can't stop crying - she goes to nursery next week:(

[flowers04]

i go back to work next week and il be putting my lo in for 2 days at nursery and 2 days with family

she has had two settling in sessions for a few hours each time but will have two full days next week

she kept crying when i left her - she kept gasping when i picked her up so i knew she had been crying loads

im so upset and hate it - i really can't stop crying and am really dreading it

i don't have to put her in nursey but i want her to have the interaction but now i already feel like chaing my mind - help

i've read posts that it keeps getting better - is there anything i can do to make it easier for both of us?

also was your lo's night sleep effected when they started nursey? we had a terrible night last night, she kept waking up crying - had to hold her most of the night

thanks

 

[Buffy71]

H was exactly the same. The second time I picked her up she was doing that hick hick thing they do. Deep sighs. The lot.

She does two days at nursery and one with mil, I've just done my second week back at work and she is fine already. After the third settling in session when I picked her up she was fine (although started crying when she saw me) and cried the first day hubby dropped her in - since then she's been fine and when I pick her up she's not desperate to leave and seems happy enough.

Please believe me when I say it's really not as bad actually returning to work and leaving them as it is thinking about it beforehand. The time at work flies now as I'm trying to fit everything in I used to do in just over half of the time, and truth be told it's quite nice to be back in an environment where I know what I'm doing! motherhood is a bit guesswork lol.

H and I have lots of fun and cuddles on my days off, and it's really good for her.

Don't know if it's the same for your lo but for H I think it was so much noisier at nursery than she had been used to as she normally loves other kids.

Anyway - she loves it now, and your lo will too. I think it's good for them to develop a good relationship with grandparents too.

Anyway - good luck poppet. You and lo will be just fine!

xxx

 

[redpoppy]

You poor thing. I'm sure she'll be fine soon. I have to find a new career pretty soon but every time I hear about mums and their nursery woes I get really upset. But most babies do enjoy it after a while!

Damn feminism.


(P.S. this is coming from a feminist but I'm just confused as to what the majority of us have won other than the right to vote - which is a good one, but to work twice as hard for less pay and lower career prospects and the lack of choice about working or staying at home.)

 

[flowers04]

thank u Buffy71 - that has made me feel better - im trying to stay positive

Redpoppy - thanks - i agree we work for a lot less - i wish i didn't have to work at all, that would be a dream

 

[Buffy71]

We will be thinking of you. You'll do great!! Xxx

too right Redpoppy! Whose bloody idea was it to go burning bras in the first place (and what were they thinking! Lol. The right to vote and boobs round your knees.... Great....

 

[pink.crazy]

It's awful initially .. but my LO has been going to nursery since he was 4.5 months old and honestly it's been amazing for him, he soon grew out of separation anxiety and has LOADS of friends xx