c48fb0faa520c8dfff8c4deab485d3d2"