AmiraYoussef
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Hi All,
I hope anyone can help with my problem. My name is Amira, from Egypt and am 24 years old. I was living all my life in Egypt and due to problems with my parents (regarding arranging marriagies etc..) I decided to run away and come to UK. I had a bf in Egypt and as soon as I came to UK, after 3 months of staying here I discovered that I'm preganant. During this time my bf stopped talking to me suddenly, he didnt answer my phone calls etc.. so obviously its a break up.
I'm living with my half brother who lived all his life in UK and I couldnt ask him and tell him that I didnt have my period etc.. Its my first preganancy and I got no idea about it. For 3 months I was preganant and I didnt know until I had bad pains in my tummy so I decided to go to my GP and she told me that I'm pregnant. Due to my situation and because I'm a muslim arabic girl from Egypt. I cant have this baby without marriage. My parents would kill me. So I decided to have an abortion. Well actually, its not a decission. I didnt have any choice and no one tried to discuss it with me. My brother Just told me you have to have an abortion.
At this time I was working. And before I knew that I was preganant I wanted to go to Egypt for a holiday, I already booked tickets and everything. So after knowing that I'm preganant my brother told me go to Egypt and come back do the abortion.
And that's what happened. I had no one to support or help me while I went through the preganancy and even after. My brother treated me as if nothing happened, inaddition to that he asked me not to tell anyone. After the abortion, I fell into bad depression. I always fight with my brother because I always see him as the reason of me loosing my baby.
When I had the abortion my baby was 17 weeks and 5 days. I did scans when I was 15 weeks. I saw his limbs and i heard his heart beating. I cant forget him (boy), I will never do.
I had the abortion on 15th of October 2009. And since then I didnt recover. I'm still going through therapy and 2 months ago I have been admitted to a mental health centre because I tried to get rid of my life. I stayed there for 2 weeks and they adviced me to get my scans so I would feel better.
I did all I can do to try to get the scans. I called the hospital (UCL) and asked them for it. I asked my GP to help and he told me he will send them a letter and he did but they didnt reply back. No one wants to help. I even called the mental health centre and asked them to send a letter to the hospital but they refused saying no we cant because you have been discharged !!! I called the place where I had the abortion and they didnt have the machines to show the picture of the baby. I did everything. And NOW, I'm SOOOOOO disperate and dissapointed and fedup .. I dont know what to do.
PLEASE HELP ME !!! I lost my baby and now I cant get any prove of him or see him again !!!
Please help me
Amira
I hope anyone can help with my problem. My name is Amira, from Egypt and am 24 years old. I was living all my life in Egypt and due to problems with my parents (regarding arranging marriagies etc..) I decided to run away and come to UK. I had a bf in Egypt and as soon as I came to UK, after 3 months of staying here I discovered that I'm preganant. During this time my bf stopped talking to me suddenly, he didnt answer my phone calls etc.. so obviously its a break up.
I'm living with my half brother who lived all his life in UK and I couldnt ask him and tell him that I didnt have my period etc.. Its my first preganancy and I got no idea about it. For 3 months I was preganant and I didnt know until I had bad pains in my tummy so I decided to go to my GP and she told me that I'm pregnant. Due to my situation and because I'm a muslim arabic girl from Egypt. I cant have this baby without marriage. My parents would kill me. So I decided to have an abortion. Well actually, its not a decission. I didnt have any choice and no one tried to discuss it with me. My brother Just told me you have to have an abortion.
At this time I was working. And before I knew that I was preganant I wanted to go to Egypt for a holiday, I already booked tickets and everything. So after knowing that I'm preganant my brother told me go to Egypt and come back do the abortion.
And that's what happened. I had no one to support or help me while I went through the preganancy and even after. My brother treated me as if nothing happened, inaddition to that he asked me not to tell anyone. After the abortion, I fell into bad depression. I always fight with my brother because I always see him as the reason of me loosing my baby.
When I had the abortion my baby was 17 weeks and 5 days. I did scans when I was 15 weeks. I saw his limbs and i heard his heart beating. I cant forget him (boy), I will never do.
I had the abortion on 15th of October 2009. And since then I didnt recover. I'm still going through therapy and 2 months ago I have been admitted to a mental health centre because I tried to get rid of my life. I stayed there for 2 weeks and they adviced me to get my scans so I would feel better.
I did all I can do to try to get the scans. I called the hospital (UCL) and asked them for it. I asked my GP to help and he told me he will send them a letter and he did but they didnt reply back. No one wants to help. I even called the mental health centre and asked them to send a letter to the hospital but they refused saying no we cant because you have been discharged !!! I called the place where I had the abortion and they didnt have the machines to show the picture of the baby. I did everything. And NOW, I'm SOOOOOO disperate and dissapointed and fedup .. I dont know what to do.
PLEASE HELP ME !!! I lost my baby and now I cant get any prove of him or see him again !!!
Please help me
Amira
