can't believe my friends :(

[CantWait_xx]

That's out of order how they've treated you, they don't seem like true friends, if I was you I'd wait until they need you for something and ignore them, show them how it feels. I've became very distant with alot of my 'friends' since becoming pregnant, like you most have only been interested at times such as gender scan and for me a bit more now because I'm two weeks from due date. If they're making you unhappy just don't bother with them, it's hard but you're bubba will be everything you need when he/she is here plus there's some great girls on here who are always there if you need a chat, and like others have said look for groups on your area hope you're okay feel free to message me if you want xx

 

[JessicaM123]

Thanks everyone, You're all so lovely

Definitley will look into mum groups and stuff, i work so its quite hard, and also, Im almost 19, will there be this sort of age there or younger??

RKW im from Botley, are the groups for pregnancy as well or just mums???

 

[AnnaBoo]

I have one best friend and she is literally all I need. If they are going to use you then you don't need them

 

[bumblebeexo]

Pregnancy seems to show you who your real friends are, better to find out now than later. See if there's any groups in your area, even older Mum's can be great friends!

 

[kbwebb]

this happened to me even before i was pregnant because i got a boyfriend, they wanted to see me everyday, which i had no problem with, but it was like jeez, i do want to spend some days with my boyfriend you know?
when i had my misscarriage they were all calling me and texting me saying oh im so sorry but they hadnt bothered when i was pregnant. now im pregnant again they dont even bother to give me an odd text, didnt even bother to text me or anything either when i got engaged. but atleast i know what theyre like now, and that i dont need them, ive got my family and my fiance, and my baby and thats all i need.

 

[heyyydayyy]

All I can say is that you really find out who your true friends are when you're pregnant. I went through the same thing. I felt like I had no one except for my boyfriend. All my girlfriends still went out and did their thing and they would invite me, but wouldn't consider the fact that I'm pregnant and I can't do everything the way I used to. They eventually moved on and I stopped hanging out with them altogether. It's a bummer and unfortunately too many of us preggo ladies end up losing their friends. However I've noticed that as I get close to my due date, my friends have started resurfacing and are suddenly interested in meeting my baby. Go figure

 

[jozylynn896]

Honestly I'm going through this, too. My best friends alexis and mario are the only ones who havent. Abandon me. They were my only close friends before so I mean that's fine. Its justi never see them. Like ever. things aren't the same beause before we'd party and drink. They understand I can't but theyre. That's what they do. I just fell like they don't understand I have someone in the world now who means more than they ever can. Not in a bad way, its just that I love my son
I'll be your friend

 

[x__amour]

Big hugs chick. You will definitely realize who your true friends are in pregnancy.

 

[YoungMummy112]

I can relate to you completely! I had a small group of 'close' friends about 4.. When all the attention was on me at school they wanted to know and completely supported me.. I was really ill after having my LO and one day two of my friends were due to come up but I told them not to bother with me being ill however my OH couldn't get hold of me in the evening as I was napping and told my two friends to come over. So they walked in hyper as anything with a bar of chocolate and a cheap energy drink between them.. Had extensions in longer then their shoulders.. They were talking really loud and being really childish.. So I prepaired a bottle of LO and one of my friends asked if they could feed LO I said yeah.. I came back into the room with them allowing my LO to eat their hair.. That annoyed me.. So I handed her the bottle and she started feeding while Screaming at my other friend to take a picture.. They then swapped over an my other friend had a picture while feeding him. They then passed him back. They was asking stupid questions all night like 'does he have a brain'. They literally gave me a headache. They eventually left.. Later that evening they uploaded pictures of them and Leo and wrote captions of how they'll support me no matter what. About two weeks later me an my OH met them at the cinema to see a film while my LO was with his gran.. They was fine.. I then didn't hear from them for about three weeks, they set a status on Facebook one day of how they was out and having so much fun when I asked if my invite got lost they replied with 'no but you've got a baby now' I got annoyed at this and we started to drift really bad they hardly spoke to me. My LO ended up at hospital one day and on this say they asked if I wanted to go shopping. I said no as o had to be with my LO they then had the cheek to tell me my LO was a 'burden' and the reason we arnt as close' I was fuming! One of the girls they know was b*thing about me and calling my son when he was first born.. After me not speaking to them for about 5 month thy finally struts speaking to me when I went back to school. But they was with the girl.. They then expected to me sit with her and be civil after she called my newborn son for nothing! A harmless little child! I screamed at the girl for what she did and my friends then drifted from me even more. They now spend more time with her them me, they never ask me to join them; they keep stating how they want to buy Leo a Christmas present but 'cant be bothered coming to see us'. I've deffienatly learnt that the people I thought I could trust and thought would be there for me arnt, I have no friends now but I don't care; my son comes first.

I hope your friends come around as I know how lonely it gets! Good luck

 

[Jodiie_xO]

Hii, my names Jodie, I'm from Birmingham & have a little boy who is 9 months, in general I have like no friends lol (been very serious) when I was pregnant they were so happy for me as I'd had a rubbish year after using my dad etc but now my one friend has moved to Germany with her husband but she comes to visit every so often, but the person I classed as my best friend who helped me through everything is no where to be seen, he has seen my son ONCE in 9 months, I haven't even spoke to him in like 3 months, I moved on as I couldn't be bothered with the hassle, so its just me, my little boy & my partners.
I'm looking to make some mommy friends aswell lol
xx

 

[justhoping]

this happens even when your much older...alot of my own friends who do not have kids and do not understand back away...and they back away because they dont understand or know how to react and act with the situation..(its not you) it is them and will happen at all ages..

hang in there...you will see who pulls through this with you and you will also get some new mommy friends as time goes by

good luck hun....and try and cheer up...is there anything you like to do that cheers you up....go spoil yourself a bit, even if its something simple like getting your nails done...

it helps tone to just get out of the house x

 

[megz143x]

Ahh Hun, its just friends in general im affraid.. i cant really say ive got one true friend.. ive associates and friends i see every now and then but no one to really speak to.. and rely on.. but its ok.. ive got my family.. your be ok... you will find new friends! p.s im from oxford too..

 

[megz143x]

Hey jessica, for some reason it wont let me reply to you? im from headington..

 

[justhoping]

this happens even when your much older...alot of my own friends who do not have kids and do not understand back away...and they back away because they dont understand or know how to react and act with the situation..(its not you) it is them and will happen at all ages..

hang in there...you will see who pulls through this with you and you will also get some new mommy friends as time goes by

good luck hun....and try and cheer up...is there anything you like to do that cheers you up....go spoil yourself a bit, even if its something simple like getting your nails done...

it helps tone to just get out of the house x

meant much older too

 

[babyfish2012]

I'm from Afton, No one knows i'm preggo yet (because i haven't tested yet or gotten checked out) but i expect its not going to be good or easy. I moved to NY in June 2012 and don't have any friends of my own any ways, i believe i'll still have a couple good ones that will be interested the entire time. But my days are already lonely, but i'm going to be in Binghamton on Tuesday possible if any one wants to hang out message me @ [email protected] and we can make a play date lol

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Sadly this is a common thing, not sure why people drift away when you're pregnant.. maybe because they feel you'll have nothing in common and they can no longer relate/just aren't interested in babies etc. yet. Still, it's completely unfair how your friends have treated you.

Definitely try out some bump and baby groups Where I live there is a 'young mums under 21' group so it's really nice to meet other girls in my situation but even other groups are good too, I met one really nice mum who has become a good friend who comes over with her LO every now and then who is in her 30's, sometimes age differences don't matter because you're leading similar lifestyles. xx