Can't shake this feeling

[Trying4first1]

Hi Ladies
I have an overwhelming feeling that I am also going to loose this pregnancy.
This is my 4th pregnancy and I have had 3 consecutive losses. I am 7+2 today. I haven't had very strong symptoms. The odd mild bit of nausea. Felt quite poorly yesterday morning with nausea but it as all gone again and my breasts feel less tender and I am not feeling tired like normal. This happened the last time I had a MMC back in January.
I have another scan on Monday and I'm not feeling hopeful right now. I just feel that something isn't right.
Does anyone else feel this way?
I am not being negative I am just being very honest with myself.
My pregnancies never make it past 7 weeks and it around now that my symptoms fade. I hope I am wrong I really do.
Can symptoms really come and go?

 

[klabro]

I've never been in your exact situation but I would just like to reassure you that symptoms really can come and go and I have experienced it in every pregnancy. I don't get super strong symptoms to start with, but there are always stretches of days where I will feel completely fine. Hang in there, pregnancy after a loss is hard, but just try to keep yourself busy as much as you can until that next scan.

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you klabro
The problem is I have no idea what is normal for me so it's always a guessing game.
I think I will just have to keep myself busy between now and next week. I have started to not think about being pregnant at all and just carry on as normal.
Hope all is going well with you

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Symptoms can come and go, saying prayers that this baby is your rainbow baby that will allow you to finally feel joy

With my mc in August it's strange to say that my symptoms were stronger than they were with DD and this pregnancy. So it truly can vary!

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you so much Mrs Dragonfly.
I know there can be some variation but they seem to be slowly fading.
I had awful diarrhoea last night in the early hours. I often get a bad tummy before things go wrong so not feeling too great anymore.
Symptoms are not anything to go by I guess as like you say you can have strong symptoms and still miscarry.

I literally need to wait this week out. I havnt said anything to DH as he has such high hopes as we would have been due to tell our families over Christmas.
Really hope this year doesn't end as bad as it started. Praying for a miracle

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

I'm so sorry this year has been so rough, sening so many sticky thoughts and prayers that the year is going to end greatly.

It's so hard waiting, will your doctor be doing a scan soon? Tummy things could be anything, I had serious daily diarrhea (tmi!) the first two weeks after finding out - that I've never had before with pregnancy.

Don't feel you need to keep DH in the dark. If he's a great support maybe it would be good for him to know to help you get through this awful waiting.

All the best xx

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you Mrs Dragonfly. I really hope all the sadness comes to an end soon. To be honest the last 2.5 years have been bad since we started TTC. Really hoping things look up for us as it is about time 😊

We are having another scan at 8+2 on Monday. We had one at 6+2 and little one had a heartbeat. Was measuring on the smaller side but was within range for dates.
I am hoping it was just a tummy bug as I seem to be feleing ok now. I have been off work and am getting plenty of rest and drinking lots of fluids.

I try not to speak to DH too much as I think my anxiety drives him mad. For now I am distracting myself with the Xmas shopping. Seems to be working so far

Thank you so much for your advice xx

 

[mrs unicorn]

trying, I'm sorry to hear you're struggling, especially after that lovely scan you had the other week There's not much I can say that the other ladies haven't said. Counting down the days to each scan is awful, but the best thing you can do is to keep yourself busy and distracted, then Monday will hopefully come round quickly. I know we all have different milestones, but I remember feeling a touch more confident (even happy and excited!) once we had the 8 week scan. I'm hoping so much that you will get that too next week. xxx

 

[Trying4first1]

Thanks Mrs U!
I am trying to keep myself distracted especially as the nausea has gone again and my breasts are no longer very sore.
I said to DH that there is no point in worrying as it won't change the outcome. If the worst happens I have got months and months of being miserable again so I may as well enjoy not having that dark cloud over me while I can.
Hoping for a nice surprise however. Thankfully not long now to wait. We have never got past 8 weeks before so would be a big step for us if we do. Then can start feeling more positive xx

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Monday is nearly here! I hope you update us on how the scan goes, you've been heavy on my mind. Praying this is your rainbow baby.

 

[Trying4first1]

Thank you so much Mrs Dragonfly I will update you.
So glad it's only tomorrow now. Luckily I have had a busy weekend so havn't had much time to think about it.

 

[Pitbullmom29]

This is our first but I understand losing symptoms. I find I am not super nauseous that it comes and goes and then I constantly grab my boobs to make sure they still hurt. My doctor did tell me that symptoms do come and go and to not be alarmed.

 

[Trying4first1]

Thanks pitbullmom
I have read that they come and go and I'm trying to hold onto that.
I am on Day 2 now with no sore breasts which has set alarm bells going and nausea has really subsided.
Normally symptoms going is a bad thing for me and is a sign that baby has stopped growing. Especially as it always happens around now as mine never grow past 7 weeks.
I am expecting the worst tomorrow but hoping for the best.

 

[Pitbullmom29]

Hopefully it's nothing! And at least you get your scan tomorrow! I go for my scan on Thursday and I'm hoping that there's a heartbeat. I'm 7w5d.

 

[Trying4first1]

My intuition was right.
Out 4th miscarriage was confirmed this morning. Baby died just after our last scan.
Devastated.
Thank you for all your support ladies and good luck

 

[Pitbullmom29]

so sorry for your loss!

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

I'm so sorry for your loss