Can I join you please?

[Sophie1205]

Im new to single Mum's.
OH of 3 years has left me. Our little boy is 2.
He just walked out on us, decided he had "had enough" of being in this relationship.
I'm scared of doing this on my own; Im scared of being alone.
I've already phoned the CSA, which is what I wanted to do originally and he didnt but then he suddenly changed his mind.
Ive sat down and thought about a schedule for seeing Leo... He can have him every other weekend all weekend so- friday to sunday - and then he can take him every wednesday for tea. Does this sound fair? he said its down to me, but Ive told him to come down and discuss it together and I want it to be definite.

I just feel scared at the minute.
Any words of wisdom would be muchly appreciated. xxx

 

[lisabee]

Its natural to feel so scared after being with someone for so long but it wont last

The visitation you have given him seems very fair and your doing the right thing by your child

You will get through it although it may not seem like it at the minute but there is always light at the end of the tunnel

Your main objective right now is to focus on yourself and on your son - forget anyone else and hopefully you have a good network of people around you, family/friends

Try and not get too disheartened as these things almost usually turn out for the best and if ur ex reason is simply "he cant hack it" then thats his problem he will miss out on much more than you will

Take one day at a time before you know it you will wonder why you felt so down

 

[jen1604]

Welcome honey

It will feel hard and scary at first but you will do fine and there's lots of support for you on here if you need it xxxx

 

[chels24uk]

hey hun. Like the others have said, it will seem incredibly hard to start with - maybe even for a few months after! But you will get through it, something in your head will just click one day (well, did with me anyway about 8 months after the "main" split) and you'll wonder why your so upset I think your being more than fair with visitation, but do agree that he should discuss it with you so he cant throw it in your face or anything like that. Good luck xxx

 

[v2007]

V xxx

 

[teal]

xx

 

[Rhio92]

Good luck x

 

[Sophie1205]

thank you everyone.
he came down to discuss the visitation and he agreed to it.
Im not coping at all at the minute. I just miss him so bad xxx

 

[xJG30]

 

[chels24uk]

thats perfectly normal huni. It is going to be hard for a while. Surround yourself with friends and do whatever you can to keep your mind off things *hugs* xxx