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[krissy1984]

Hiya well looks like I'm joining you, my fiancé walked out, despite me forgiving him for lots, he left me over a row about his mum!

I've not begged him to come back at all, but I have said as LO is feeding every 2 or so hours and uses the boob to get to sleep he cannot take him away. He can see him but I have to be in the next room, is that wrong of me? It's just when he wakes up if I'm not there he will scream and get I'm such a state.

So I guess I'm asking what happens now. I have no job so will have to claim benefits not ideal but then I got pregnant with a man supporting me, & he choose to go.

I havent been nasty in my replies to him but just spoke about our son, I think getting nasty or begging is what he thinks I'll do

So I think I'm just worried can I really do this? Any advice please girls xx

 

[sophieee18]

Of course you can do this!! And I'm sure he will understand about the feeding situation. If he doesn't then he is a wa**** . We're all here for support and advise whenever you need us.
You'll be a great single mummy!!!

 

[krissy1984]

Ah thank you ) I hope so i thought I'd be crying etc but I'm not, haven't cried once just got on with it! He's coming tonight to pick up some more stuff so I hope I don't crack :s

I think what's making me more sad is my wedding dress is all paid for, invites went out, I'm getting the dress in June, that's going to be hard. I'm also worried about him being with another woman, and I know I shouldn't care but I can't help it.

I think he will understand but I'm not wanting him to take our son overnight at all, he can only get to sleep by the boob, like a dummy otherwise he just screams and screams xxx

 

[Rhio92]

x

 

[jess_smurf]

oh no xx

i would get your benefits sorted asap for you entitled to 15% of him wage for child support, and no a breastfed baby should not leave their mother ever tbh

its gonna be hard, dnt crack you will get the taste of freedom soon and love it x

 

[krissy1984]

Ahh thank you girls

Well guess what, he came back last night, saying he doesn't want to leave! I can't kick him out as he pays all the rent but I'm going to the council/job centre today to sort the benefits. He didn't even apologise but got the hump after I'd packed up some of his stuff! I think his plan was for me to beg him to come back to us but its backfired. All its done is convince me if this is how he is, me and our son deserve better.

We stayed here last night until we can get a place of our own and I haven't told him we're leaving yet, I'll do that once I find a property. My dads already said not to worry about money as my family are there for us, they've got no extra room for us but I can stay here and just be reminded of exactly how he behaved.

I hope I'm doing the right thing, but I'm not letting him walk out, call me a b*tch, rude and ignorant, and then come back as if nothing happened. He says he only wanted to get away for one night, but in the message he sent once he'd gone he said its over for good.

I think we will be alright alone, I do love him and hate the idea of him with someone else but I also don't want to be treated like this xxx