Can't shake this feeling

[mentormel]

I am 15 weeks 1 day pregnant and I cannot shake this feeling that my baby isn't growing. I had a MMC in Feb. at 6 1/2 weeks. I had a ultrasound at 10 weeks and all was good. I saw the doctor last week for my 14 week check and he said all was fine. I have an at home doppler and I listen to the heart beat every day. But it doesn't offer much reassurance anymore because I can't get this thought out of my head. What do you think the likelihood is of hearing the heart beat and the baby not growing. My stomach doesn't look much different than 12 weeks and I haven't felt any uterus pulling/stretching since 10 weeks. I've tried to find my uterus, but can't. I cry almost every day because I'm so scared of losing this baby too. I don't see the doctor again until 18 weeks and no ultrasound until 20 weeks. I don't know what to do. I'm already of meds for anxiety and see a counselor.

 

[mislaww]

mentormel,

Firstly, Sorry you're so stressed! Try to relax if you can.

The chances of something going wrong at this point are very small! Once you've seen a healthy heartbeat at 10 weeks, chances of mc go way down to .2%. At this point, the chances of congenital defects like genetic abnormalities are extremely small - it has all its organs and is just working on growing nice and fat!

Compare that to chances of mc at 6 1/2 weeks, when you lost your little angel, of around 15-25%. A mc that early is almost certainly a genetic abnormality that prevented it from growing, and nothing wrong with you. Nothing about that sad mc suggests you'll have another one, especially now that you're this far along.

If your doctor checked your uterus at your last appointment, I would trust that for sure! It really doesn't matter if you can't find your uterus - that's just an experience/knowledge thing.

From my understanding, if LO stops growing, it's probably because it's passed away. Its heart won't continue for long if it doesn't grow. That happens more early in pregnancy - not this late.

Really, as much as I understand why you're so afraid (been there!), there's really no reason to believe that baby's not doing just fine. You're jumping to a conclusion that doesn't jive with the facts in your case - you're in 2nd tri, you've seen a healthy baby in an ultrasound, your doctor has checked you recently, you didn't mention any cramping or spotting, and you have a nice healthy heartbeat. There's every reason to believe that baby's happy and healthy! Congratulations!

Take good care of yourself and your healthy, adorable little baby!

 

[Vickieh1981]

I'm glad I am not the only one worrying about this.

I hear this baby every day on the doppler but keep thinking I don't really know how healthy it's looking in there.

I thought I was going mad xxx

 

[Lucia]

Try not to stress out too much about this. I agree that chances are your LO is just fine. If you're feeling really terrible, maybe you could call your doc and get in sooner for a scan?

 

[18singlemom2b]

i live with the same constant fear after having a miscarriage a year ago

like this pregnancy is too good to be true and could be taken away from me at any moment

you are already quite far along and seem to be doing great, stay positive, a healthy attitude helps make a healthy babe