Oh, ok, ICSI is basically an IVF. I wondered what that was. Haha
We do IVF's here and for the most part they're about the same cost unless insurance covers it. You'd imagine my surprise when we found out that even an IUI was covered in full for 6 trys and so is an IVF. Never used to be covered. Not sure what happened, but I won't complain for now.
Janice, thanks for explaining all that to me. So sorry to hear that there are so many out of costs expenses for you. I have a friend in Australia who ended up adopting through the foster system because of the expense. She's trying again, but she's getting a bit frustrated with it all.
Wendy, there are specific Dr.'s who do the IVF's here in my state. They all seem to say donor eggs are better. I'm almost wondering if thats just another expense THEY receive. I just saw a show on Discovery last night about women in their 70's and 60's who did IVF. One with her own eggs and one with donor eggs. BOTH carried children. It certainly made me wonder about this "industry" a bit.
Do you know why they couldn't get the cathetor up there? For the HSG, it was quite painful for me and caused a bit of blood which is to be expected. I have a tilted uterus. Mine seems to be tipped towards my bum. Whenever I have the pelvic sonograms, I end up feeling like she's going in the vagina and trying to get out my bum.
When I was pregnant with my son, I thought I had cancer, turns out that it was him WAY back there. Could you possibly have a tipped uterus that's making it hard for them to get there?? For mine, we found out they have to go in and UP then back.
NOTHING about me has ever been normal.
As for them not telling you that your chances "arent great". Their services don't seem like they will benefit you. Seems to me I'd rather have a Dr. that is hopeful and not a "debbie downer". As for your odds of miscarrying, they ALWAYS Say that to us. I was told that with my son because I was 35. Sadly I miscarried because of an accident where I lost my mucus plug...the nurse ignored my detection and had she listened I would have had an antibacterial suppository and a cerclage and he still would have been here. Instead I got Bacterial Vaginosis and it forced my son to birth before he was ready. So it ended up He was quite healthy for his gestation and it wasn't my fault...though now it puts me at HIGH RISK because of preterm birth.
I would think once you get pregnant you should have progesterone throughout your first trimester and if they see a need to cerclage, then do so...but I've seen MANY women over 40....even those with type II diabetes and pcos, give birth to healthy babies.
some of these Dr.'s drive me up the wall when they do this. I never know if they are trying to get you to pay for more costly procedures or if they honestly do think we're too old to have kids. In which case, those women at 60 and 70 years old on tv last night made an example. In fact, a middle eastern Dr. says older women make the best mothers because they're more patient, they have more time because they've experience life and are ready to share it with children.
I was filled with hope and a bit more understanding I think of this process.
Well definately keep us posted. I'll be interested.
Thank you ladies for the conversation. I've learned alot from you both!