can't believe my friends :(

[JessicaM123]

My friends have been so supportive over the last few months, like amazing, ive been so happy with how they have treated me.

However the last 3 weeks i feel so alone. I feel like im a burden on them. I drove them all down to birmingham the other weekend for a night out, and the next day they made me leave and wouldn't let me eat or nap in the afternoon. I took one of them aside and was like look, let me have some food and a sleep and im happy to go, but you need to put me first as its sort of my needs first, but no.

Ever since that night, this weekend they made plans with me to go shopping, (of course i was driving them) but then didnt reply when i text them saying i was ready and ignored my calls all saturday, then uploaded photos of all 6 of them round one girls house eating a roast and watching a film. I finally got through sunday night and was like why did you ignore my calls? and she was like "oh sorry i had too many people over".

i feel completley ignored. my gender scan is in 2 weeks and i can just see it now, thats when they will finally be intrested. i expected it from a couple of them but not all of them. Even my girls at uni are being distant, but thats expected i guess.

blehhhhh and to top it off i have the worst back pain ever.

i want to make some mummy friends

 

[lil lovey]

hope you feel better. You will always find friends like that. Just try to ignore it because running after them will put so much stress and worry on you. Focus on those friends who always stick with you

 

[Emma11511]

Where about do you live?

I hate to say it, but this seems to be a typical thing during pregnancy. I literally have like 2-3 friends now. But they're real friends who I actually want to talk to. My best friend makes the effort to come here when I can't be bothered to go out, understands I don't always have time to text back, and no matter how many times I say no, she always invites me out!

You'll learn who your true friends are

 

[AP]

Sending hugs, I know I'm no longer a teen but i have found once I had the LO's I made so many new friends while the others buggered off. My best friend, I met here on BabyandBump.

Life gets better You meet the mature mums and leave the rest behind, they dont sound very friendly.

 

[JessicaM123]

thanks girls, i do hope so. I just always thought they'd be the kind to stick around.

Emma i'm from oxford.

 

[ClairAye]

I have like no friends any more I can't wait to move away and make some new friends! You'll definitely learn who your true friends are

 

[Emma11511]

I'm not sure if they would do it where you are, but the children's centre by me does a 'bumps and babies' group of wednesday morning I think it is, so pregnant girls can go too. Maybe look at something like that? You could meet other mums/mums-to-be there?

 

[Emma11511]

Just searched for you, there's loads of centres in Oxford you could look at. See if you can fit one in

 

[jade_xo]

Sounds like they were using you hun.
You will find out how little people care when you are pregnant and need them most, and its not a bad thing..its better to know now than later and gives you the chance to surround your LO around positive caring people instead of introducing them to fake ones and finding out later on.

Hugs to you. It seems so hard, but seriously, when the baby comes NOTHING else will matter and you wont care about those friends!
Dont let them jump back into your life when they want you and they feel like it!
Here if you need to talk xxxxx

 

[jade_xo]

And I'm not a teen either but I worked out for myself what friends really are like.
I've had friends I thought who would always be there like yours too but they arent.

 

[KatieMichhele]

unfortunatly this is what has happened to most of the prople i know who have had babies and myself, they just dont bother. It's not nice but meeting other mums deffinatly helps as they tend to be in the same situation. If you want to chat you can message me ? x

 

[Mummy1995]

Big hugs, unfortunately a lot of us girls have this happen to us! I didnt have it in pregnancy I think it was because I was at school all the time but since having my girl Ive found it's me who's having to make most the effort.. :/ Look for surestart centres near you, they have young parents groups x

 

[karaclarke93]

I experienced similar things with my friends and even though still I would love to have friends with children now my daughter is here she's all that really matters and you won't care as much if your being invited places as you'll have your child, and soon enough you'll make friends who have children who will understand what your going through xxx

 

[diamond0405]

Then those arent your real friends then. when you go in for you gender scan i wouldnt invite them because they seem to fake. and only want to be there for you when it benefits them. im really sorry i know how it feels to be treated like that, not with pregnancy but with friends in general. keep your head up and kno you are not alone and that you have people that care about you. and you dont need friends like that. they ovi just use you..
you derserve better congrats on the baby

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

unfortunately it happens alot. Finding out you are pregnant, will, at some point show who are real friends. I have to say i only have about 2 or 3 friends without kids i still see regularly (or when not at uni). The rest havr children of their own.

 

[msp_teen]

I'm sorry about this Hun, I know how you feel! I felt the same way when I pregnant with my son in 2009, none of my friends really understood so I was alone a lot, but thankfully I had one best friend who was there through it all and my fiancé! Sometimes it's best to not have those people around because try just don't understand what you are going through! Try and keep yourself around other young mothers, I've since moved from my high school town..... Quite far actually and I have a couple friends, they're my age and they have children as well. We have much more in common and it's easier to keep our children occupied! I hope I helped you in someway!

 

[kerryann24]

i no how u feel hun i was fifteen when i got pregnant my friends soon stopped bothering with me , it used to really upset me but as soon as my lil girl came she was all that matterd , im now 25 and my daughter is 9 i wouldnt change it for the world i made new friends by going to a young mums group so everything was perfect , keep ur chin up hun there not real friend if there going to treat u like that xx

 

[Chezzz]

I only really have mummy friends now..
My best friend is quite distant cos she moved out of town. and I never have petrol money to drive to her new place, and she doesnt have much money for petrol either :/

other than that.. i only see my friends who have babies, but theyre deffo the ones that understand that your tired/hungry.. too uncomfy to do anything.. etc

I havent really lost anyone since i became pregnant but some people i dont see as much.. or they only want to know about the baby.. but tbh you'll realise they arent worth it! itll be okay hun xx

 

[RKW]

Hiya, not a teen but also from Oxford. I've been experiencing the same thing. One of my friends complained my hen do was shit because we didn't go out drinking both nights!! I went one night, stayed sober, spent the whole night worrying about people bumpin into baby belly, and then drove everyone home, but she thought that was shit!! Unbelievable, a pregnant hen do is going to be slightly different than a non pregnant one obviously!!
Where in Oxford are you? I know they have great young mums groups in Bicester and Abingdon, and you'll get to meet girls who are on the same page and understand the tiredness, and hunger in pregnancy xxx

 

[newmumamy]

I know exactly how you feel I had the same problem with my friends!! Big hugs Hun hope things sort themselves out xx