Can not help but feel negative !

[Stacey_89]

Hey Ladies =)

I lost my angel @ 12 weeks in may 09.

We have been trying ever since,and now i can not help but feel so negative.
I keep thinking that this will never happen
and if it does i will just lose my bub again !

I wish i could think more positive but i rele rele crnt !!
I thought that it would of happend by now as i heard so many people concieving quick after a loss and i just thought i would be one of them too.

Also a few days ago my sisterinlaw found out shes pregnant after trying for 8 months and im so happy for her and my brother,but surely it must be my turn soon ?


I also keep thinking things like what if something is wrong with me?
it took us 4 months last time why so long this time??


Anyone else feeling like this ?
like its just not ment to be.......

 

[wanabamummy]

Stacey,

i am so sorry for your loss. and sorry its taking a while to get a bfp again.

we need to stay postive. i lost my bean in nov'09 and my bezzie fell at the same time so she is now sporting a lovely little bump (cos she is just too god dam slim) and i have nothing.

yes some ladies fall really quickly and some others dont either. but it will happen again it really will.

i was driving home today and was thinking that i still cant belive its gone. and why me?
We need PMA to get us through the day, and everyday.

Still need the NMA's sometimes but more PMA's

to think that 'its not meant to be' just makes my whole world cave it.

IT IS MEANT TO BE, just maybe will take a little while.

 

[puppymom32]

I feel this way all the time but I keep telling myself that my time will come and it has to happen. I really honestly never would have thought it would have taken this long at all but slowly but surely we are find out what is wrong and fixing it piece by piece I just have to try and be patient and have faith that it will all work out.
Big hugs and best of luck to you. Hope you get that BFP real soon.

 

[Ten]

I saw a great quote today - "You may feel like things are impossible, but impossible is just the stage that happens before anything that ever is, was, or will be."

It was in my horroscope, so I like it extra for that - but I think it applies to all who TTCAL.

 

[puppymom32]

Thats lovely Ten what an awesome horroscope.

 

[MMH]

I feel the same way...I have a 2 year old daughter right now
and my husband and I feel like we are ready for another one
So I got pregnant right away and at 7 weeks I thought I was spotting but really it was a miscarriage. I didn't know at that time, I just thought that my period came late... a couple days after really bad cramps i felt a lot of pressure and went to use the bathroom. The sac came out and my whole body was shaking and I didn't know what to do or think.
We waited for a month and tried again, I KNOW that I was pregnant, I had to use the bathroom alot and craving... then I started having brown discharge, I took a pregnancy test but it was negative (the cheap $4 ones)... a couple days later after really bad cramps i saw a little tissue... I knew then that I had another miscarriage prob. at 3 weeks...
I called my Dr. the next day and the nurse told me It wasn't a miscarriage and that for me to just wait it out, even if it was a miscarriage for me to just wait to see if the blood flow gets heavier if so then call them. And that's it! She didn't believe me that i had a miscarriage because I told her the HPT was negative. I KNOW was.
I am very scared that something is wrong with me, and maybe I can't have kids anymore. I didn't go to the Dr.'s my first miscarriage so maybe my uterus has a scar that i dont know about. I am so sad and I'm scared to TTC again!!! It doesn't make me feel any good that my Dr. doesn't even seem to care that I had a miscarriage.

 

[Smiler79]

I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage at about 6 weeks at end of October. We were lucky that it only took us three months to conceive and it has only been 3 months since but it seems like a life time. Especally when every one else around me seems to be getting pregnant wothout any problems. I dont wish a miscarriage on anyone, I just wish I could heave been like them.

I have a daughter who is 10 and a half but I was only 18 when i fell pregnant woth her and her dad (who as already my ex when I found out) was a nasty piece of work. I fell pregnant almost straight away woth her but because I knew I would not cope I put her up for adoption. I dont regret my decision and due to having lette r contact onc e a year i know she is ok and happy.

It just makes it hard as when I was not ready it happened just like that bit now I am ready and desparate to be a proper mum it does not seem to be happening.

If one more person tells me the miscarraige was obviously meant to be I think I will scream!!!!

Here's hoping we all get our sticky beans soon.

 

[FBbaby]

God I know what you mean about the 'it wasn't meant to be'... Ironically, the one close friend who said these words when it happened to me is the one who told me the best reassuring words recently. When she told me that it wasn't meant to be after my m.c last May, i wanted to scream at her, but kept it inside because I knew she didn't mean to say the wrong things, she is a very good friend, but it still enraged me inside, but Monday, after having not spoken for a couple of months, just because time flies, I was telling her that I had a FS appointment next week and her response was 'what, why are you seeing a specialist, you've only been trying 9 months since the m/c, that's nothing', and for the first time in months, I thought 'yeah, she is right, 9 months feels like ages, but from a medical point of view, it is nothing that indicates a definite problem'. I'm glad I am seeing him as I am now 39 and I don't want to wait if there is a problem, but her words really put things into perspective that I shouldn't believe it will never happen because it hasn't yet.

 

[Ten]

We waited for a month and tried again, I KNOW that I was pregnant, I had to use the bathroom alot and craving... then I started having brown discharge, I took a pregnancy test but it was negative (the cheap $4 ones)... a couple days later after really bad cramps i saw a little tissue... I knew then that I had another miscarriage prob. at 3 weeks...
I called my Dr. the next day and the nurse told me It wasn't a miscarriage and that for me to just wait it out, even if it was a miscarriage for me to just wait to see if the blood flow gets heavier if so then call them. And that's it! She didn't believe me that i had a miscarriage because I told her the HPT was negative. I KNOW was.
I am very scared that something is wrong with me, and maybe I can't have kids anymore. I didn't go to the Dr.'s my first miscarriage so maybe my uterus has a scar that i dont know about. I am so sad and I'm scared to TTC again!!! It doesn't make me feel any good that my Dr. doesn't even seem to care that I had a miscarriage.

I had something similar last month... never did get a BFP but I know I was pregnant. It was a weird month, though, and I knew that little one wasn't going to stick around. I hope to see him again someday (had a dream it was a boy), but I think that was just his way of saying a temporary hello.

I'd say get a different doctor - sounds like yours has crap for bedside manner. If your doc can't take you seriously, it's hard to trust that you're getting good advice.

 

[Lolly W]

It took us a whole year to conceive again after our miscarriage in December 2008. I seriously thought it was never going to happen again. Unfortunately I did have another miscarriage BUT I want it more than ever now and will never ever give up. Chin up x