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[tina_h75]

I never thought I would ever venture into this section but thanks to my cheating low life scumbag husband, here I am.

I posted a thing about it all in GS but basically my husband who I was with for 10 yrs, married for 6 yrs has been knocking off some old slag who he knew before he met me.

I am angry beyond words right now - I am so finished with him and I want him out of our lives. I found out about the slag at 4am this morning, by 4pm this afternoon I had an appointment booked for a divorce solicitor.

I am going from one extreme to another - tears to positive thinking about what the future may hold but I am destroyed right now.

 

[jaytee146]

Are you sure this is what you want to do? All relationships go through their ups and downs. my aunt in law was and still is married to my uncle who's girlfriend we all know. It's like my mom said.. men do bad things but it has to be handled with class. WHATEVER THAT MEANS! I know it's tough... I'm sorry

 

[tina_h75]

respect gains respect - he has shown none for his wife and kids, therefore I will drag his fat ass through the courts. I have put up with a hell of a lot from this man because I love(d) him so much but I will not put up with a cheat. Name calling and insults should not be part of a marriage but in the heat of the moment we all say things we regret. How can you, in the heat of the moment repeatedly climb into bed with another woman, knowing that you have a wife and 3 beautiful children waiting for you at home ? I know it seems like I am moving quick but I need to, before I change my mind. I cannot and will not forgive him for what he has done and everytime I see my kids crying for their daddy will reinforce my hatred towards him more. He broke this family apart and I will make sure he remembers that .

 

[jaytee146]

just wanted to know it.'s something you've considered. just make sure you're mentality prepared We.'re all here if you need us!

 

[Laura2919]

Im so sorry to hear this hun. Where do they get off thinking they can treat us like rubbish!!
You will go through so many emotions... You will practically knock at the door of every single one of them but they do start to fade. I have had so many emotions throughout this split and its really amazing how quickly my personality changes, but its important for you to remember that people like that very rarely change.
Being away from my FOB was the best decision I made, I didnt want to stay with a liar and a cheat.
If you need anything we are always around xx

 

[Laura2919]

respect gains respect - he has shown none for his wife and kids, therefore I will drag his fat ass through the courts. I have put up with a hell of a lot from this man because I love(d) him so much but I will not put up with a cheat. Name calling and insults should not be part of a marriage but in the heat of the moment we all say things we regret. How can you, in the heat of the moment repeatedly climb into bed with another woman, knowing that you have a wife and 3 beautiful children waiting for you at home ? I know it seems like I am moving quick but I need to, before I change my mind. I cannot and will not forgive him for what he has done and everytime I see my kids crying for their daddy will reinforce my hatred towards him more. He broke this family apart and I will make sure he remembers that .

Only you know whats right and wrong hun. So if you feel its right do what you need to. xx

 

[dustbunny]

What a wanker... excuse my language. As people have said, if this is what you want to do and that it has clearly been thought about [not in the heat of the moment or to punish him] then go for it. We're all here for you and good luck!

 

[Laura2919]

Are you sure this is what you want to do? All relationships go through their ups and downs. my aunt in law was and still is married to my uncle who's girlfriend we all know. It's like my mom said.. men do bad things but it has to be handled with class. WHATEVER THAT MEANS! I know it's tough... I'm sorry

I'm sorry but thats not handling it with class. You aunty is married to your uncle who has a gilfriend.. relationships dont involve 3 people, they involve two.

I would never say to anyone stay with a cheat because in my opinion they very rarely change how or who they are.
My FOB has spoken to many a girl over the years and I took him back and thought he would change but he never did. I and everyone else going through this deserves much much much better than to settle for less than they deserve!

 

[amotherslove]

i just wanted to say that 1. i am so so sorry about what's going on in your life right now.. and 2. you're incredibly strong for walking away.. for not letting him get away with it. i for one am very proud of you. many women do decide to stay with their men regardless, because theyre their husbands.. or because theyre scared of being alone or not having the money, but you deserve better than that treatment, you will find someone who treats you right, and the courts WILL sort out the money for you. lots of hope and prayers for you in this rough time.

 

[Laura2919]

How are you feeling?

 

[Mally01]

Tina I am so sorry to hear you are going through so much pain. It is such a terrible betrayal, not only to you but to your children. I am a 100% believer that a cheating spouse should never be forgiven, especially one that repeatedly cheats with the same person. i.e there is a big difference (though still inexcusable) between a drunken one night stand cheat and someone who constantly meets up in secret with someone else on a regular basis..totally disgusting, deceptive behaviour. Good for you for staying strong. One saving grace I feel with not being with my ex anymore is that he has hurt me so much he has eroded the loving feelings I had for him, which can make you realise it is pointless being with someone who is prepared to hurt you so badly.

 

[tina_h75]

How are you feeling?

I am a complete mess. I go from crying my heart out to hating him. I hear a car outside and think its him coming home and then I remember what has happened and that he won't be coming home again. My youngest son took his first steps today - already he has missed something so important in his childrens lives.

I know I have to keep strong because I can't lose it in front of the kids and at least they give me reason to get out of bed in the morning. I am totally devastated that he could do this. I just want to feel normal again and be able to smile and in time I will, but it just seems like such an impossibility right now.

 

[Laura2919]

Oh hun Its gonna be sore for a few days maybe even weeks. Im heading into my 6th week and to be honest I am feeling loads better.

Its hard to see the future when only a few days ago it seemed like everything was right.

 

[babybambi2011]

i have to say, good on you girl! it takes a stong person to do what you did, and not take the lying cheating scum bag back! i take my hat off to you!
i have a lot of respect for you. most people would try and ignore it and pretend that everything was ok. its strange what kids can do to you. i was pretending things were ok between me and my daughters dad, but as soon as she came along, i realised that i cant ignore it anymore and did the right thing and left him.
i hope it all works out for you hun, and just remember to keep strong, and dont look back!
xxx

 

[Happy]

How are you feeling?

I am a complete mess. I go from crying my heart out to hating him. I hear a car outside and think its him coming home and then I remember what has happened and that he won't be coming home again. My youngest son took his first steps today - already he has missed something so important in his childrens lives.

I know I have to keep strong because I can't lose it in front of the kids and at least they give me reason to get out of bed in the morning. I am totally devastated that he could do this. I just want to feel normal again and be able to smile and in time I will, but it just seems like such an impossibility right now.

Your going to go through so many emotions in the next few weeks, Im coming up to 3 months now and I am slowly beginning to feel a lot better. One minute you will hate him and the next youll be crying, trust me it does get easier.

Im starting divorce proceedings now and it does feel strange, dont rush into anything until your ready.

 

[Laura2919]

How are you feeling?

I am a complete mess. I go from crying my heart out to hating him. I hear a car outside and think its him coming home and then I remember what has happened and that he won't be coming home again. My youngest son took his first steps today - already he has missed something so important in his childrens lives.

I know I have to keep strong because I can't lose it in front of the kids and at least they give me reason to get out of bed in the morning. I am totally devastated that he could do this. I just want to feel normal again and be able to smile and in time I will, but it just seems like such an impossibility right now.

Your going to go through so many emotions in the next few weeks, Im coming up to 3 months now and I am slowly beginning to feel a lot better. One minute you will hate him and the next youll be crying, trust me it does get easier.
Im starting divorce proceedings now and it does feel strange, dont rush into anything until your ready.

This I so agree. Even now I sometimes think of something that makes me angry but he hasnt made me cry in a long time. I wont let him. He doesnt deserve my tears....

 

[Snowball]

 

[tina_h75]

I am on day 4 of no crying! I even managed to speak to him on the phone earlier without having a complete melt down. I do hope this continues but I am not so daft as to believe that there won't be slip ups along the way. After 10 yrs together, there is a memory everywhere I look. I can't even go through the pictures on my digital camera as they are from only a couple of weeks ago from family days out when I thought everything was perfect. I have removed all the wedding photos from the walls and hidden them away in a cupboard.

 

[tina_h75]

I am feeling a bit emotional - group hug needed.

 

[Laura2919]

You will get there Sending you loads of

There are memories everywhere, even for me in my house but.. and I say but because you create more of your own without him.

Its such a tough time but you will have slip ups, just remember why your here. They soon pass.