Cant help but feel bad ):

[Laura--x]

Well as most of you know i was over the moon with the way my parents took the news.

At first, we decided not to tell any of the family till the 12 week mark, but as we talked and stuff, we felt close family (auntys,nans ect ) would be upset to know we had kept it from them, so we have now told my moms mom and dad, the 3 of my auntys who i actually see, and my one uncle, they are all really happy, my nan is over the moon and has already gone out to by me some little babygrows !

However, my dads been really quiet since the news, and has cried everyday. We spoke yesterday and he just said he was scared for me, but i cant help but feel bad. me and my mum yesterday were on the net looking at baby names and whatnot, and he just didnt say anything and kept quiet, and hes been very quiet since monday too.

Im starting to get excited about the pregnancy now that everyone knows i feel i can be open now, but i just feel bad and get upset when i seemy dad like that

i know its natural and i cant expect him to be happy, but i just hate myself for making him feel like s**t basically, my dad never cries and to see him cry day in day out for the past week is killing me

just needed to get that out sorry xo

 

[Sponge]

aw. well im sure hes just shocked, tbh, and of course, scared for you like he said. he'll probably come to terms with it a little better sooner or later especially when he realises that you have a lot of support behind you. tell him that you really really appreciate that, and that if you have any troubles you wont suffer alone because you know they're all there for you.

 

[princess_x0]

Well as most of you know i was over the moon with the way my parents took the news.

At first, we decided not to tell any of the family till the 12 week mark, but as we talked and stuff, we felt close family (auntys,nans ect ) would be upset to know we had kept it from them, so we have now told my moms mom and dad, the 3 of my auntys who i actually see, and my one uncle, they are all really happy, my nan is over the moon and has already gone out to by me some little babygrows !

However, my dads been really quiet since the news, and has cried everyday. We spoke yesterday and he just said he was scared for me, but i cant help but feel bad. me and my mum yesterday were on the net looking at baby names and whatnot, and he just didnt say anything and kept quiet, and hes been very quiet since monday too.

Im starting to get excited about the pregnancy now that everyone knows i feel i can be open now, but i just feel bad and get upset when i seemy dad like that

i know its natural and i cant expect him to be happy, but i just hate myself for making him feel like s**t basically, my dad never cries and to see him cry day in day out for the past week is killing me

just needed to get that out sorry xo

Hey hun.
Aw I'm sorry to hear that, but your his little girl. All dad's are protective over their girls eh?
I'm sure he will get better, and help you in every way he can. He's just in shock atm, it may take a while for him to come round but he sees his little girl isn't so little anymore he will be dead proud of you for being so strong and mature. And once he sees that bubas little face he will be so happy and doting I bet
good luck huni xxx

 

[Angelface]

a lady i work with, her daughter fell pregnant at a very young age, when we would talk about it with her, she would be like "its her life im having nothing to do wih her or the LO"

anyway after alysia was born, she absolutly fell in love with her and now, every time shes not at work, shes with the baby,always buying her bits at lunch and always bringing her into wrk, shes the proudest nan, ive ever seen, (untill i have mine then my mum will take over ) but maybe he just needs time to get his head around the idea, grandads love grankids, hes probably just worried cus hes gunna gunne be a grandad.

i hope it all works out, buy him one of those decorate ur self mugs and paint "grandad to be" all over it that shud cheer him up lol

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Awww hun I'm sure he's just worried about you as he says. Hopefully it'll start to sink in more soon and it won't be so much of a shock. I'm sure once he gets his head around the idea then things will start looking up xx

 

[xxnicole033xx]

hes just scared right now trust me when he sees that little bundle of joy hes gonna be the happiest grandfather!

 

[Elli21]

Your his little baby girl hun, and hes feeling things for you and right now crying is his way of letting those feelings out.
Go give him a huge cuddle, tell him you love him...thats what sorts out anything between me and my dad!

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

my dad was the same he was over the moon but stayed quiet and kept saying he was scared for me...
unforchantly u no my history and it was my dad who took it the hardest, he got so upset.
a dad will worry so much because your his little girl. im my dads youngest and hes so protective over me.
just sit alone with him n have a chat with him.

 

[tasha41]

I felt really bad about hurting my dad too. He's an alcoholic and I have not seen him without a drink in his hand since he found out, and the night I came home from work and my mom had told him what was up and he made me come talk to him, he actually filled a pint glass up half way with rum! :O

Butttt.. my dad's getting better about it. He really pushed me to get an abortion, but I stuck to my guns, and he's accepting it now. I'm sure he's pissed he has to tell his parents and sisters about it but he told me a lot of people have been in this situation and not to feel embarassed or bad about myself ever.

People just have different ways of dealing with things I guess, you just have to give them their time.. it's a big shock, and a lot of stress, so just give it time. Don't avoid your dad (even though it's so hard not to want to) because that just makes it worse!