Can I come in? Silent miscarriage

[rabbit]

sorry for your loss x x

If it would reassure you i'd definately have another scan before deciding on the d&c otherwise you may constantly be thinking 'what if' and that could make coping with this even more difficult than it already is

 

[sarahhoney]

Hi Dan-O, its so sad. I think you and I were both due at the same time, I kept seeing you on the same forums as me x I mc at 7 weeks but I understand how your feeling right now.

Whatever you do at this stage, follow your heart and even though its completely tragic at least you'll know you've done the right things for yourself and your wellbeing.

If you need anything or anyone don't hesitate to shout, we're all here for you xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[susan_1981]

I think if I were you, I'd have another scan to make sure. You don't want to be thinking "what if?" all the time. That was the one and only thing with my MMC, I knew there was no doubt about my baby having died as my sac was measuring 12 weeks 2 days but the baby was only measuring 7 weeks 2 days with no heartbeat. It's such an awful thing to go through.

Do whatever you think best but, for reassurance, I'd want to have another scan.

Also, the D&C option is pretty painless and it's all over very quickly. I was like you worrying about if something went wrong in the op, but that's extremely rare. They only give you a small amount of anaesethetic as it's such a short op.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[AS1]

I've had two mc both at 10/11 weeks, the second just a few weeks ago. After an emotional rollercoaster and lots of scans with the first, in fact very similar situation to yours, I decided to have just one early scan at just less than 7 weeks when I found out I was pregnant a second time - I saw the heartbeat at that scan and because I felt really pregnant I was happy.

At a chance medical apt at 10 weeks I was offered another scan, but unfortunately like you could see nothing only the sac. I was really shocked as had very strong morning sickness and other preganancy symptoms which had falsely given me hope that all was ok. I said I couldn't wait a week for another scan as with my first mc it was agony waiting, so I went back 4 days later where I was told the sac had grown even more. It sounds like your situation too, the sac was the size it should have been at that stage in the pregnancy its just there was no fetus. I was confident that there was nothing there as I knew in my heart there should have been a visible fetus/heartbeat at almost 11 weeks, but if you are in any doubt and need more reassurance I would advise you to request another scan before your D&C.

I'm so sorry for your loss - I can sympathise with what you are going through. I've had two D&C's and to reassure you the operation will not be as bad as you think and from a physical point is relatively painless in most cases. I wish you luck xx

 

[Pippin]

Dan-O I am so sorry to hear the news. I hope you feel better in time and big I know we can't say anything to make it easier but we're all here for you. xxxx

 

[dan-o]

Wow, thank you for all your advice & kind words

I think I will have one last scan, just to clarify what has happened.
Then I will know 100% in my own mind that my baby has gone, before taking the final step.
I'm a bit of a thinker, so any 'what if's' will play on my mind, I know it.

I also can't believe so many of you have been through similar, I am so very sorry for each of your dreadful losses

 

[honey08]

thats very true like susan said av another scan hun "just incase" i knew my dates werent wrong,but most of all the sac messured 12wk and baby 5wk so i knew deep down
i didnt know how often it happened, mine happened in march08 ,i joined bnb in july08 and was shocked how many went thro the same
goodluck for the future hun

 

[MrsJD]

Oh Dan-o I'm so so sorry to hear this. What a rollercoaster for you hun!



XXXXXXXXXXXXX

 

[Jessa]

This is such an unfortunate situation that you're in. I'm sure it's taking it's toll on you emotionally. Stay strong and use BnB and your family/friends as a great support right now.

 

[Mamafy]

I'm so sorry for what you're going through hun I've been there

xxxx

 

[nailartmom]

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Big to you.

 

[srm0421]

Dan-O I am so very sorry for your loss. I had a missed mc and had to have a D&C to remove the baby that stopped growing but the sac continued to grow. I too was afraid but everything went smoothly. I hope that you are able to get things handled quickly and I pray you find the strength to get through this.

 

[Las78]

So very sorry hun.

If I was in this situation I would probably wait a week and get another scan before they do anything, only becasue I would always wonder what if. I can understand what you mean about prolonging the agony but in the long run you will at least have peace of mind. Could you perhaps go for a private scan a little earlier?

Sending you huge hugs and thinking of you x

 

[Rainstar]

Hi Dan-o *hugs*

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. I recently had a missed miscarriage and it was heartbreaking. Everybody's pain is different but i just wanted you to know that you are not alone, even though i'm sure this feels like an incredably lonely time. I think you know in your heart whether it is right to go for another scan, everyone is different but trust your instincts. I think Las78 made a really good suggestion if you did want another scan to check; If you went private then you may not have to wait as long.

Thinking of you x

 

[Schmelly]

'What-ifs' are terrible to live with, so I'm glad you've decided to get another scan. At least then you will know for sure.

I'm so very sorry for your loss hun.

 

[jen1604]

So sorry to hear this hon.Sending massive massive hugs to you xx

 

[dan-o]

I have to say the EPU are a great team where I live. They called me right back this morning & said I can have as many scans as I want, or even just come in/call them for a chat.

I have decied to wait a week & booked another scan for next thursday (just to finalise things in my own mind)
& a slot for ERPC the day after. xx

 

[golcarlilly]

I think you have made a wise decision, it will give you peace of mind to know that you gave it every chance to be ok or time to m/c naturally if the worst is to happen too, I really feel for you hun, this is just such a stressful and upsetting thing to have to go through, try and be strong and you will get through it

 

[who's_mummy]

Sorry to see you posting in this section Dan-o. Hope next week goes ok for you

Gemma x

 

[MissingBubs]

Really sorry that you are going through this hun. Not got any personal experience of d&c and i dont want to give you false hope, but my OH's sister was told something similar and after a second opinion continued with her pregnancy and now has a healthy baby boy. I dont want you to prolong your agony, but one sonographer is just one human, on one day, using one machine. I'd always ask for a 2nd opinion. Hope all goes as well as possible for you.